The adult world is not so simple and straightforward. "Words like to say the opposite, and things like to do the opposite" Sometimes when interacting with people, we need to see through the surface and see the deeper meaning.
38 "unspoken rules of human nature", every sentence of human nature, every sentence is reasonable, come and learn it.
1. When you receive a message from someone else, don't rush to reply, you can wait for 1 minute, guess the general thing, and then reply after thinking about the answer;
2. Usually when others ask "are you there?", they generally have something to ask for, and the probability of borrowing money or helping is the greatest;
3. Others hand you the mobile phone, just read the current page quickly, don't swipe to view other content, and respect everyone's privacy;
4. When you go to someone else's house as a guest, it is best to say hello in advance and make an appointment before going, because a sudden visit will make the other party at a loss, and even disrupt the other party's original itinerary plan;
5. Go to the city where your relatives are to run errands, try to live in a hotel, don't live in a relative's house, now it's a small family life, maybe the house is not big, everyone feels embarrassed when you go;
6. If you go to someone else's house as a guest, if the other half of the other party rarely comes out or finds a reason to stay in the room, you are generally not welcome, and you leave quickly after finishing your errands;
7. If someone else doesn't call you for a wedding invitation, then don't go, don't ask afterwards, just do nothing happen.
8. Listen to affirmative sentences when you are obedient, and when others ask rhetorical questions such as "okay?" and "okay", most of them are unwilling to do so, and it is good to refuse directly after listening;
9. If a friend opens a store, be sure to go a few times, but don't go often, you have to buy something, and remember to pay for it;
10. Don't shout about red things, go to white things uninvited, after participating in white things, don't go to other people's homes for a short time, some people are taboo about this;
11. When you go to someone else's house for the first time, you must bring some gifts. The other person may say, "Just come, what kind of gifts do you bring?" but still think you are very polite.
12. Other people's children, no matter how bad they are, don't educate them, you can point them out slightly, but don't forcibly discipline others, every child is the treasure of their parents, they can only say it themselves, and they can't listen to others;
13. Don't speak ill of others behind your back and don't talk about people, because the person you confide in will tell that person with more fuel and vinegar;
14. Go on a business trip to a friend's local area, try to contact each other as little as possible, everyone is very busy, unless the other party knows that you are coming and takes the initiative to ask you;
15. When the husband comes home from a business trip, he must make a phone call to inform his wife in advance;
16. When chatting with colleagues of the opposite sex and talking about work, be sure to open the door;
17. When you go to someone else's house as a guest, someone else makes tea and pours water, no matter whether you are thirsty or not, you must take a sip, which is polite;
18. The leader drives you, if it is two people, sit in the co-pilot, don't sit in the back, it will make the leader feel like a driver;
19. When you sit in someone else's car, you must be light when you get out of the car and close the door, and you will be disgusted by the other party inexplicably;
20. After drinking at a party, don't send the opposite sex home;
21. Be cautious when giving money, general friends will follow the public, friends with good relations will give more, and the other party will remember to pay you back next time;
22. When someone asks you to eat, it's best not to bring your family to it, and it is a rule to make friends whether you bring guests or not, unless the other party specifies that you want to bring your family together;
23. For gatherings and dinners, participate in important activities, try to reserve time, and arrive 10-15 minutes in advance, which will not show that you are idle, but also that you attach great importance to it;
24. Ask others to do things, and it is best to find a middleman who is familiar with the other party when they meet for the first time, which has higher efficiency and success rate;
25. Find an acquaintance to do something, no matter whether it is successful or not, remember to express gratitude, the other party will be very happy and willing to help next time;
26. If you meet a dinner halfway, no matter how enthusiastic the other party is, don't go, just find a reason to leave, if he intended to call you, you would have shouted;
27. When changing dishes at the dinner table, remember to raise your eyes and glance, and if someone picks up the dishes, wait patiently. When others toast, remember to put down the chopsticks and stand up, which is a courtesy;
28. When you are old, don't interfere with the children's living habits and spending habits, just be a quiet and non-annoying elder;
29. Try not to call if you are looking for someone at night if you are not in a hurry, just send a message, if the other party does not reply, remember to ask again;
30. If someone has a conflict and wants to break up, quarrel and divorce, if it is not a blood family relationship, it is best not to persuade them to separate;
31. If you ask others to help bring things, you must give money first, you can give more, but you can't give less, return more and make up less, so that others are not embarrassed;
32. When you are almost in love, you get married as soon as possible, the longer you live together and the longer it drags on, the more difficult it is to get married, and the more you break up in the end;
33. If you are a woman, it is best not to smoke, drink, or get tattoos, even if you are good, you will be looked down upon;
34. If you are bored with someone, don't want to chat with them and are embarrassed to delete them, then try not to read them back, and the other party will be interested and not disturbed;
35. Don't show off your wealth if you have nothing to do, except for your parents, no one wants you to live better than yourself, and relatives and friends are no exception;
36. People who say they want to take you to make money, it's best to keep an eye on it, because they may want to make your money;
37. Don't be greedy for free things, free things may end up costing you a lot of money;
38. Don't rely too much on others, the most confident and attractive person will always be independent of his personality and economy.
Understanding these "unspoken rules of human nature" does not mean that we should guard against others, but that we must learn how to communicate with others more freely and happily.
Which one do you think makes the most sense?