In this materialistic era, many people are pursuing a higher quality of life and material conditions. Among them, there are also some children who only pay attention to pocket books. In the face of this kind of children who only value money and do not fulfill filial piety, how should we, as parents, look at and deal with it?
1. Extremely greedy and insatiable, which is an important sign of "unfilial piety".
For most parents, their children are the most important people in their lives. Unfortunately, the reality is that some children see their parents as "ATMs" that they can use, rather than as individuals who care about their feelings.
Such children are often extremely greedy and have no sense of proportion and bottom line. They will try their best to ask for their parents' money, and even threaten their parents by all means, just to satisfy their endless material desires. In their eyes, their parents are just bags of money that can be used at will, not people who can think and suffer.
For example, some children will constantly ask their parents for money to buy brand-name bags and imported sports cars for their own luxury life. Even if it is difficult for parents, they must not hesitate to empty their savings to meet them. What's more, in order to start their own business or pay off debts, they will force their parents to sell their houses and mortgage, and finally leave their parents homeless.
Such an extremely insatiable behavior has seriously exceeded the bottom line of normal interpersonal relationships. It indicates that such children have no filial piety at all, and will only endlessly exploit their parents, without caring about their feelings. Parents need to be vigilant and leave a way back for themselves in advance.
Second, not taking your parents seriously is an important red flag
One of the most basic filial pieties is to respect parents and treat them as individuals with independent thinking ability and feelings. However, some unfilial children do not have this awareness at all, but treat their parents like tools.
For example, some middle-aged people let their parents who are already in their twilight years serve as nannies or housekeepers for their children for a long time. My parents were busy from morning to night, but they couldn't even hear a word of thanks. Such children do not understand the physical strength and feelings of the elderly, and only treat them as free labor.
Others are even more disproportionately demanding that parents bear their own living expenses. Utilities, property fees, and even food and drink expenses are all borne by parents. The pensions accumulated over decades have become the object of their squandering.
This kind of behavior of not treating parents as human beings has seriously harmed the mental and physical health of the elders. Parents need to be aware that this is an important sign of unfilial piety. Leave a way back in advance to avoid being more seriously "squeezed" by such children.
3. The lack of basic concern indicates the danger of unfilial piety
Normal children will often contact their parents to care about their physical condition, daily life, etc. This is the least expression of filial piety. However, some unfilial children rarely take the initiative to contact them, and they do not take care of the lives of the elderly.
For example, if a parent is sick and hospitalized, they don't visit; When parents go out to travel, they don't ask for warmth; Parents need help, and they don't ask. The contact between such children and their parents is limited to when the parents give them money. This has made it clear that they are not considerate of the elderly.
What's even more exaggerated is that when their parents are sick, they not only ignore it, but also rush to find ways to obtain the inheritance rights. Such a ruthless behavior will only make the already fragile old man in his later years more desperate and painful.
The lack of basic concern foreshadows the danger of extreme unfilial piety. As parents, you need to be vigilant to avoid being further harmed by such children.
结语:血浓于水，亲情最可贵
As parents, we don't want to believe that our children will be unfilial. But in the face of such children who only pay attention to money and have no filial piety, it is also important to protect themselves. However, don't let that lead to a complete loss of affection and trust. Children's unfilial piety may also be due to environmental influences, as parents, we need to be rational and patient.
Blood is thicker than water, and the most precious thing between family members is family affection. Let us understand and care for each other and give this family relationship a chance to start anew. I believe in the power of family affection, which will surely influence children who are difficult to be filial and let them get back on the right path. Maybe give them a little more time and space to rebuild this home.
Parents need to protect themselves, but they should not lose hope. Believe in the power of family affection and love, and give each other a chance to mend their ways. This is the right way to build a harmonious family. Let's work together to add trust and warmth to the relationship between family members.