A middle-aged woman who is divorced and has a child saves a little money to buy a house in the urban-rural area.
On the day of the housewarming, my colleague Xiao Wang went to congratulate her, and as soon as she entered the door, she shouted loudly: "How do you think of running to this place where ghosts don't lay eggs to buy a house? It is so far away from the city, and the traffic is inconvenient." Besides, if you want to buy it, choose a good floor, or the top floor, it will be hot in summer, and it will freeze to death in winter!" and my colleague Xiao Li went to congratulate, and said with a smile as soon as he entered the door: "Congratulations, congratulations, you bought this house well." This place is nice and quiet, not like living in the city with a lot of traffic, quite noisy, the key is that you have convenient parking here!"
Just imagine, if this woman is very rich, how could she go to such a remote urban-rural junction alone with her children to buy a house?
An educator once said that good children are boastful. This is true for children, let alone adults. Of course, this "boast" is well-intentioned, principled, and has a bottom line. Maybe Xiao Wang is telling the truth and telling the truth, but he didn't grasp the timing and occasion of speaking. If other factors are excluded, it can only be said that Xiao Wang's emotional intelligence needs to be improved.
Man lives a spirit. Everyone likes to listen to good words, of course, good words, just like a person wants others to praise him even if he is ugly. This will strengthen his courage and confidence in life.
The joy of people's housewarming is auspicious. Is it so difficult to say a word of wishes? Just like when a friend sends you blessings during the New Year's holidays, is your heart warm? Although you know in your heart that it is impossible for "everything to go well," nor "to be happy every day," and even less if you live a long life, what will you feel in your heart if your friend really "tells the truth"? Empathy, there is no cave.
If you can't speak, don't talk about it, others won't think you're dumb, and you may think you're polite, urban, self-contained, and steady. But in daily life, often those who can't speak like to express themselves, and they keep talking everywhere, self-defeating and self-defeating, and they also arouse the disgust of others.
I am more in favor of "seeing what people say", but some people oppose it, saying that such people are hypocritical. But I don't think so, the reason is that ghosts can't understand what people say, and people can't understand people who talk nonsense. Speaking, in the final analysis, is to communicate and communicate, since you can't understand, how to communicate and communicate?
Speaking is an art, and it is quite important to say what is said on what occasion. From a philosophical point of view, people's words and deeds are governed by their thoughts. Speaking can also know people's hearts. Optimistic and cheerful people are full of sunshine in their hearts, and negative and vulgar people are full of darkness in their hearts. To sum up, speaking, not only reflects a person's state of mind, but also reflects a person's qualities.
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