The article comes from life and is told in the first person, which is more simple and direct.
When I was 25 years old, when everyone in the family felt that this was a suitable age to find a partner to fall in love, I chose to flee from my hometown and ran to Hangzhou, dedicated to my career, and felt that only if I was excellent, I would find a better person, so whoever found me a partner was not happy for myself, including my own parents, and because I had been blind date in my hometown, so I chose to flee.
At the beginning, I lived in a farmer's house in Hangzhou, and the landlord had only one son, who was about the same age as me and was unmarried.
I remember one time, the landlord knocked on my door and asked me directly: Girl, have you talked to someone?
I said, "No, what's wrong with my uncle?"
Unexpectedly, my uncle did not directly say that he was looking for a partner for his son, and directly said his family situation: I am an engineer in engineering, and now I have an annual salary of more than 300,000 yuan, and I will retire immediately, but I can choose to retire and re-hire, almost a year or about 300,000 yuan, my wife is a retired factory worker, has a pension of 2,500 yuan per month, and now cleans the school, one can earn 4,000 yuan, and our family has almost 2 million cash for our son to get married, and a car, and the house can be rented more than 100,000 yuan every year。
I said, "Then your family is quite good, and you earn a lot."
I didn't expect my uncle to say: Girl, if you and my son look everywhere, he is a little unstable, and his mind is not bad, let's see if we can negotiate, we also have more daughters.
I refused directly: Uncle, I don't want to fall in love for the time being, I'm sorry, you let your son find someone else to see.
In fact, I didn't hate the landlord at that time, on the contrary, I still thought that the landlord and his wife were very good, and the corn and vegetables grown at home were always secretly given to us, and during the New Year, we would buy some milk and fruits for the landlord in order to express our gratitude. As a result, the landlord was more polite and directly gave us a fish of dozens of catties, which was pickled at home, and we were embarrassed to ask for it.
So I just don't want to fall in love, and I don't look down on the so-called good conditions, I always feel that these things, relying on my own efforts, will definitely be there.
But I later opened a barber shop downstairs in the landlord's house, learned about the landlord's son's situation, and was even more reluctant to contact the landlord's son, the aunt of the barbershop said: His son is actually quite good in education, a major in the original exam, but this child is not honest at work, often half a year, half a year off, it is estimated that he still wants to gnaw at home to eat the old, is an unmotivated person, such a boy, don't look for it, life must be difficult.
Later, I moved, still near the landlord's house, but found that the landlord's son was in love, and he was walking hand in hand with a girl, but there was no wave in his heart, and he felt that whoever looked at such a thing really considered himself unlucky.
Two years later, the landlord's house was demolished, and five houses were divided, and there were millions of cash, which was really enviable.
And I returned to my hometown, and was pulled on the blind date again, because I was 33 years old, it was not easy to find a partner at all, and after a year of introduction at home, I found that I did not meet a reliable object, and then I simply found a matchmaker agency by myself, and I spent 500 yuan to find a partner.
Now that I think about it, I couldn't even look down on the people who took the initiative to send it to the door, and as a result, I became such a person.
The matchmaker introduced me for half a year, and finally found a person who could barely live, with a salary of more than 10,000 yuan, a mortgage of 8,000, a car, and two suites in hand, but the economic pressure was not small.
Now think about the son introduced by the landlord's uncle, although he is not motivated, but he is still willing to go to work, but he doesn't earn much, at least there is no economic pressure at home, his parents have a pension, the two add up to more than 10,000 yuan, the family demolished five houses, rented four sets of houses, and the monthly rent is more than 10,000 yuan, in addition, there are savings at home, there is no need to think about economic problems at all, and you can even spend some money and do something you want to do, there is no pressure at all.
But at that time, I was young, I didn't understand at all, and I was full of thinking that boys must be motivated, only in this way would they be promising, and girls should also save money to find a suitable partner.
But when I found out that I had saved more than 400,000 yuan, bought a house by myself, and changed my academic qualifications from a junior college to a bachelor's degree, but I still couldn't find a better partner, and in the blind date market, I became an older leftover girl in the eyes of everyone, which made me feel extremely heartbroken.
So if you don't plan not to get married for the rest of your life, then the matter of finding a partner, for girls, is really to be early, the conditions are good, good-looking, and the boys themselves are also very good, generally in college, they have already found a suitable object, so after graduation, if you don't seize the opportunity, the chance of finding a good partner is even lower.
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