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The Castle Law
- Author: Donna Tetero
- Publisher: Taihai Publishing House
- Producer: Kuwei Culture
- Translator: Chen Li
This is a practical parenting guide.
This book focuses on 7 universal family guidelines and uses simple and practical methods to create a safe and stable environment for children to grow up.
The author looks at parenting from a unique perspective with multiple identities, and is a parenting expert, journalist, teacher, author, and mother of two with a wealth of practical experience.
This book is more practical, and tells a lot of cases that make us feel that it is "the same style" at first glance. There is also a practical "Expert Parenting Advice" column that summarizes guidance and practice tips so that we can continue to grow as we learn. For example, develop good qualities such as forgiveness, gratitude, apology, and kindness through practice to improve empathy and empathy.
THE CORE ELEMENTS OF BUILDING A FAMILY CAN BE SUMMED UP BY THE WORD "CASTLE", HENCE THE "CASTLE LAW".
- 同理心（compassion）
- 接纳(acceptance)
- 安全感（security）
- Trust
- Love
- 期望+教育（expecations+education）
At the top of the list, empathy is the foundation of communication and understanding.
Not only do you have empathy for your child, but parents also need to feel self-compassion. The various collisions between parents and children are often anxious and irritable. This is often due to poor communication, mutual incomprehension, and inability to empathize, so that sometimes there is no respect and fairness.
Through mindfulness meditation, empathy and compassion can be cultivated, helping parents and their children to channel negative emotions and restore physical and mental peace. Mindfulness can be practiced anytime, in anything, and let's focus on the present moment.
The easiest way to do this is to be quiet and alone for a while, to empty yourself, to focus only on your breathing, and to feel the sound of your breathing. The book also details mindfulness methods such as "Cloud Meditation" and "Walking Practice".
"Every family is a castle" is based on acceptance, safety, trust, and expectation, so that children can feel loved and thrive.
Accept your child in words and deeds, and avoid the negative influence of a rejection family environment. Allow your child to be himself, while guiding him or her to deal with his or her strong emotions appropriately and learn self-acceptance and self-compassion in a healthy and positive way.
In addition to a safe physical environment, there is also emotional security, which can support children to better express their emotions, enhance self-confidence and social skills, and develop healthy interpersonal relationships. The book also covers the use of electronic products and cyber security issues, which are worth learning.
Trusting your child is a kind of positive letting go, allowing your child to grow and develop through trial and error, take responsibility for himself, and become his or her true self.
Parents should not only give their children unconditional love, but also teach their children self-love.
We need to become lifelong learners in the big project of parenting, and put it into action to build a castle of love and a dream home with our children.