Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
On the road of life, some feelings seem to be very true, but they are very fake.
For example, you want to go on with someone all the time, thinking that they have the same thoughts and expectations as you.
Some people, walking and walking, will say goodbye to you.
When you see clearly that the relationship with him is not worth continuing, you will want to forget about the past time.
I don't want to think about anything related to him anymore, I don't want to talk about the good or happy things I used to be.
The way to completely forget a person, very simply, is to do two words: disconnection.
02, people who have no fate, learn to disconnect
The fate of the world is elusive.
People with fate, even if they are thousands of miles apart, even if they are very different from each other, they can cross the mountains and seas and break through many obstacles to walk together.
And people who have no fate, even if they accompany each other wholeheartedly, it is difficult to ensure that the other party is always with you.
I have heard such a saying: "Forget one thing, forget a person, not because of memory, not because of time, but because we have stopped putting them at ease." ”
On the road of life, the most impermanent thing is the human heart.
When a person appears in your life with a dazzling light, it is the arrangement of fate.
However, fate makes people. It doesn't take long for you to learn to face the change in your relationship and learn to accept that he is drifting away from you.
In a relationship, if there is no fate, entanglement with each other will only bring you more pain, so choose to forget.
Cut off all ties with him, so that each other is destined for this, no longer entangled, no longer hesitant.
Learn to adapt to life without him, leave all memories with each other in the past, and completely forget each other's feelings.
03, don't contact him at all, time will make you forget him
A friend of mine who is a reader shared her story with me:
She fell in love with a man, and when she threw all her emotions into it, she found out that he had a family.
No matter how much he pleaded, how much he promised her to divorce and marry her, she didn't want to believe it.
She cut off all contact with him, moved, and changed jobs. No one knows how much despair and pain she suffered behind her determination.
After time of treatment, she has completely let go of her past feelings, and when she recalls occasionally, it is also light.
If you want to forget someone, it is easiest to not contact them completely.
Feelings are the least controllable by themselves.
Reason tells you not to contact each other, but the thoughts in your heart are unwilling to give up.
I always thought that I couldn't live without him, that I would fall into depression and hopelessness, and I would never be able to get out again.
Time is the best antidote. As the days go by, his figure will gradually blur. Everything in the past seems to be from the previous life.
Believe in the power of time, which will allow you to truly get out of the haze of the past and get rid of all the unpleasantness.
04. Only by disconnecting can you really start a new life
Wang Manni in "Thirty Only" fell in love with the considerate, romantic and golden-rich Liang Zhengxian.
For the sake of that relationship, she lowered her bottom line and accepted Liang Zhengxian's unmarriage.
Later, she learned that Liang Zhengxian already had a fiancée.
And after getting engaged, he has been constantly changing girlfriends.
She returned the car that Liang Zhengxian gave her, deleted her contact information with him, and returned to her hometown to recuperate.
After a period of silence, she finally found her direction and knew what kind of life she wanted.
And that unbearable relationship has become an irrelevant past, and it can no longer hurt her in the slightest.
Only by saying goodbye to the past can you move forward without any worries and start your new life.
Don't let an unfruitful relationship take over your whole world. In the future, there will definitely be happiness of your own.
Only by cutting off contact with him, from the past, can you truly come out of false feelings.
You will find that there are still many things worth pursuing in life, and a beautiful new life is unfolding for you.
05. Summary
If you want to forget someone, you must simply refuse, don't be soft-hearted, and don't drag the mud and water.
Do break away, walk out of his world without hesitation, and throw off each other's pasts.
Readjust your mood, welcome a new life, and bravely chase your own happiness.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.