There is a hot post on the Internet, a boy said that his girlfriend is too cold-blooded because her father was hospitalized in a car accident, and she is not willing to pay.
The boy can't understand, after all, it's his father, as a child, he should be filial to his parents, his girlfriend obviously has a deposit of 100,000 yuan, but he excused himself to usually spend a lot of money and has no savings, so he only gave 2,000 yuan symbolically.
No matter how much the boy tries to persuade his girlfriend to be kind to her parents, the girl is still unmoved. The boy thinks the girl is too cold and ruthless, and tells the girl that she is "very scary".
At first, netizens thought it was his girlfriend white-eyed wolf who was not filial to his parents. But after reading the post carefully, I realized that my girlfriend should not take the money. And the boy's behavior of blindly standing on the moral high ground to educate his girlfriend also makes netizens feel that the values of the two people are too different and they are not suitable to be together.
It can be seen from the chat history between him and his girlfriend posted by the boy that what happened is like this:
The girl's father broke his leg while drinking and riding a motorcycle, and her mother called her to ask her for money, and the girl had a deposit of 100,000 yuan, but she didn't want to give it to her parents, saying that she had no money, so she only took 2,000 yuan.
The boy also knows that his girlfriend's parents are patriarchal, and he has loved her brother the most since he was a child, and he treats her badly at all.
My girlfriend borrowed money by herself when she went to college, and she slowly paid it off after work. The patriarchal preference of parents has left a deep wound in the hearts of girls, causing her to have no nostalgia for her original family when she becomes an adult, she rarely goes home, takes the initiative to apply for overtime on holidays, and she doesn't go home if she can, she says that going home makes her very annoying, even if her parents call her, she doesn't want to say anything more to them.
Even though he knew his girlfriend's experience and knew that she was deeply hurt, the boy still tried his best to persuade his girlfriend:
"Your brother goes to school, your mother can't take care of it alone, and it's a little tiring to take care of people in the hospital alone, should you go back..."
"If you ask for money, they should have no money, if you don't take the money, what will they do?"
"Although they didn't treat you well before, they are much better now than before, and they will call and care about you after a while. ”
"Either way, they're your parents. They gave birth to you so that you can live in this world, so I think you should be a little nicer to them. ”
"They've always been your parents. ”
The girl told her boyfriend not to speak for her parents, but the boy probably didn't agree with his girlfriend's attitude towards her parents, so he took the opportunity to say it.
When her boyfriend taught herself, the girl said: "I will never forget, I want to eat spicy noodles and my father said that I was a loser." My brother took it to buy it if he wanted to, and he didn't let my brother give it to me, so I secretly picked up what fell on the ground and ate it. ”
And when her boyfriend said that her parents are much better to her now than before and often call to care about her, the girl said: "That's because I work, I can make money, and I can ask for money." ”
After reading the chat records of the two, it is difficult to comment on who is right and who is wrong, the boy's idea is that "there are no parents in the world", no matter what, as children, they should be filial to their parents. And the girl has been hurt by her parents since she was a child, and she has not felt the love from her parents, and the oppression and humiliation she has received since she was a child are deeply imprinted in her heart, and it is difficult to let go, which is understandable.
The boy posted this matter on the Internet, probably to see what netizens thought of this matter, he must have expected netizens to be on his side, but he didn't expect netizens to be on his side after reading the chat records of the two:
"I advise girls to stop talking to their boyfriends about things at home and with her. Telling him didn't get his attention, but said a lot from the perspective of a saint. Anyway, if it's me, I won't tell him that much, and I won't let him know how much money I have. If you fall in love, you can talk about the wind and snow, why talk about this?"
