"Mo Xue Zhuge Liang married a wife, and in the end he only got an ugly girl?" Have you ever heard such gossip and whispered in the corners of history? But the truth of history is often more exciting than rumors.
When we unravel this mystery, we will discover an unusual love story, a legend of talent and wisdom, courage and determination.
So, why did Zhuge Liang choose Huang Yueying? What kind of charm does this ugly girl have, which makes a generation of wise men fall in love with it?
Next, let's walk into this marriage story that has been misunderstood by the world for thousands of years.
"Don't be Kong Ming's choice of wife, just get an ugly girl. This saying was widely circulated during the Three Kingdoms period, according to the current words: "Don't learn from Zhuge Liang to find a wife, and finally find an ugly one." ”
This matter became a hot topic of discussion in people's leisure at that time. This is like our current buzzword, which everyone talks about and often jokes about.
Zhuge Liang, as everyone knows, is a super smart person, and his head is full of good ideas. Let's look at the conditions when we look for objects now, Zhuge Liang's conditions are also first-class and good now.
He is smart, his family has a background, his uncle is good friends with the officials of Jingzhou, and his brother-in-law is also the son of a large family.
With such conditions, if you want to find a beautiful wife, isn't it easy to catch?
But what about Zhuge Liang? He just didn't play his cards according to common sense, and found a woman that everyone said was ugly to be his wife. Why is that?
Zhuge Liang is an all-rounder, he is very good at politics, economics, and military. He has a high spirit, and he always wants to be as outstanding as Guan Zhong and Le Yi one day. In this way, you can see that Zhuge Liang is a very ambitious person.
If we understand Zhuge Liang's career outlook, we can guess his criteria for finding a partner. He certainly wouldn't ignore his career just because a girl was beautiful.
Therefore, if you want to win Zhuge Liang's heart, it is not enough to have good looks.
On the other hand, if there is a girl who is not good-looking, but can help Zhuge Liang a lot in his career, then he will definitely choose this girl.
Looking at it this way, you can understand why Zhuge Liang chose Huang Yueying, a girl who is not beautiful.
Although Huang Yueying is not good-looking, the family she was born in is very special.
Huang Yueying was born in an amazing family. Her father is a well-known number one person in the circle of scholars in Jingzhou, and his knowledge and reputation are at the forefront.
Her mother is a member of the Cai family in Jingxiang, and the Cai family is also a family with a head and a face in Jingzhou. Not to mention that her mother and Mrs. Liu are sisters, and they are also brother and sister with the general Cai Mao.
Huang Yueying has been the baby bump in the family since she was a child, and whoever marries her is equivalent to picking up a big bargain and being able to get involved with these powerful in-laws. For those who want to be promoted and make a fortune, marrying her is equivalent to stepping into the door of officialdom with half a foot.
After Zhuge Liang married Huang Yueying, these benefits were naturally indispensable to him. He often discussed the current situation with Huang Yueying, and used the Huang family's network to understand the political dynamics in Jingzhou. Once, Zhuge Liang said to Huang Yueying: "With you by my side, I feel like I have an extra pair of eyes, and I can see this chaotic situation more clearly." ”
At that time, Liu Biao's second son, Liu Cong, married a niece of the Cai family. Because of this relationship, the Cai family is all towards Liu Cong and does not like Liu Biao's eldest son Liu Qi. They even cursed Liu Qi for being unlucky behind their backs, and tried every means to let Liu Cong take over Liu Biao's class.
Liu Qi was deeply worried about this, he found Zhuge Liang and said eagerly: "Mr. Kong Ming, what should I do? The people of the Cai family are secretly supporting my brother, how can I stabilize my position?"
How smart Zhuge Liang is, he said to Liu Qi calmly: "Don't worry, son, I have a plan to solve your worries." You can ask your father to go to a foreign place to be a taishou and avoid the strife in Jingzhou for a while. When the time comes, it's never too late to come back. ”
Liu Qi listened to Zhuge Liang's words and did so without thinking about it. He pleaded with Liu Biao: "Father, I am willing to go to other places to be a taishou and protect the peace of Jingzhou." Later, he really went to Jiangxia to be a taishou.
