Have you noticed that there are people who are polite and polite to others outside, but often get angry and grumpy at home?
This phenomenon is very common in real life, it is a common problem for many people, respect the leader in the unit, treat colleagues and be kind, and acquaintances and neighbors together, but also polite, smiling, back home, often have a straight face, a little uncomfortable, lose your temper, make a character, nitpicking, and even thunder, as if the family is his punching bag, quarreling with the family, is commonplace, making the family is a miasma, constantly hurting the hearts of the family, and the family relationship is tense.
What is the reason for this? If you think about it carefully, the main reason is to hide your true personality outside, out of politeness, etiquette and social morality, you have to take care of these, you have to restrain yourself, so you seem to be a harmonious person, at home are your own people, there are no scruples, I feel that the family can't do anything to me, so I completely expose my true side, secondly, the tolerance of the family also promotes this habit, you are in the unit, you try outside, who will tolerate you like the family, Forgive you, if you lose your temper with someone, it will happen immediately, and there will be a conflict immediately. Isn't that so?
First of all, we must understand that this different way of treating people inside and outside is the bad habits in your own personality, which is a manifestation of selfishness, you try to imagine that you lose your temper with your family again and again, that is, you are constantly hurting the hearts of your family, and your family is also a human being, and you also have your own personal dignity, and you also need basic respect and understanding, so you must consciously change your own state, look at the benefits of your family, think about it, no matter how good the people outside are, can you have a family member to treat you well? Secondly, you have to learn to empathize, when you are about to lose your temper, think about it, if your family does the same to you, what will you do?
Home is a warm harbor, take good care of her, when you are injured and tired outside, you know that only your family is the best for you, so you must cherish your family. You will find that as you treat your family better and better, things outside your home will go well, your mood will improve, and your family will become happier and happier.
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