"I don't think this boy really needs to stand on the moral high ground to accuse his girlfriend, you haven't experienced her pain, you yourself are a vested interest in society, what qualifications do you have to persuade your girlfriend to want to open a little, and since you are so busy, then why don't you take out some money to her father to tide over the difficulties, after all, this is your "future father-in-law". ”
There are also netizens who sarcastically mock boys who are comparable to "Big Buddha":
"Please get up the big Buddha in Leshan and let this boy sit down. Also, it's better for a girl to kick this boyfriend, this kind of Buddha can't empathize with her, and will definitely be "incompatible" with her in other ways. I grew up pampered by my parents (I have a younger brother at home), so I don't understand how there can be such cruel and partialistic parents. The girl's reluctance to pay is just the retribution of her parents' partiality, and the father's kindness is the son's filial piety. ”
There are also some girls who have the same experience as girls who see the post:
"I can understand the girl's behavior. When I was a child, my mother made me kneel in the living room with a kitchen knife stuck in my neck, my fare to school was 0.5 yuan, but she gave me 0.2 yuan and made me kneel on the ground to pick it up, and countless times she spoke ill of me and told me to die. Now that I'm older and capable, she's soft to me, and I'm so cold to her. If my boyfriend or future husband is on my mother's side, then I must have broken up or divorced in the first place. ”
"I thought it was me, patriarchal, I saved more than 30,000 yuan in undergraduate scholarships, and my mother borrowed all my money when I cried in my senior year, saying that it was half a year to pay me back, and now I haven't paid it back for a year and a half, saying that I am a girl, and I don't have to buy a house or a car, expensive clothes and good skin care products are a waste to me, she thinks I am not short of money, and it is useless to pay me back. Last month, my dad broke a bone, my mom cried and borrowed money from me, and I saved tens of thousands of dollars in a year of graduate school, but I didn't turn a cent, the family has money, and it is the money for their two sons to get married and buy a house, why borrow money from a student who is still in school?"
"Same style family and parents. My parents gave all the property in the family to my brother, and now they have three apartments, and I live in a rented house in a different place, and every time my parents contact me, there is something. I can't feel their warmth, and during the holidays, I'd rather eat instant noodles in a rental house than go to their door to find a bad feeling. Growing up, my parents and brother were not good to me, they were the family, and I was an outsider, in fact, I was their own daughter. Suffering a lot, people are seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, whether it is family, friendship, love, what is not good for themselves, they must stay away, they are the most precious. ”
Of course, there are still some netizens who think the same as boys:
"Filial piety still has to be done, at least out of humanitarianism, and it is not all paid by girls. It can only be said that this is a matter of character. ”
"My parents raised me when I was young, and I raised my parents when I was old, although I was beaten a lot when I was a child, but the grace of nurturing is something I can't finish in this life. So my criteria for choosing a mate are also, first of all, I must be filial to my parents, if even my parents can be abandoned, I don't believe that such a person will accompany me for a lifetime. ”
"Why don't you settle the accounts? No matter how patriarchal you are, you also give money to support her, and return all the money to support her to her parents, and they have nothing to do with each other in this life. ”
In "Do You Know", Minglan said: "If the board doesn't hit you, you don't know how it hurts." "I feel sorry for this girl. I also regret the parents. For many Chinese, the word home is a harbor in the wind and rain, and the last and most solid backing to escape when encountering difficulties and unhappiness, but the girls in the post have never had this backing.
There is nothing to empathize with in the world, you can't understand my pain, so don't just accuse anyone of doing something wrong and what should be done, your parents are very good You go to filial piety, there is a saying that is particularly good: "Morality is used to regulate oneself, not to teach others." "It's amazing for everyone to be themselves.
The damage brought to the girl by the original family needs to be healed, but obviously, her current boyfriend can't cure her, as netizens said, the three views and life experience trajectories of the two are not on the same channel at all, if they get married in the future, the contradictions are absolutely indispensable, and the girl not only can't be healed, but may also be burdened by marriage, and her life will become more scarred.
For the boys and girls in the post, they may need to think carefully about whether the other party is suitable for their other half. For a boy, he wants to find a girl who is filial to his parents, and it should be difficult for this girlfriend to meet his requirements, so he can choose to break up and let both parties have another good relationship.
In this way, the girl may have a chance to find the other half who really cares for her and tolerates her.