Relatives are supposed to care for each other and live in harmony. But in real life, it is often because of a slip of the tongue or a tough attitude that the relationship between each other breaks down, or even turns against each other. Actually, this can be avoided. When getting along with relatives and siblings, don't say these words that are easy to misunderstand:
First, "I know XXX better than you"
Many times, we think that we know a person or something much deeper than others. Such conceit often makes people look like no one is in sight. For example, saying things to siblings, such as "I know my parents better than you" and "I understand my child's personality better than you", can easily hit the other person and make him feel denied and humiliated.
In fact, everyone's position and perspective are different. We should not easily deny others, but learn to think from the perspective of others. When you get along with your loved ones, even if your judgment is more accurate, you can express it in a tactful way, rather than saying something like "I know better than you".
Second, "I've done more for you than you"
In family life, it is not uncommon for someone to complain about the inaction of others because they think they have to do more work than their siblings in caring for the elderly, educating children, etc. For example, "I have contributed a lot to the family, do you do half as much as I do?" and so on.
In fact, this way of comparing calculations is the most hurtful to feelings. We should be considerate of everyone's different circumstances, some people can pay more if they are in good conditions, and it is normal for some people to pay less if they are poor. The way to get along is to be sympathetic to each other, not to compare who does more and who does less.
Third, "Your child is not as good as mine"
As parents, we all want our children to be good and outstanding. However, some people will be willing to compete with their siblings in this regard, such as "My daughter was admitted to Qingbei, and your son can't even go to high school" and something like that.
In fact, every child has the characteristics of each child, and we should not hold others to our own standards. When getting along with siblings, you should not use your own children's excellence to attack the shortcomings of other people's children. This will only lead to a deepening of the estrangement between the two parties and the child will be hurt.
Fourth, "I make more money than you"
In real life, many people like to exaggerate their income and wealth to their relatives and friends. Some will even attack their brothers with their high income, such as "I have an income of 20W a month, and you deserve to be compared with me" Yunyun.
In fact, money is only a part of life, and does not represent the whole of a person. We should not judge a person by the level of money. When you are with your loved ones, don't attack others with your wealth, it will only make people think that you are ignorant.
Fifth, "I know how to educate children better than you"
Each family and individual has their own way of educating their children. However, some people like to think that their own educational methods are right and that others are wrong. For example, when you say to your siblings, "My education method makes children grow up well, and you will only spoil your children".
In fact, as parents, we all do our best to educate our children in our own way. Each education method has its advantages and disadvantages, and we should not make judgments, let alone attack other people's education methods. Respect each other and learn from each other's strengths, rather than denying each other.
The way people get along with each other requires mutual understanding, tolerance and consideration. When you are in the same room with your relatives or siblings, do not say anything that is contemptuous or offensive to others. Otherwise, it can easily lead to the breakdown of the relationship. If we can think from the perspective of others and automatically and spontaneously care for others, the road to getting along will become broad and smooth.
The rarest thing in the world is a confidant. To get along with our families, relatives, brothers and sisters, we must maintain a humble and kind heart, be more understanding, less careful, and warm everyone with love, so that the joy of family affection can continue!