You are welcome to come, and I would like to ask you: What do you think is the most beautiful appearance in your life?
In the afternoon, I was at work, very busy, my husband sent me a photo taken when we got married, in the photo I was smiling like a flower, wearing a beautiful white wedding dress, wearing exquisite accessories, painting delicate makeup, sitting there quietly, full of happiness and sweetness.
"This is your highlight reel," he said. ”
I said, "Every day when I am pampered by my husband is my highlight moment, and if you make me angry one day, I will become darker." ”
I thought, and what he meant was that I had grown older in the past few years, and I was no longer as beautiful as I had been.
What I mean by this is that if he could give me more love, understanding and tolerance in my life, share more of the housework and spend more time with my children, I think I would look younger and better looking than I am now.
I don't know if he understood what I meant, but I don't think it matters anymore, what matters is that when I look at myself from a few years ago, I wonder, how familiar and strange this person is, when will he disappear from my life?
In fact, where is the highlight of my life?
It's just an illusion of wearing perfect makeup, and I think the highlight of my life should be the years between the ages of 25 and 30, and that's the highlight of my life!
In the second year after graduating from university, I joined an American-funded company, with a good salary, and my work was not very busy, living in a small city in the south, the pace of life was unhurried, it was a slow life suitable for me, I didn't have much goal in life, but I managed myself very well.
Because I've always been single, I have a lot of time to do what I like, such as going to the library all day alone on weekends, attending a book club by a favorite author, going on a date with two or three friends for coffee, and going back to my hometown to spend time with my parents on holidays, or traveling alone.
The days are unhurried, and everything revolves around "I like" rather than "I should".
That feeling of freedom makes me miss it now.
Later, at the age of 30, when it was time to get married, fortunately, I met my current husband, we got married and had children, and lived a stable life, although not rich but relying on their own efforts, they also bought a house and settled down in this huge city.
I am not dissatisfied with my current life, it's just that, in a flash, I am no longer the young and beautiful girl I used to be.
I feel that the fastest aging is after giving birth to a child in the past few years, worrying a lot, taking on more responsibilities, thinking hard, and not much attention to myself, after a long time, I ignore myself, whether it is my own image or my inner emotional needs, have retreated from my consciousness to the bottom of the ranking.
Because the first thing we think of is the children, and we want to take care of the children, and secondly, the husband, sometimes I see him working so hard and coming home so late, who can bear to let him brush the pots, wash the dishes, and mop the floor?
What's more, men are so lazy, sometimes it is more difficult to let them do some housework than to ascend to the sky, so they simply make their own mistakes and do the housework themselves.
The years have never spared anyone, but for women, they are particularly ruthless.
Each of us girls has their own highlight moments, but then they lost to the years and the chickens and dogs in reality.
Fortunately, the years are also tolerant to us, let us find ourselves step by step in the passing years, and then appear in another more indifferent appearance and live the second half of our lives.
So what should the highlight moment of our lives look like?
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "What a woman should look like is that she is very quiet, nine points of temperament, eight points of assets, seven points of reality, three points of appearance, two points of confusion, and one point of self-knowledge." No matter where you are or where you fall into, you must take root downward, blossom upward, and live up to life and yourself. ”
Some people also said: "The most beautiful appearance of a woman is not to teach her husband and children, not to be well-behaved and save money, not to be plain, not to be honest and obedient, but that she can live the life she wants by herself, live as she wants, and still wear exquisite makeup in the future and never forget her original intention." ”
Therefore, I conclude that the most beautiful appearance of a woman is to live very hard, keep a pure little world for yourself in the triviality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and be yourself to your heart's content.
I think that even though we have entered middle age and are no longer so youthful and energetic, our rich and soft hearts will allow us to have an elegant and dignified appearance, which is the highlight of our age.