Xiao Xiang used to have a happy family and a well-paid job, and he always had a group of friends around him to eat, drink and have fun. His family has repeatedly discouraged him from playing less with these friends, and if he continues like this, he will harm himself one day sooner or later, but Xiao Xiang doesn't care.
It wasn't until later that a friend of his came to him and said that he had a project investment in his hand and a high return, and wanted Xiaoxiang to invest in shares, so he secretly took out most of his savings behind his family's back and invested it.
No one expected that not only did Xiao Xiang not get a cent of income later, but his friend also ran away early and disappeared. Xiao Xiang was completely panicked, he borrowed money from his former friends, but all he got was rejection again and again.
Since then, there have been frequent quarrels in his family, and finally his wife has become completely disillusioned with him and has filed for divorce. The reason why Xiao Xiang has such a result is that there is a problem in his social circle, if he didn't know such friends, then everything would not have happened.
The social circle has a profound and profound impact on a person, not only affecting our attitude and values in life, but also shaping our character and behavior. When a group of people are in the same social situation, our subconscious mind drives us to get closer to people who have similar personalities and behaviors to us, in other words, "like gathers like, people divide into groups".
We need to be careful and careful when choosing who we socialize. Getting along with positive and excellent people can improve our abilities and expand our horizons, while choosing to get along with people who are negative and have nothing to do will make us "close to the ink" and gradually become depraved and decadent. Therefore, choosing a positive and quality social circle has an extremely important impact on our growth and development.
Since ancient times, there has been a story of "Meng's mother moved three times", and the reason why Meng's mother took the trouble to move three times is precisely because she saw the importance of the surrounding environment to the growth of children. When his home was next to the cemetery and slaughterhouse, Mencius would subconsciously play with the children around him, learn about funerals and pig slaughter. At that time, when Meng's mother moved her family to the vicinity of the school, the school was full of children who were studying, and naturally Mencius would also study with the children in the school.
Social circles can help us shape our character and behavior, and it is precisely because the partners around Mencius's new home are all students studying in the academy that Mencius's character is shaped and laid a good foundation for his later success.
When we socialize through our social circles, we can learn about their thinking styles and behavior patterns by communicating with people with different personalities and behaviors, and then learn their strengths and skills to improve ourselves.
In addition, learning from others in the social circle can also have a subtle impact on our personality and behavior, making us pay more attention to the improvement of our own qualities and abilities.
When you want a high-quality social circle, the best way to do that is to keep improving yourself. Social circles and growth are inherently a two-way arrow.
A good social circle will certainly play an indispensable role in your growth, but you also need to constantly improve your ability and value if you want to get a high-quality social circle. Just like "thrushes and sparrows have different voices, golden roosters and crows have different nests", only when you become good enough, you will naturally be surrounded by a group of excellent people to form your own unique social circle.
Although we say that the influence of social circles on us is extensive and profound, we also need to pay attention to the fact that social circles do not completely determine who we are, and a person's nature is ultimately determined by himself.
Those who are very different from our own personality and abilities also have the opportunity to become friends, but we need to keep our eyes open when choosing our social circle so that we don't meet unladylikes.
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