Narrator: Li Guihua
#Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read#
My cousin is 37 years old this year, and every time he sees his cousin, he frowns and is depressed, and asks him how he is doing? He smiled bitterly and said, "What can I do?" If I had to choose again, I would rather die alone than marry a woman so much older than me.
What does my cousin mean by this? Why is this young age so vicissitudes, and what is going through to him? Let me tell you the life story of my cousin and her daughter-in-law!
My cousin is the child of my aunt's family, a child who has been honest since he was a child, sensible early, often helps adults work, does not go out to wander around and play, and does not smoke or drink when he grows up, and has no bad habits.
My cousin went to the army as a soldier after graduating from high school at the age of 18, and my aunt was not in a hurry two years ago, thinking that she had just gone to the army, and she was not very old, so she didn't mention the matchmaker.
After two years, my cousin was 22 years old, and my aunt was looking forward to marrying my cousin, and many neighbors helped introduce her, after all, everyone thought it was a good job to be a soldier in the army, and my cousin was a good boy since he was a child, and the neighbors all knew the roots, and they all introduced their relatives to him.
The cousin is not tall, 1.72 meters, handsome, the neighbor Aunt Zhang wants to introduce her second daughter to her, the second girl is two years younger than the cousin, the cousin said that he wants to find someone of the same age, this has been smaller than himself since he was a child, and he is not very embarrassed.
Aunt Zhang said, then the eldest daughter, the eldest girl is the same age as her cousin, but the eldest girl was a sophomore at the time, less than 1.5 meters tall, and the cousin said that she was not tall, and she wanted to find someone who was a little taller, so that the future generations would be taller.
Later, I introduced my cousin to 4 years younger than her, the little girl is still in high school, and my cousin said, the girl is too young, let's let the family go to college, and can't delay others.
There is also an age as old as my cousin, tall, 1.67 meters, my cousin also agreed, but the girl was still talking about a boy outside, the girl's parents disliked the boy's poor family and disagreed, but the girl was willing, and the blind date was forced by the parents to let her come, and the cousin gave up after understanding the situation, saying that there would be a lot of things in the future, and there was no emotional basis for the blind date, so forget it!
In this way, there were a few blind dates back then, some of which my cousin liked but did not succeed, and some of whom were not suitable for various reasons, and when the time came to return to the army, I went back to work first.
Rural blind dates, most of them are during the Spring Festival, when boys and girls who go out to work return to their hometowns, the seven concubines and eight aunts begin to be busy matchmaking, and boys and girls start blind dates at this time.
The time has come to the Spring Festival, and my cousin is 24 years old, which is not too old in the countryside, why?
It's not a big deal, it's because he went to the army as a soldier and also took the college diploma, and most of the marriage age after graduating from college is after the age of 26.
Because my cousin is not talking about himself, he is on a blind date, and in the countryside, as long as he gets out of school, he starts to go on a blind date, and most of them are 20 years old, and 24 years old is not too young, and he is a little older.
At the age of 24, the uncle of the family introduced the flowers of the village, and the younger brother looked at his elementary school classmates, and the two young people also fell in love, and they also had a common topic, the girl was a hundred willing, but his father was a person who didn't work every day, and ran all over the street to find someone to drink, and to be honest, his reputation was not very good, and he often beat his daughter-in-law.
The aunt and her family thought that marrying a daughter-in-law was to look at the girl, and they didn't need to pay too much attention to the family, as long as the girl was fine, what did her father do? Although the cousin felt that the flower father was unreliable, but the flower was still okay, so he said agree!
Who knew that the night before the appointment, Hua Dad drank too much and went crazy and came to his aunt's house, saying that the deposit must be 20,006, and not a single cent less.
At that time, our engagement was 10,001, one out of 10,000, all according to this standard, Hua Dad said 20,006, isn't this embarrassing? What does he mean?
I found someone who helped me talk about the matchmaker, and asked what the situation was?
The matchmaker went on a special trip, and after asking, he found out that his father had drunk with someone else, and married her daughter to another family, so he had no way to talk back, so he could only increase the money for the marriage.
Hua and her mother were crying at home, but they didn't dare to disobey his father, and the matchmaker asked Hua Do you agree with that?
Hua said that he agreed with his cousin, but his father asked for a lot of deposits, and he was deliberately embarrassed, so let the matchmaker talk about it, can you take more?
