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When it comes to marriage, most people still have the impression of a monogamous traditional marriage model. Everyone wants their significant other to be loyal to them and accompany each other through a long and happy life.
But in fact, with the progress of the times, there are now a variety of marriage models that are different from traditional ones, such as open marriage, cohabitation marriage and singleness, which express the needs of different groups of people for marriage.
The current love situation has been divided into different types, such as men and women, men and women, and the third gender of love, etc., so the monogamous marriage system that we usually consider has already changed accordingly, and you can enter marriage as a friend or partner.
You can also never get married for the rest of your life, and enjoy a short life freely, of course, the ultimate goal of everyone's choice is to be happy, so there is nothing wrong with it.
We should be respectful and understanding of different marital situations. Of course, it's okay not to be able to change your traditional beliefs, but we must remember not to hurt others and slander others' perception of marriage.
1. Open marriage
Although many people choose to get married, not everyone wants to spend their lives with each other, and no one can guarantee that after marriage, they will not be attracted to others. Therefore, the two people in an open marriage have already thought of measures to deal with marriage.
As the name suggests, an open marriage is free, does not set limits on each other, and allows the other party to follow their hearts.
In this marriage, you don't have to be bound by traditional concepts, you can choose the object of your love arbitrarily, but you must keep the two not divorced and get along in a peaceful state.
This kind of mode of getting along seems very free, after all, it is still difficult for most people to be very loyal to their other half. If there is a dispute in the marriage, or when the marriage bottleneck period is reached, it is easy to be tempted by another gentle and lovely or handsome and sunny person. Therefore, open marriage is a good solution to this problem, everyone can bravely pursue the object of their hearts, but they can only date, not get married, anything can happen except marriage, just like a couple, spend every day of the relationship.
In this way, there is no need to worry about the cheating of the object, because the other party's love state is completely free, of course, if you want to be free, you can't restrain the other party at the same time, everyone can follow their own heart to choose the other half at will.
Although such a marital state sounds very unfaithful, but often in an open marriage two people have a very good relationship, they are just able to follow other people, but it does not mean that they are disgusted with the marriage partner, no matter who the person around him is replaced, the other half of the family will always accompany him, and companionship is the most affectionate confession.
Such a marital state is often because both people like freedom and are easy to be attracted to others, and the concept of parents is too traditional, so in order to cope with their parents and not limit their lives, they choose an open marriage.
Of course, open marriage also requires certain conditions, or to meet the other half who is in tune with you, everyone agrees with this model of marriage, and is open-minded enough, without too many bad thoughts about the other party, otherwise there will be some cheating divorce and property sharing, after all, it is a marriage without too many feelings as a foundation, then it is likely to give up this marriage because of meeting the other half of your heart.
If you meet someone with a particularly bad character, it will threaten the other half of the marriage, so this marriage model still needs to meet a person with good character who thinks the same way, so that it is safer to operate.
2. Cohabitation marriage
Cohabitation marriages are more indifferent than open marriages. This mode of getting along is very simple, that is, two people live in the same room, but there is no communication, no cooperation, just a formal husband and wife.
Their state is like a newlywed couple entering a bottleneck period, with no sense of talking, and perhaps the ultimate goal is just to cope with friends and relatives.
We can see this marriage pattern in many novel plots, but often both of them have a deep relationship and live a happy life.
But the reality is not the same as the novel, such a state of marriage often ends in the end, after all, few people can tolerate the other half of the relationship without feelings, just like a life partner, if there is no emotion, it is easy to disagree on some small things, and will not consider too many things for the other party, in the long run, this relationship is easy to deteriorate, and gradually become indifferent, like the enemy of the other party.
However, cohabitation marriage also has some benefits, everyone can live the life they want to live in the future, one person can drink tea, read books, the other person can also drink until the early hours of the morning, two people do not interfere with each other, people who get along well can choose to eat together at noon or night, become each other's friends, but there are not too many things to do as a couple, just like a pair of friends of the opposite sex living in a room, if they get along, it will be much more harmonious, there is no noise between husband and wife, and life is relatively easy and comfortable.
Of course, some people's cohabitation marriages are like partners, everyone is busy living their own lives, just using the marriage certificate and the constraints of their parents, choosing to enter the same marriage, over time, everyone also disappears because of cooperation, and it is relatively easy to deal with marital property peacefully and amicably, and live their own lives.
If you encounter a family dinner or a request from your parents, you can also pretend to be very affectionate and visit each other's homes, and if this kind of life is very friendly, then it is easy to carry out for a lifetime.
To sum up, cohabitation marriage and open marriage both need a certain character as the basis, if the other party encounters a more desirable love, it is easy to apply for divorce, and it is inevitable that both people and money will be empty, so these two marriage models are still very dangerous, it is recommended that you choose such a marriage model after meeting a reliable object.
3. Singleness
In addition to various marriage models, we can actually choose not to get married and become a bachelor in the new era, living a free and easy life. Such thoughts are often in the minds of the post-00s. Of course, the post-90s generation will have the same idea, they think that one person's life is more free than the life of two people.
At the same time, there will not be too much pressure to survive, even if it is a salary of four or five thousand a month, it is enough for a person to be chic and happy, if you live in your parents' house, then you do not need to bear the corresponding electricity and housing expenses, so to speak, four or five thousand yuan completely pay for a month's entertainment expenses.
Such an economic foundation can meet the needs of a young person's life. He doesn't have to worry about his children, he can choose to go to the beach in the early hours of the morning, or he can choose to stay at home at 12 noon.
Of course, such an approach often gets the worry of parents, and relatives and friends will also be unaccustomed to it, and he thinks that this young man is not in a proper job, idle all day long, and has no intention of starting a family.
But this notion is outdated, the young man knows what he wants, he is not single, nor traditional marriage, he just wants a simple and easy life.
If he meets the other half of the match, they can spend a chic and happy life, and the life of two people is much happier than that of one person, then he will also choose to get married.
In fact, singleness must be more common in big cities, because singleness needs to break through everyone's traditional concepts, if a man or woman does not get married for a long time, not only relatives and friends will look at him with strange eyes, but also neighbors and strangers will be surprised when they know that he is not married.
People in small cities are more laid-back, and because there are not many ways to have fun, they choose to observe other people's lives.
But people in big cities are often busy, because of family pressure or buying a house loan, etc., they don't have the heart to pay attention to other people's lives, the pace of big cities is very fast, there are many ways to entertain, and there is no need to gossip about other people's family affairs to make fun of themselves.
There are many benefits of being single, and people who may enter marriage understand the happiness of being single, they can not be constrained by their families, wear their favorite clothes, and do not have to worry about eating too much and getting out of shape, because there is no aesthetic need for the other half at all.
Of course, single people also have high requirements for themselves, because their lives are often filled with various entertainment methods, and if they need a lot of socialization, they will also have certain strict control over their appearance, so single people do not have other people's troubles, and their own requirements are also very high, and gradually the state of the whole person will get better and better.
Not only people's minds have changed, but this is also the inevitable development of the whole era, the pace of development is faster, but if you don't cultivate enough material conditions for people, people don't feel too much happiness in this society, you won't choose to get married and have children, and let your children come to this society to spend their lives again.
Therefore, young people should be given more material security, so that they can feel happy and happy in their married life, without too much pressure and worry, so that they can choose marriage and have children.
epilogue
In fact, every marriage method has its reasons, and everyone wants to have this marriage method for their own happiness, whether it is a cohabitation marriage, an open marriage or a single, there is not much difference.
We all want to be free and happy to spend this short life, so no matter what kind of marriage you are looking for, I hope you can spend your life the way you like.