Zhuang Yuan was so attentive to Fang Mingyu, but Fang Mingyu liked Jiang Yi.
Why?
You may say that liking is liking, disliking is disliking, and there are so many whys. But I want to tell you that the real reason why Fang Mingyu likes Jiang Yi is not because of love.
1.
Fang Mingyu once said to Zhuang Yuan:
"I sometimes envy Yingzi, you see her life is colorful and interesting. Look at me again, study, take exams, at best listen to music, read novels, like a drink all the time, like a dish all the time to eat. My mom and dad would bring back the smell of disinfectant water from the hospital every day when they came home, and I thought my home was like a hospital, well organized, step-by-step, boring!
Fang Mingyu's parents are both doctors, they are not like Huang Yingzi's parents who are happy every day, they are very strict with Fang Mingyu. If you are a little dissatisfied, you will reprimand Fang Mingyu with a straight face.
In such a growing environment, Fang Mingyu can only live according to her parents' expectations, she has no self, she doesn't dare to try, and she doesn't know what she needs.
Originally, Fang Mingyu's life was like this. Live in a proper manner, work in a proper manner, and get married. But when she was 6 years old, she met Huang Yingzi.
Huang Yingzi claims to be the descendant of Huang Feihong, she is lively, righteous, and has many ghost ideas, she dares to try anything new, and dares to do anything strange, Fang Mingyu has only discovered since she was with her that boring days can become so interesting.
People who can live an interesting life are people who love life. Fang Mingyu is very grateful for the feeling of spring in the dead wood after meeting Huang Yingzi, but if Rao is like this, she will also feel inferior and sad.
Because everyone knows what they want and like, she is the only one who has no dreams and just wants to be a white-collar worker who "lies flat" in the office building.
Later, Fang Mingyu really became a white-collar worker, but she didn't like this job at all. With a square face every day, with a "don't get close to anyone", Fang Mingyu gradually forgot what the meaning of his life was.
In order to find some excitement in a boring life, Fang Mingyu started an unsightly "underground love" with his colleagues knowing that the company did not allow "office romance".
Fang Mingyu said:
"I don't seem to like my boyfriend anymore, but I can't afford to break up before I turn 30. ”
At what cost?
Of course, the price of "no one wants".
Maybe you will say, why wait for a man to ask for self-improvement in women. As long as you live well, even if you don't get married, it doesn't matter. But in Fang Mingyu's cognitive system from childhood to adulthood, there is no such bold idea.
Fang Mingyu's parents are traditional and old-fashioned, and naturally hope that she can get married and have children step by step. Fang Mingyu has guarded a man for so many years, giving up a lot and paying a lot. If she fails to get married, it means that she has to choose again, but how can she have the confidence to choose again, she has always been the one who has been chosen.
2.
Fang Mingyu's bold pursuit of love for the first time in his life was his confession to Jiang Yi through the strength of wine.
But Jiang Yi didn't respond to her. Because what Jiang Yi likes is Huang Yingzi.
But Fang Mingyu didn't want to give up Jiang Yi, she still treated Jiang Yi with courtesy as always, eager for Jiang Yi to look at her more.
But unfortunately, Jiang Yi did not.
And this time Jiang Yi's refusal also brought a lot of pain to Fang Mingyu's heart.
Fang Mingyu's mother once said in front of everyone,
"Our Mingyu and Huang Yingzi are in a different situation, Huang Yingzi is indeed not the best in learning, but he has a good personality, lively, fast-talking, and likes. Besides, there are specialties, how well the composition is written, there will be no problem in the future. We Mingyu is different, originally a mind will only learn, if you want to study now, what to do in the future, enter the society in the future, what to compete with others. ”
People are afraid that they will be "brainwashed" by their parents or other people's cognition before they know the world. Fang Mingyu already lacked understanding of herself, and when her mother said this again, she thought that she was not liked.
Humans are social animals, and unless they really escape into the empty door, everyone wants to be taken seriously. Fang Mingyu is the same, she longs to be seen and liked, so she set her sights on the popular Jiang Yi.
It's not because Fang Mingyu really likes Jiang Yi, but because Fang Mingyu feels that as long as the popular Jiang Yi likes him, does it mean that he is not so bad.
This is not only a kind of psychological compensation, but also Fang Mingyu's cry of longing to be loved and seen. But this has nothing to do with love, so when she found out that Huang Yingzi was avoiding Jiang Yi, she felt lost, and she didn't want Huang Yingzi to let her.
Unfortunately, Fang Mingyu's initiative did not get the desired result this time.
So she resigned herself to her fate and began to accept the fact that she was unlikable.
At this time, Zhang Nan appeared.
Zhang Nan is Fang Mingyu's classmate, and he, like Jiang Yi, is a man who is very popular with girls. But the difference between Zhang Nan and Jiang Yi is that Jiang Yi's popularity is his own charm, and Zhang Nan's popularity is his special choice.
Zhang Nan likes to mess with flowers and grass everywhere, he likes this for a while, and likes that for a while. But Fang Mingyu didn't know, she thought that after she left Huang Yingzi, her charm value had increased.
Later, Fang Mingyu saw that Zhang Nan was inattentive, so she responded in her heart and hid back in Hangtian City, but in the face of Zhang Nan's request to be reunited, she still chose to forgive with a soft heart.
The reason is very simple, Fang Mingyu thought that he could "save" Zhang Nan and have the ability to make Zhang Nan love her only from now on. Of course, this is not because he loves too much, but because Fang Mingyu doesn't want to admit that he has failed, and he doesn't want to admit that he is not loved.
