Preface
Grandparents and grandchildren: Who will set the standard?
There is no doubt that when the 75-year-old veteran artist Qin Huang publicly claimed that he had been in love with a 30-year-old girl for many years, the public was in an uproar.
For a time, the related labels of "Qin Huang" and "grandson love" were swiped on the Internet.
In the midst of criticism, Qin Huang did not make any defense, but just looked directly indifferently, neither humble nor arrogant.
This makes people can't help but think: love has no age, so why bother to let others judge it?
The frail and old Qin Huang, is his inner world much more complicated than it seems?
His film career slipped to the bottom, and he was sick and bedridden for several years
In his early years, Qin Huang was well-known in the film industry with his good skills.
However, after the years passed, he gradually faded out of the big screen, and could only earn a little money from his old club when he was young.
Worse was his physical condition.
He was originally strong and tall, but his weight skyrocketed to more than 200 pounds, and he suffered from a variety of stubborn diseases, inconvenience, and lived in a simple house.
Looking around, several children are married and have very few visits.
The acting career that he was once proud of has also plummeted.
At this time, Qin Huang was so lonely and frustrated.
The wife kept filing for divorce and the marriage broke down
Compared with the happy family formed by a successful career and filial piety of his children, Qin Huang's married life is not satisfactory.
In 2017, his wife Mo Peiwen died of illness.
The marriage has been in a shaky state.
Mo Peiwen filed for divorce many times before her death, but was prevaricated by Qin Huang on the grounds that "the children are still young".
At that time, Qin Huang's career was in full swing, and he was immersed in the wine and wealth of the entertainment industry and couldn't extricate himself.
Back at home, he and Mo Peiwen were already strangers.
Mo Peiwen's dissatisfaction with him intensified, and she even publicly humiliated Qin Huang.
However, Qin Huang is still obsessed, as if his acting career is all he has.
Later, he bought a villa in Shenzhen and moved out of the common residence with his wife.
The two quarreled constantly, and the possibility of divorce became more and more likely.
Despite this, for the sake of the children, Qin Huang still endured this torture and failed to officially divorce Mo Peiwen.
When Mo Peiwen died of illness, what kind of psychological activities did Qin Huang have?
Fall in love with a 30-year-old woman
However, what surprised the outside world even more was that when his wife was still alive, Qin Huang had already fallen in love with a woman who was 30 years younger than him!
At that time, Qin Huang was in his 50s, and it was the most difficult period of decline in his life.
At a party, he met Lin Xiaoqing (pseudonym), who was only in her early 20s.
Lin Xiaoqing has a sweet appearance and gentle demeanor, which makes Qin Huang, who is struggling, see the long-lost vitality.
The two began to contact each other frequently.
Lin Xiaoqing is careful and considerate, and takes good care of Qin Huang's daily life.
Qin Huang also gave her more financial support.
Gradually, the relationship between the two went beyond the scope of ordinary friends, but they refused to make it public because of face problems.
After the death of his wife, Qin Huang continued to associate with Lin Xiaoqing.
He even bought a property in his hometown for Lin Xiaoqing to live in.
Whenever she returns home, Lin Xiaoqing will always take the high-speed train to meet Qin Huang in advance.
Perhaps, it was Lin Xiaoqing's meticulous care that allowed Qin Huang to survive these dark and lonely years.
Even if the outside world fired thousands of arrows, he didn't care.
The relationship between the children is estranged, and they support their later life alone
The relationship between Qin Huang and his children is not as close as imagined.
On the one hand, his career focus is all in the entertainment industry, and he rarely has time to spend with his family; On the other hand, the children have already married and are working hard to make a living, and they have limited care for their father.
Today, most of Qin Huang's daily life is borne by Lin Xiaoqing.
Grocery shopping, laundry, and cleaning, Lin Xiaoqing has all completed it in the ninth five-year supreme.
Qin Huang admitted frankly that without her help, he would not be able to support himself alone.
Although he relied on others for his life, Qin Huang still flatly denied that he would ask his children to support him.
"I may be financially struggling, but I don't need them to spend any money. Qin Huang said.
He seems to want to keep the last shred of dignity in his old age, and not be forced by life to beg for children.
This makes people think: in fact, family and love are equally fragile.
When the two could not coexist, Qin Huang actually chose the latter.
Is this unwilling, or is it forced by circumstances, and how many people can make a different choice?
It is unfair to denounce it from the outside world
Coincidentally, a few days ago, Hong Kong star Li Longji's 36-year-old mainland girlfriend Wang Qingxia was exposed to a scandal that she had a relationship with a creditor to repay debts.
Li Longji hired a lawyer to deal with it, while Qin Huang joked that Li Longji only spent 800,000 yuan to buy a house in Shenzhen that year.
All indications show that Qin Huang is not impressed by the criticism of the outside world.
According to his logic, love is a consensual affair and has nothing to do with money and power.
His sincere love for Lin Xiaoqing far exceeds the slander and smear of the outside world.
It is true that love cannot be changed, but it can be tolerated.
It also has nothing to do with age, identity and external conditions.
Where do we stand in judging the choices of others in this matter?
Qin Huang's life experience is complex and changeable.
He's been through almost all the ups and downs that a human being can experience.
Now, he was gray-haired, and death was not far behind him.
On the last road of his life, he chose true love to accompany him.
Who can easily speculate and criticize this choice?
epilogue
No matter how noisy the outside world was, only Qin Huang himself knew best what he really thought in his heart.
Perhaps because of this, he was able to face it calmly.
On the issue of love, the boundaries are always blurred, and who can stand the standard?