Why is it that a man has betrayed his married woman and found a new lover outside, but he is unwilling to leave his wife?
When a man cheats, but he is unwilling to divorce his wife and be with a woman outside, such a situation abounds in real life and is already a very common phenomenon.
What is the reason for this?
His behavior has already shown that he doesn't love his wife, because if he still loves, it is impossible to cheat and do things that hurt her. He had already decided the moment he cheated that he was going to betray his family.
But let him divorce and be with people outside, he was unwilling, not only was he unwilling, but some would beg his wife not to divorce, and even willing to give her most of his property in order to keep his wife.
Why is that? Because he loves his wife very much? If he thinks so, he will be disappointed! There are only two reasons why a man betrays his wife but does not want to divorce, and he must not be deceived by his performance.
One, his wife is still useful to him
The truth is so heart-wrenching, a man cheats but is unwilling to divorce, it can be said that 99% is because his wife is still useful to him.
For many men, what they hope for is that the colorful flags flutter outside and the red flags at home do not fall. They are looking for women outside, not for divorce, they want a wife and a lover to be owned by him at the same time.
The wife is just a very useful tool, she can take good care of the children, can do laundry and cook, and can clean up the family well. If his parents are sick, she can also help him take good care of them.
They just need their wives to be able to do this, that's enough.
But if he gets divorced, he will lose his wife, who will take care of the children, who will take care of his parents, who will take care of so many things in the family? He will definitely not be able to handle it alone. Then he won't have the time and energy to fall in love.
If you don't get divorced, it's because it's still useful for your wife to keep it, and at least you can take care of your life. Let him have no worries, and the child does not have to experience the pain of a broken family.
Two, the value of the woman outside is not so high
There is only one situation in which a man is willing to divorce and be with the mistress, and that is the value that the mistress can bring to him is far greater than the value that his wife brings.
It may be that the junior has a good family background and can help him in his career and take his career to the next level.
It may be that the junior has money and can take him to a better life and help him pay off his debts.
It may also be that the junior has the ability to help him in his career, help him do better in his career, or accompany him to start a business, and so on.
In short, it is that junior who can bring him a lot of benefits, which his wife does not have, so he is willing to bear the pain of his wife's separation, because he can get a better one if he leaves his wife.
If he is unwilling to divorce, it means that he is not very satisfied with Xiaosan, the other party can't bring him any benefits, he is with her just for a moment of passion and happiness, that's all.
Let him divorce and marry three, that is impossible, for him, this is a huge loss, and he will not bear this loss.
The above are the two main reasons why a man betrays his wife but is unwilling to divorce.
Many people think that he still loves his wife, so he is reluctant to divorce. Wake up, the moment he decided to mess with Xiao San, he didn't love it.
From wanting to cheat to deciding to cheat, he had time to think about whether to do it, and if he chose to do it, it means that he gave up on his wife.
He doesn't get divorced, just because his wife is still useful to him, and he needs his wife to take care of the family for him, so that he can work hard outside without worries, and fool around.
There is also the fact that Xiao San did not bring him great benefits, but if Xiao San can give him great benefits, he will divorce no matter what, so he will not drag it out.
So, stop having illusions about your cheating husband and stop thinking that he is still in love. Don't think he'll change, as long as he doesn't pay the price, the next time he cheats, it will happen again soon.
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Illustration of the article|Stills from "Lost in Translation".