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The success or failure of a family has long been reflected in the little things in daily life.
Those families who seem to be unfavored by fate actually have too many problems that limit their own development, and if they cannot be actively corrected, they are destined to stop in the future, and even drag down their children.
In fact, the biggest misfortune in a family is not poverty, not domestic violence, but the matter of money.
Such a shallow perception is enough to ruin the hard work of the whole family, and I hope none of us will do so.
01: Worrying about money will break the hearts of your family
In a family, there should be no money alone, but also love and responsibility.
But many times, it is precisely money that truly embodies love.
As the saying goes: where the money is, where the love is.
Always picking and searching for money, and not willing to spend a penny more to bring happiness to the family, it will break the hearts of the family and tear the whole family apart.
I once saw a story on a social platform.
After a mother paid her salary, she spent 200 yuan to buy a durian she liked, but this incident was criticized by her husband.
He accused his wife of spending money indiscriminately and told about the poverty in the family, but his wife thought that he had bought it with his own salary, and that 200 yuan could be exchanged for a day's happiness, and no one else could be allowed to put his beak at all.
Seeing this scene, the husband still did not give up, and he kept appealing about money.
Soon, the wife became more and more disappointed from the original joy, and she was not in the mood to taste durian again, and from then on, this scene would be deeply rooted in her heart, telling her how suffocating the family was.
Different families have different ways of living, and poor families can live a prosperous life, the key is to know how to please each other and understand each other.
It is rare generosity to spend money for the family once in a while, which makes us childlike, arouses love for each other, and makes each other more united, which is the most worthwhile investment.
Those who don't pull out a dime seem to keep the money, but in fact they lose the most important thing, that is, family affection.
When the family is torn apart, they will find that the absence of love is the greatest sorrow in the world.
02: Worrying about money will reduce the structure of the family
There is such a scene in the TV series "Little Shede", where Mi Tao, a rural child, has excellent grades and takes the first place in school, but his parents don't have much savings, and they can't even apply for tutoring classes.
In order to allow Mi Tao to learn more knowledge and save money at the same time, her mother thought of a way, that is, to let Mi Tao go to her housekeeper's house, play with the children of that family, and at the same time absorb knowledge while others are being tutored with homework.
Mother thinks that this method is beneficial and harmless, but it deeply stings Mi Tao's self-esteem.
Every time he came home from school, he took his classmate's luxury car, returned to his classmate's spacious and bright home, and saw his mother busy in the kitchen, she unconsciously lowered her head.
The mother saves money, but destroys the most important thing for the child, which is self-esteem.
Although the TV series describes a happy ending, Mi Tao works hard because of this, but in the original novel, Mi Tao is too inferior and suffers from mental problems, so he can only drop out of school early, wasting a great future.
Mi Tao is the epitome of many children in real life, they don't complain about their parents' incompetence, because their parents are also doing their best, but they hate their parents' shallowness.
Forever arguing about money, doing anything to save money, and even stepping on dignity and backbone on the soles of your feet, will make your child's childhood full of shadows.
Saving money is indeed a beautiful quality, but everything is too much, don't ruin your child's future, vision and pattern because of saving money.
Occasionally buy things for the child to like, within the scope of learning resources, we may change not only the child's grades, but also his psychological quality.
Willing to invest in the long run, such families have a clear vision, and their future development will inevitably be good, and maybe they will soon be able to get rid of poverty and become rich.
Life is only a few decades, and saving money is not the only purpose.
Hopefully, we will be more comfortable with money.
Never worry about money, as this will ruin your original happiness and become a slave to money.
Even in poverty, you must know how to spend money to buy happiness, spend money to please your family, and spend money to invest in the next generation.
Every money we spend is contributing to our family, and I believe that in the near future, a better life will come to an abundance.
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