But no one expected that not long after, Liu Bei also ran to Jiangxia to take refuge. Is this really just a coincidence?
This is actually just a ploy by Zhuge Liang from his own interests. What he thought was, as long as Liu Qi was taken away, wouldn't the territory of Jingzhou fall into the hands of the Cai family?
And he Zhuge Liang, as the son-in-law of the Cai family, and Liu Bei will definitely have a great future. Besides, let Liu Biao's two sons fight in the nest, won't Liu Bei have a chance to pick up a big bargain? Speaking of which, this strategy is really wonderful!
Things continue to develop, let's look at those outstanding talents in Shu, Jingzhou has always been related to Zhuge Liang. Here, Huang Yueying can play a big role. If it weren't for her, how would Zhuge Liang have had the opportunity to contact Liu Biao's two sons?
But then again, Huang Yueying's family background is so good, she can't look down on ordinary men. Then why did she choose Zhuge Liang at that time?
At that time, Zhuge Liang had just arrived in Jingzhou from Shandong, and he was unfamiliar with the place and had no resources. But he has one big advantage: his military ability is particularly strong. Huang Yueying felt that a person who was so powerful in the military would definitely be able to govern the country. So she married Zhuge Liang and wanted to use his skills to do something together.
From our point of view now, Huang Yueying's vision is really not covered. Zhuge Liang later won Liu Bei's trust by his own skills, and he also flourished in Shu. Here, of course, there is a credit to Huang Yueying.
Huang Yueying married Zhuge Liang, this decision was not simple. At that time, the world was in turmoil, and Zhuge Liang was fighting for a future with his life. If they lose, the Huang family may suffer a catastrophe. Therefore, Huang Yueying has a lot of courage and determination in her heart.
The days after marriage are not so easy. Zhuge Liang is busy outside every day, either fighting here or planning there. As for Huang Yueying, she can only guard the empty house at home alone and take care of all the housework. In this kind of day, everyone has to feel lonely and hard.
But as the days passed, Huang Yueying found that she didn't look away.
Zhuge Liang is really a rare good official. He followed Liu Bei to fight in the south and the north, and finally became the prime minister, holding great power. But in the past 14 years, he has not been greedy for a penny. His family's property is just a few hectares of land and hundreds of mulberry trees. Compared with those big officials, he is like a poor man.
What moved Huang Yueying even more was that Zhuge Liang only married her one in his life.
In that era, which powerful person did not have three wives and four concubines? But Zhuge Liang was different, and he only had Huang Yueying in his heart. Of course, there is his gratitude and respect for the Huang family, but more importantly, it is his deep affection for Huang Yueying.
Therefore, Huang Yueying often tells people: "I really didn't mistake him at the beginning." In these words, there is pride, satisfaction, and deep trust and dependence on Zhuge Liang.
The marriage between Zhuge Liang and Huang Yueying was once described by Huang Chengyan with the words "talent is compatible". In other words, Zhuge Liang is extremely smart, and Huang Yueying is also outstanding.
When the two first got married, they were ridiculed by some people, thinking that they were not a good match. But as time passed, they went through the bits and pieces of life together and faced various challenges together. Although the dream of reviving the Han family did not come true, they achieved no small in other aspects. Their lives are full and happy, supporting each other and loving each other.
Looking back on their marriage journey, it can be said that it is a very beautiful story. They use their talents and wisdom to create a happy life that belongs to them. This happiness may not be spectacular, but it is real and lasting. Their marriage story also allows us to see another possibility for a happy life for talented and beautiful women.
The story of Zhuge Liang and Huang Yueying is not only a good story of talented and beautiful people, but also a legend of wisdom and courage, talent and perseverance. They use their lives to tell us that true happiness does not come from the judgment and vision of the outside world, but from inner firmness and choice.
In this age of looking at faces, their stories give us a new revelation: the beauty of the outside is ephemeral, and only the talent and wisdom of the heart are eternal.
Therefore, do not blindly pursue the external glamour, but pay more attention to the inner cultivation and improvement. Because only in this way can we have our own happy life like Zhuge Liang and Huang Yueying.
Main references: "Zhuge Liang-Huang Yueying: What is the picture of living together", "Zhuge Liang and Huang Yueying: Appearance is the minimum standard of marriage"