So at this time, Huang Yingzi reminded her that when she let her leave Zhang Nan, Fang Mingyu would feel offended. He said, "We haven't seen each other for a long time, and when you see me, I say this to me, and I really feel like a failure." ”
3.
Most people don't have the courage to face their own failures, and Fang Mingyu is the same.
It's just that she doesn't understand that it's not her fault at all when she meets someone who is unladylike.
Sadly, in her value system from childhood to adulthood, it was her fault to "choose the wrong person". Her parents didn't allow her to make such a mistake, and she couldn't accept that she made such a mistake.
Originally, Fang Mingyu could pretend to be stupid and live in a daze, but Huang Yingzi wanted to jump out and tear off this layer of "fig leaf" in public. Fang Mingyu collapsed, so she said that she wanted to break with Huang Yingzi.
After saying goodbye to the past, Fang Mingyu still kept the whale ball that Jiang Yi wanted to give to Huang Yingzi at the beginning, but gave it to her by mistake.
Why?
Is it that Jiang Yi will not forget it every year?
Of course not!
Because Fang Mingyu is just hard-mouthed, in her heart, Huang Yingzi will always be her most trusted friend.
This is also the reason why she did not allow Zhang Nan to say that Huang Yingzi was not good.
But she is a very screwed person, and in order to prove herself after leaving society, she met Glasses Guo in the company again.
Glasses Guo is different from Zhang Nan, he chose Fang Mingyu, not because of love, let alone loneliness, but because he values Fang Mingyu's value.
Fang Mingyu is the company's HR, and has a series of first-hand information such as personnel appointments, employee evaluations, and promotions. Glasses Guo is with her, which is equivalent to inserting an eyeliner in the company's top management.
In order to let Fang Mingyu serve himself completely, the glasses Guo output to Fang Mingyu at every turn. He said:
"I know you grew up with friends from your hometown and had a good relationship when you were young, and I can understand that. But now, everyone has his own way to go, and since he has gone far, there is no need to force it together. As for my old friends, they won't waste my social time, I care about whether this social interaction can make me improve, and I can't always stop and look back!"
Having said so much, there is actually a purpose, that is, to let Fang Mingyu and Huang Yingzi break off their relations. Glasses Guo knew that Fang Mingyu usually didn't have any friends, and these old friends kept her away, in fact, it was to control her, so that she would only obey her orders and not be disturbed by the outside world.
In order to arouse Fang Mingyu's guilt and make her feel guilty, Glasses Guo also deliberately emphasized:
"I don't understand, is that marriage really so important? Just because you left early, all the resources I wanted were snatched away by the Shanghai branch. Well, my efforts in the past six months have been in vain!"
What resources need to be present with an HR to get them?
But he knew that he didn't have the strength, but he didn't say that he didn't. I want to blame Fang Mingyu and put all the responsibility on Fang Mingyu, what kind of operation is this?
Isn't this PUA?
But Fang Mingyu just couldn't see it, and it was possible that she could see it, but she didn't dare to mention the breakup. Because I wasn't sure that my thirty-year-old self would still be able to find a man who loved me.
Glasses Guo likes Fang Mingyu, a simple woman who can't go out and behaves properly, and it is precisely because of this that he dares to intensify his efforts in the future, and if there is a slight disobedience, he will punch and kick Fang Mingyu.
4.
Some people say, doesn't Fang Mingyu deserve it?
With such a good man as Zhuang Yuan, she doesn't want it, but she wants to find these men who calculate her again and again and abandon her.
But this really shouldn't blame Fang Mingyu, because Fang Mingyu gave Zhuang Yuan a chance, but Zhuang Yuan retreated because of cowardice.
When he was about to graduate from college, Zhuang Yuan gave up Beiqing for Fang Mingyu and went to Jiangzhou for graduate school. He thought that he would never have to be separated from Fang Mingyu from now on, so he mustered up the courage to go to the school to find Fang Mingyu.
But at that time, Fang Mingyu already had Zhang Nan by his side.
So Zhuang Yuan's words were not spoken, and the bracelet he bought was not given away. Later, Fang Mingyu deliberately chased it out and asked Zhuang Yuan again, but Zhuang Yuan still didn't say.
At that moment, it could be clearly seen that a trace of disappointment crossed Fang Mingyu's eyes.
Fang Mingyu has never felt that she is popular, and after experiencing Jiang Yi's rejection, she is even more afraid to express her heart easily. She thought that Zhuang Yuan only regarded her as a friend, so she accepted it.
In fact, in my opinion, Fang Mingyu has Zhuang Yuan in his heart.
Otherwise, she wouldn't have been so happy when she received Zhuang Yuan's bracelet many years later. Won't be in the glasses Guo laughed at the bracelet looks outdated, and the eyes Guo replied shortly.
It's just that Fang Mingyu is not confident in himself, and he doesn't know what is most suitable for him. That's why time is wasted in a wrong relationship.
Seeing Fang Mingyu, I really feel sorry for her.
is obviously such a kind and simple girl who knows how to think about others, but no one tells her that people can be selfish or selfish.
There are always people who say that girls have to be well-behaved, and they will be well-behaved to be likable. But some people tell you that too well-behaved children don't have sugar to eat. From Fang Mingyu's point of view, maybe it is wrong to be obedient or not. But what if it's wrong? Who can guarantee that there will be no forks in the road in their life, and that the road will be smooth?
If Fang Mingyu can understand, maybe she won't have to live so wronged in her life after the age of thirty.
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