When the aunt and the aunt saw this trouble, they beat the drum in their hearts, thinking, what is not the matter, his father is just this and that, it is too unclear, if there are other requirements in the future, but it is endless, are you marrying a girl or selling a girl?
No matter how the matchmaker persuades him, Hua Dad just won't change, and he also said that he will listen to him after getting married.
When my cousin saw this, he said, "Forget it, there are many women in the world, and it's not just this one, let's talk about the others!" My parents are confused, and I won't have a good life in this marriage.
In this way, after another year of delay, I have to go back to the army again, so I can only go on a blind date during the Spring Festival next year.
Time is in a blink of an eye to the Spring Festival, my cousin is 25 years old, not young, if you can't get engaged this year, you will be 26 years old next year, and you will be older.
The neighbor at the door said that there were fewer matchmakers, and the cousins who were generally old and didn't go to college were almost married, only the cousin's bottle was less than half a bottle and was still dangling here, and the aunt was a little anxious, saying that no matter what happened, I met the right one to order this year, and I was not young.
This time it was said by the matchmaker, there are special matchmakers in the countryside, and they are all familiar with the three miles and five villages, and they helped to introduce it, and they became 500 yuan, which is the heart of my current cousin and daughter-in-law.
They haven't experienced this kind of aunt before, but they still listen to what others say, no matter what it is, let's take a look at each other!
That's it, the matchmaker said that there is a girl, very handsome, and he can't figure out the specific age, let the two young people meet and ask when they talk, the family situation is the above two brothers, is the eldest in the family, the elderly parents of the daughter, with Jiao, a few years ago I worked in Beijing, I didn't care too much about marriage, graduated from high school and is now taking the college entrance examination, and I am still taking the accounting certificate, very self-motivated.
A few years after getting married, I didn't know that she didn't graduate from junior high school, and the accounting certificate was applied for, but she didn't take the exam at all, and she couldn't understand it.
At that time, the aunt was a little anxious, and when she heard that everything was good, she arranged for the two of them to meet.
Although my cousin has seen a few before, I haven't talked to the girl too much, this girl is really good-looking, not low, can talk, and the information said by the matchmaker is about the same, the two of them chatted quite well, the cousin forgot to ask the age at the time, I just think that the age should be about the same.
When we met later, my cousin asked about my age, my cousin was a tiger, 25 years old that year, and the girl said that she was a cow, 26 years old, although she was a year older, my cousin thought it wasn't too big, and besides, I was not too young, and this overall look was good.
In this way, after being familiar with it for a few days, I began to engage my relatives, and after I finished making a marriage, I returned to the army.
My cousin is in the army, and there are restrictions on how to use a mobile phone, and you can only look at your mobile phone at a fixed time, so the two of them usually communicate less, but they can talk quite well.
Auntie looked for someone to see a good day, and it was just right to come back during the Spring Festival, and it all went well.
Before the Spring Festival, my cousin came back early, and the two went to the county to go through the marriage registration procedures, and when they got stamped, my cousin's daughter-in-law said in her heart, I'll tell you something, I'm actually a dog, 4 years older than you, if you agree, we'll stamp, if you don't agree, forget it, I'll make it clear to you before getting married.
At that time, the family had prepared everything that should be prepared, and this came out of my heart, which was beyond my cousin's expectations.
My cousin was very angry in my heart, but I thought that the two of them had been talking for so long, and if they had to wait a year for a new blind date, and I didn't know if I could find a suitable one, or this would be it!
My cousin agreed, thinking that others wouldn't say, "Female junior hugging gold bricks?" This is four years older, and she should know more about life!
The marriage went on normally, and after the marriage, the cousin stayed at home for more than 20 days before returning to the army.
After getting married, the true face of my cousin and daughter-in-law began to be completely exposed, and my aunt also heard some things that I regretted for a long time.
Let's talk about my cousin-in-law first, after getting married, she didn't stay at home, saying that she was going to Beijing to work, but in fact she helped his eldest brother take the children, at that time, his eldest brother was tormented by her parents, and her sister-in-law divorced, and the two children of the eldest brother's family had no one to bring, so she could only let her help bring them.
It is said that grandma should bring it, so where is grandma At this time? After all, my sister has been married, and she is from someone else's family.
