#记录我的生活#
Some people say that the longer the elderly, the shorter the life expectancy of their children, and that the elderly will lose their children if they live too long, I don't know if this is true?
My grandfather's younger brother is my second uncle, they have two daughters, four sons, and a daughter, a total of seven children, in that era, six or seven children is a very normal thing, as the saying goes, more people are easy to do, more people are powerful, even if that era is very poor, but everyone still thinks that more children, in order to grow the family, only to have a good life and not afraid of being bullied!
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My second uncle passed away when he was about 60 years old, but fortunately, his children have all married and had children and started a family, and my second grandmother lived with her youngest son at the beginning, that is, my little cousin, and the second grandmother helped the little cousin take care of three children.
Uncle Xiaotang is a diligent, not much talker, he drives a mud truck to help people drive stones and dirt, every day early and late home, his daughter-in-law is also my aunt Xiaotang, she is responsible for the things on the farmland at home, planting vegetables and planting some fruit trees, the husband and wife are very diligent people, the days are getting better and better.
When Uncle Xiaotang was about 40 years old, the couple decided to build a new house, and at that time they built a big four-story house, the house was built on the side of the road, this house was very large, and there were many rooms, except for the second floor, where they lived by themselves, and the other floors were used for rent.
Less than a month after the family happily moved into the new house, Uncle Xiaotang's body was abnormal, he was often uncomfortable, so he went to the hospital for examination, and the result of the examination was nasopharyngeal cancer, which was already in an advanced stage, and Uncle Xiaotang had to be hospitalized immediately.
In the end, Uncle Xiaotang was treated in the hospital for a month or died, and after Uncle Xiaotang left, Aunt Xiaotang drove the second grandmother out of the house on the grounds of economy, and the second grandmother had to return to her ancestral house and live alone.
The second grandmother has other children, but at the beginning the second grandmother lived with the uncle of the small hall and helped him take care of the children, and now the second grandmother and other children are also grandparents, they are also old, and they can't take care of so much, so the brothers decided to give the second grandmother living expenses every month, and the second grandmother will go to whoever she wants to go to during the holidays, and usually go to visit the second grandmother every three or five days, anyway, everyone lives very close, and the days go on slowly, although the second grandmother is old, but fortunately, she is in good health, and she can do everything herself.
A few years after Uncle Xiaotang left, the eldest son of the second grandmother was my uncle, he was also unwell, and the cousin quickly took Uncle Lobby to the hospital for examination, and the results showed that it was lung cancer, which was already in an advanced stage, and he was hospitalized immediately, but unfortunately, after 22 days of surgery, Uncle Lobby died in the hospital, and the family fell into deep pain again.
Especially the second grandmother, in just a few years she lost two sons and both are the most filial to her, although the lobby uncle does not live with the second grandmother, but the lobby uncle is very filial, he went to visit the second grandmother the most, often take the second grandmother home for dinner, the couple often buy food, use, wear to the second grandmother, the children of the lobby uncle are also filial, knowing that the second grandmother is old, they often go to the second grandmother's house to help her clean up.
The second grandmother often said to herself that her life was miserable, and her two best sons were gone, why didn't God take her away?
After the uncle and uncle left the hall, everyone also tried to avoid mentioning the uncle and uncle of the hall when chatting with the second grandmother, so as not to think of the sad things of the second grandmother again.
At this time, many people in the village said that it was not good for the second grandmother to live so long, and that her children would lose their lives, saying that her two sons left at a young age, the little cousin was about forty years old, and the hall uncle was only about 60 years old, saying that the second grandmother was an old man in his 80s who was so strong that it proved that the yang shou of the two sons was sucked away by her, of course, this is just a rumor, and there is no scientific basis at all.
About ten years later, the second grandmother was 93 years old at that time, and she was still in very good health, moving freely, and she had been buying and cooking by herself.
In that year, the youngest daughter of the second grandmother also passed away, and I don't know what kind of disease my little cousin had, and my mother couldn't say it very clearly, so she said that my little aunt had been very painful in her chest, and she was exhausted, and she couldn't eat anything, and she stayed in the hospital for three or four months, and then she could only rely on nutrient infusion to maintain her life, and finally her little aunt was so thin that she only had a layer of skin, and her weight was only more than 40 pounds, and she passed away in pain, and her little cousin was only in her 50s.
The second grandmother did not go to the hospital to visit her when the little aunt was hospitalized, because the second grandmother knew that the people in the village said rumors about her, saying that she was so old and still so strong, but her children passed away one after another, so the second grandmother was afraid that going to the hospital would suck away her little daughter's yang life, which would cause her little daughter to go faster, and the second grandmother had to endure her thoughts and endure the pain and did not go to see her little woman, even if my little aunt left, the second grandmother did not go to see her.
Since the little aunt left, the second grandmother's body has also begun to weaken, and her movements are not so agile, so she has to rely on crutches to assist in walking, but the second grandmother can still cook and cook by herself, and the eldest daughter-in-law (my aunt in the lobby) will buy those things for her.
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This year's second grandmother is also 97 years old, last year I heard my mother say that the second grandmother fell at home, rested for more than three months to slowly recover, the more than three months are my aunt in the lobby to help the second grandmother take a bath, the second daughter-in-law is responsible for delivering meals every day, my aunt in the lobby is not very good, but the other daughters-in-law of the second grandmother are not willing to help her take a bath, only my aunt in the lobby is responsible, the aunt in the lobby is relatively good and kind, usually the second grandmother is not feeling well, but also my aunt in the lobby takes her to the doctor. The second grandmother's other sons are also sixty or seventy years old, they can only give a little money every month, and the second grandmother doesn't pay much attention to other things, and my aunt takes care of her.
Ever since my aunt passed away, more people in the village have been talking about my second grandmother, saying that she is almost 100 years old and still alive, why is she still alive? She still doesn't want to leave, she really doesn't die when she is old, she says that she has sucked the longevity of her children, that she has only seven children left, and that none of them are old, some are only middle-aged, some have just become grandfathers, and some daughters-in-law have not yet married, and she is almost five generations in the same house, saying what is the second grandmother nostalgic for? What the people in the village say is really hard to hear, what is their business, they are really full of food, and they dare to say anything. Everyone's fate has a law, birth, old age, sickness and death are natural things, no one can escape, just to see who goes first and who leaves later, anyway, sooner or later will leave, why should you speak ill of an old man behind his back and curse others? Is it okay to say these words to an old man who has lost three children?
In the face of the death of her children, the most painful must be a mother, the second grandmother lost three children, no one can understand her pain, please don't say these ugly words behind your back without the suffering of others, don't spread rumors.
Every time I go back for the New Year, I will go to visit the second grandmother, although I don't have much money, but I will also give a little money and buy something for the second grandmother, chat with her about family life, maybe the second grandmother is old, I visited her on the National Day last year, she can no longer remember my name, of course she knows whose daughter I am.
Finally, I wish my second grandmother good health, peace and security, and live every day happily!