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54-year-old Liu Ruoying, who came from the entertainment industry and experienced too many ups and downs, has healed generations of women with an elegant and calm attitude. She sang about our inner struggles with her singing voice, and told us with her life experience that a good marriage does not need to redeem each other, career and family can be both, and becoming a mother is not the end of life, but a new starting point.
Time can dilute everything, and only by reconciling with oneself is happiness. I hope that Rene Liu's story can inspire more women to live their own wonderful lives.
1. The infatuation and obsession of the green years
Liu Ruoying grew up in a military family, and after her parents divorced, she lived with her grandparents. A life of abundance but loneliness cultivated her desire for a warm family. The fortune teller said she would start a family at the age of 26, and she began to anxiously yearn for a genuine relationship.
After graduating from university in 1991, Liu Ruoying entered the entertainment industry and became an assistant to singer and actor Chen Sheng. With Chen Sheng's support, she quickly became famous. However, just when her career was rising, Chen Sheng gradually distanced herself from her. When the two reunited many years later, Liu Ruoying burst into tears, making people speculate that they may have had an unknown relationship.
In that era, Liu Ruoying, who was frustrated in love, became a "leftover girl" in the eyes of the public. For more than ten years of singleness, she poured out her attachment and waiting for love with her singing. The sorrow and sorrow revealed in the song have become the resonance of countless single women.
2. Understand yourself and reconcile with loneliness
At the age of 35, Liu Ruoying finally understood that love was not the whole of her life. She began to learn to be alone and enjoy "the beauty of being alone". She watched movies, ate, went shopping, sang, and found joy in these "new experiences of loneliness."
In 2010, at the "Take Off Your High Heels" tour, Rene Liu further clarified her attitude towards love - love is beautiful, but the most important thing for a woman is to learn to love herself, and she does not need to change or distort herself for love.
In these years of "emotional precipitation", Liu Ruoying finally has a clearer understanding of herself. She no longer has unrealistic illusions about love, and she has also learned to live with loneliness and even enjoy it. This laid the foundation for her happiness in the second half of her life.
3. Stable and happy married life
In 2011, Liu Ruoying married Zhong Xiaojiang, who was 10 years younger than her. Their prenuptial agreement is very different: the couple still maintain their own lifestyles, sleeping in separate rooms, and Rene Liu can choose whether to have children or not.
After marriage, the two fulfilled their promise. They each have their own space and distance. When you go home at night, one goes to the left and the other to the right, and the common area is only the dining room and kitchen in the middle.
Such a peculiar marriage may not last long in the eyes of outsiders, but the two lived peacefully for 12 years. Rene Liu will mention her husband at the concert, and Zhong Xiaojiang will also express her admiration for his wife on social platforms.
A stable and happy married life is not easy to come by. Rene Liu has proved with her own life practice that the secret to maintaining a relationship is mutual respect for everyone's independent space. Only when both people have an independent spiritual world can the relationship be truly long-lasting.
Fourth, pay equal attention to career and family
At the age of 44, Liu Ruoying gave birth to a son. After becoming a mother, she, like all mothers, will miss her children all the time.
But she didn't stop and only made family a part of her life. His work as a director and singer continues, and new books are in the works. She listens to the latest albums while cooking for her children and finds time to work when she travels with her son.
As she said at the concert, "I want to be able to pick up a bottle and a kitchen spatula while my eyes can look into the distance." Becoming a mother is not the end of her life, but a new beginning.
While holding up a piece of the sky, she is also loyal to her heart and chasing her career and dreams. This choice is a reference template for many working women.
5. Mature and introverted attitude towards life
has experienced too much, and Liu Ruoying has long been surprised by life. She does not get involved in the rights and wrongs of the entertainment industry, maintains a low-key and calm life, and focuses her time and energy on her family and career.
Along the way, she has been consistent - sincere, steady, and restrained. In her own words, all her strength comes from being an ordinary person, not a glamorous star.
This mature and introverted attitude towards life also infects her fans. In matters involving privacy, she can respond calmly and be supported by the public's understanding.
What the years have given her is the indifferent fame and fortune that has been precipitated, and who else is calm and free. This is also the state of life that many people yearn for.
Epilogue:
Rene Liu uses her 54 years of life practice to interpret what it means to be yourself.
She told us that a good marriage is based on mutual respect. Becoming a mother should not be a constraint, but a new starting point. Although love is beautiful, it is not the whole of life, and the independent career spirit and lifestyle are more valuable.
Netizens also praised Rene Liu's lifestyle. Some netizens said that Rene Liu proved with practical actions that a pluralistic family relationship model can also be sustained. Some netizens also said that this kind of relationship that is both interdependent and self-retaining is the love state that many women yearn for. Some netizens said that Rene Liu used her own story to warn women not to be easily limited by the traditional role framework.
Such a life is full of hardships, but Rene Liu uses grace and wisdom to face the imperfections of life. There is no absolute right or wrong in life, and she chooses to make herself calm and happy. This is also the fundamental reason why she can enter the hearts of the audience for a long time and become a spiritual confidant of women.
I believe that every independent, sincere and kind ordinary person deserves to be treated gently by the world.
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