Speaking of which, it makes people even more angry, the cousin's daughter-in-law's mother is taking care of her father, because the uncle hired her mother back as a nanny and paid her salary.
My cousin's daughter-in-law's mother is helping my uncle take care of my own mother, and I don't have time to take care of my grandson, my cousin-in-law's father is in my hometown, he is the object that everyone hates, and he is also the sister-in-law who forced his cousin-in-law away.
The cousin-in-law helped the eldest brother take care of the nephew and niece, she was willing, in May of that year, the cousin-in-law found out that she was pregnant, and she still took care of the nephew and niece as always, and returned to her in-law's house when she was 6 months old.
The eldest aunt and husband are pampered on their daughter-in-law, treating her as a daughter, at that time, it was rare to eat meat once a week in the countryside, the old couple rushed to the market every day, bought vegetables and meat, and the daughter-in-law was too thin, so she had to absorb nutrients quickly, otherwise it would be bad if the grandchildren were not well nourished in the year.
At this time, they found that their daughter-in-law had a lot of problems, she was lazy to eat, she looked at her mobile phone and watched TV every day, she didn't sweep the floor, she never went to the kitchen once, and she never washed her clothes.
Never cook or help choose vegetables, my aunt told my aunt that she was married to a grandmother and arrived at home, but after all, she was pregnant and forgivable, but some simple work was a bit outrageous.
The aunt was very depressed during that time, but she couldn't say that this daughter-in-law, picking and choosing, the blind dates in front of her, which one pulled out was not so strong.
After pregnancy, my cousin-in-law doesn't wear high heels, and when she wears flat shoes, she is not as tall as her aunt, her cousin's net height is 1.59 meters, and her heart is estimated to be about 1.54 meters.
There is also a cousin and daughter-in-law who has a very good temper, and when one does not go well, she will call and scold her cousin, and sometimes she will say ugly things to her aunt, and she will say that she is wronged every day, saying that she can't see her husband, she can only see her in-laws, and she doesn't even have a person to talk to, and she won't do anything else every day?
Later, she said about this, and said, at that time, it was a pregnancy reaction, the family ate and drank every day, I really didn't want to eat, and then went to her mother's house, her mother rolled a dough leaf, she thought it was very delicious, and my cousin couldn't say anything when she heard it, and said, the family lets you eat big fish and meat every day, and it's not that I'm afraid of your grievances, who serves my daughter-in-law like me every day!
But the aunt and her family can only do this in order to give birth safely for their daughter-in-law.
My cousin's daughter-in-law has worked in the army for eight years, and my cousin's daughter-in-law says every day that her cousin's salary is too low, that her eldest brother drives for foreigners, and that she can get 6 to 7 thousand yuan a month when she used to work in a supermarket, and that her cousin's salary as a soldier is too small.
Her eldest brother drove for foreigners, and it was not a long-term fixed salary, just talking about getting a salary of 6 to 7 thousand yuan in the supermarket, but where was the money saved? From the time she got married to the time her children went to elementary school, she did not save a penny, and she just said that she could earn money, so where was the money? The salary of the army was stored in the card, and she did not need to buy her own food and daily necessities.
Ask her where her salary is? She often talks nonsense, saying that if I marry you and give birth to a child for you, you will have to support me, this is what you should do, whose man does not earn money to raise his daughter, otherwise why should he get married?
When my cousin first started, I felt that there was no way to live this life, the divorce was over, and the aunt said that I had children, who would not be noisy for a lifetime, give the children a complete home, can live or live!
My cousin has been in the army, and when I go home during the Spring Festival, my aunt will buy gifts in advance during the New Year's holidays, and give 1,000 yuan to let my daughter-in-law go to her parents' house to visit relatives.
As for the cousin's daughter-in-law, she will pick out the gifts brought by the two sisters-in-law and take them to her parents' house.
When the aunt saw this, she turned a blind eye and said, take it, it's all food anyway, but she doesn't approve of her behavior, she buys you gifts, gives you money, you take it, and the son-in-law looks at it, it's not like it!
Speaking of this today, there are still a lot of things that can't be laughed and laughed at, I want to ask everyone, if it were you, would you choose an older girl? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.
#Do you want to find someone to make do with if you are older and unmarried#