Preface
Time flies too fast, and it looks like there are still more than ten days to go before the New Year.
In everyone's mind, Chinese New Year is a day for family reunion, where you can leave behind the troubles of the year and celebrate the arrival of the Lunar New Year with your family happily and joyfully.
But in recent years, we have found a phenomenon, many elderly people mentioned that their children went home for the New Year, which was a sad face, and even said that "the New Year is like a disaster".
As for the reasons for this phenomenon, after listening to the 65-year-old Uncle Wang's account of his own situation, we may understand.
1. Busy before and after, hard work, tired back and leg pain
Uncle Wang said that he is old, but he is also looking forward to his son, daughter, grandson and granddaughter coming back to get together, which is lively and lively.
However, every time the Chinese New Year comes, I and my wife are really tired!
Every year, when the children come back, Uncle Wang and his wife have to prepare things at least half a month in advance.
Just Uncle Wang and his wife are at home, this big family, with an open mouth, has to buy New Year's goods as much as possible.
Not to mention the preserved fish, bacon, and preserved chicken prepared in advance, the peanuts, melon seeds, candies, drinks, and snacks can't be left behind.
This is the New Year, even if you can't finish it in the end, you must not be short of this New Year's goods.
And when the son, daughter-in-law and little grandchildren came back, the hard life of Uncle Wang and his wife had just begun.
A large family's Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, even if some were prepared a few days ago, had to be made from the morning that day.
Uncle Wang and his wife were cooking in the kitchen, the spatula was about to pick out the sparks, and the son's family was eating melon seeds outside and watching TV.
Not to mention that the children didn't take the initiative to help, that is, they had been working hard outside for a year, and Uncle Wang and his wife couldn't open their mouths, so let them come in and help.
finally finished cooking this big table of dishes, and when the children finished eating, Uncle Wang didn't care about watching the Spring Festival Gala, so he had to clean up again.
You think that's the end of it, no, it's just the beginning.
The children finally came back, either going out to visit relatives or going to reunite with classmates, and the burden of taking care of grandchildren and granddaughters fell on Uncle Wang and his wife.
A child of a few years old, the energy is like running out, and he can't stay in the house, so he has to take it out to set off firecrackers and go to the supermarket.
But since the child is in the hands of Uncle Wang, it is necessary to ensure the safety of the child, as a result, one will run with it, and the other will jump with it, and at the end of the day, Uncle Wang's waist is almost tired.
Speaking of which, when the child went home for the New Year, Uncle Wang and his wife were like the clockwork puppet, they couldn't stop for a moment, and every time after the New Year, the two of them had to rest for half a month to recover.
And in addition to this, what gives Uncle Wang a headache is the crazy rise in New Year's money.
Second, the New Year's money is rising, and the economic burden is too heavy
This New Year's money was originally wrapped in red paper and placed under the child's pillow to ward off evil spirits and ghosts, and then gradually transformed into a kind of good wishes from the elders to the younger generations, praying for peace and health.
But somehow, with the development of the times, the New Year's money has gradually become formalized, the amount is getting bigger and bigger, and the burden is getting heavier and heavier.
Take Uncle Wang as an example, he has a pension of more than 3,000 yuan per month, which is actually used for living expenses with his wife, which is already generous.
But Uncle Wang just wanted to save some money, and he usually had a small illness and disaster, so he didn't have to trouble his children.
It's just that when it comes to the Chinese New Year, spending money is like running water, just do a few thousand yuan of New Year's goods, and the New Year's money is the big one.
Uncle Wang has two grandsons and one grandson, and the amount of money he used to give every year was the same, a few hundred yuan, and he never favored one over the other.
I just don't know when the atmosphere of pressing New Year's money has changed.
Once during the Chinese New Year, the grandchildren were all greeting the New Year, and after listening to the various auspicious words of the grandchildren, Uncle Wang's heart was also warm, and he hurriedly took out the carefully prepared red envelopes and handed them to the grandchildren.
But after a while, the youngest grandson was a little unhappy after opening the red envelope, and said with a pout:
"Grandpa, why is it only 500 yuan, my grandfather gives me 1,000 yuan every time, and our classmates still have thousands of yuan of New Year's money. ”
The son and daughter-in-law on the side also immediately realized that something was wrong, the child spoke without a brain, and hurriedly covered the little grandson's mouth, and asked Uncle Wang not to care with an embarrassed face, this child said nonsense.
However, Uncle Wang pretended not to care on the surface, but he felt a little uncomfortable in his heart.
He knows that his in-laws do a small business, and the conditions are very good, and it is estimated that every time he gives his children New Year's money, it is only a lot more, where can he afford it.
There was no way, for the sake of face and the happiness of his grandchildren, Uncle Wang could only stuff a red envelope of 500 yuan into each grandson when the children left home.
And this, not counting the relatives and children who come to pay New Year's greetings, send a circle of red envelopes every year, plus the expenses of the New Year, Uncle Wang has to spend tens of thousands of yuan.
It's false to say that you don't feel distressed, but you still have to get through the year, you still have to give money, and you have to give more and more.
In addition to the above two points, Uncle Wang is physically and mentally exhausted, but in the final analysis, he can rest when he is tired, and the money is gone, so it's just for his children.
But this last point is what Uncle Wang can't let go of the most.
3. The children come and go in a hurry, and they can't say a few words
Since the children grew up, especially after getting married and having children and having their own small family, the communication with Uncle Wang and his wife has become less and less.
Every time the children come home, it is a New Year's holiday, and they come in a hurry, and after a few days, they leave in a hurry.
Uncle Wang and his wife want to sit there and chat with their children for a while, which has become a luxury.
Every time the children left, Uncle Wang and his wife felt that after the excitement at home, it has become more deserted now, and the old couple is relatively speechless, sitting there without saying anything, and it is strange in their hearts
Uncle Wang always thinks about how good it would be if his children haven't grown up yet, at that time, they always surround themselves, ask for delicious food, fun, and chirp at themselves every day.
Alas, although the conditions were not good at that time, people's feelings were very sincere, and there were always endless words to say when the family was together, and how happy life was.
But now, Uncle Wang can only watch the car go away, just like his children, getting farther and farther away from him.
epilogue
Behind the fear that some elderly people will go home for the New Year is the impact of the development of the times and the lack of companionship of their children.
It seems that now the Chinese New Year has become a sophisticated and socializing society, not only has it lost its New Year's flavor, but it also lacks human touch.
At the same time, young people should reflect on the fact that elderly parents need more emotional value and warm companionship, rather than going home for the New Year's holidays.
This article is from Uncle Wang's own statement, the protagonist does not want to disclose the specific name and information, please understand.