When a person feels stressed, but tries to suppress their emotions and refrain from expressing anger, stress manifests itself in the form of illness that ultimately destroys physical health.
The first part is how psychological stress and emotional depression can be transformed into illness.
In the process of practicing medicine, the author found that the psychological pressure and emotional depression brought about by patients' childhood experiences, living conditions, work styles, etc., can also damage health, and even the main factors that induce certain diseases. Many people with critical illnesses, even those with different diseases, have the same emotional and behavioral patterns.
For example, ALS patients have a common trait, that is, in most cases, they behave very friendly, rarely ask for help, and hardly talk about their suffering, they try to behave like normal people.
There is also cancer, the biggest killer of modern people's health, and the author found that its onset and progression are greatly correlated with mood and stress.
Emotions and stress are closely related to various diseases. So how do emotions and stress trigger illness, and how does this process work?
This is a series of complex physical and biochemical reactions, which can be divided into three parts:
The first is a stressful stimulus, also known as a stressor, which refers to disturbing, uncontrollable, and threatening events.
The second part deals with the system, dealing with the system to experience the stressor and explain its meaning.
The third link is the stress response, in which the brain directs the body's tissues and organs to respond physiologically and behaviorally to perceived threats.
The limit of the body's stress is the tipping point that distinguishes "good stress" from "bad stress". So where is the tipping point? The author mentions a basic criterion, which is physiological status. If a person is constantly and repeatedly suffering from physiological abnormalities, such as upset stomach, insomnia, dreams, headaches, toothaches, etc., then he may be suffering from overload.
But at the same time, the authors also point out that not all people who are overloaded with stress will necessarily develop cancer, and that in the face of the same event, each person's "processing system" is different, and the response to stress is also different.
The authors list several typical ways of thinking that are more likely to cause the body to react to stressors when they use these ways of thinking to deal with stressors. For example, "I should be strong", "It's not right to be angry, no one loves someone who is angry", "Everything must be in my control". These beliefs can increase your stress and keep your emotions out of the way.
How do these "problem beliefs" come about? The authors argue that the way adults cope with society has a lot to do with their parent-child interactions during childhood. This is because a child's perception of the world is built in parent-child interactions. When the child's emotions are not accepted, comforted and tolerated, then he will feel that these emotions are useless and everything must be strictly controlled in the bottom of his heart.
In addition, the authors propose the idea that parenting behaviors and family emotions can also pass on problematic beliefs, which in turn can lead to illness.
Children who have been in high-pressure families are more likely to face long-term psychological stress when they grow up, and another reason is that their "adaptive energy" is used up. At this time, people will become numb to their emotional state, and although your body is not reminding you, stress is already eating away at your health.
Now that we understand how stress and emotional repression can lead to illness, how can we regulate our emotions, relieve stress, and achieve self-healing?
The author believes that in the face of disease, we should not always think about overcoming it and defeating it, but should see our own problems from the disease itself. When the disease strikes, the author suggests that you ask yourself two basic questions: first, what does the disease mean for the past and present, and second, what does it tell you for the future?
In the same way, when we feel depressed and angry in our lives, we should not think about refusing, forbearing, or closing ourselves, but use negative thinking to let these emotions flow naturally.
The authors have put together a seven-step approach.
The first four steps are to show you how to release your emotions.
The first step is to accept one's own environment and one's own state objectively, and accept things as they are.
The second step is awareness, to perceive your heart, to understand your emotions, and to recover those emotional experiences that have been "blocked" by yourself.
The third step is anger. After becoming aware of emotions, we must also learn to express these suppressed emotions.
The fourth step is autonomy. This step is actually a further deepening of the third step. Not only can you be angry, you have to do more, and if you are wronged or angry, you can speak out.
The fifth to seventh steps are self-healing and self-reconstruction after releasing emotions.
In the fifth step, you need to rebuild the attachment relationship and discover the people around you who are truly worthy of affirmation and trust.
The sixth step is firmness. Rethink, regain your sense of self-worth, and become determined. The author suggests that you can set new goals, whether you are a goal for work, a goal for studying, or a goal for life, and then make a plan accordingly.
The last step is yes. You have to affirm yourself, believe in yourself, you are good, you are unique, you have to love yourself. You also have to affirm that this world is beautiful, and it is worth experiencing, enjoying, and striving for.
At this point, you can really pay attention to your own needs, see your emotions, release stress, achieve physical and mental balance, and regain your confidence and happiness in life.
The essence of stress comes from within us, we have to adjust ourselves to some internal pressures of others, when pressure is approaching us, we urgently need an outlet to release the pressure, so that it does not keep attracting our energy like a balloon, we can try the 7 A's method, namely acceptance, awareness, anger, autonomy, attachment, firmness and affirmation, may we all be emotionally competent people and find a good way to balance family and career.
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