Every child is unique, and they have their own characteristics and talents. However, some children always seem to be unable to sit still, have high energy, and have difficulty concentrating. Parents and educators often feel confused and helpless for these "smart but can't sit still" children. Fortunately, a book called "The Smart But Can't Sit Still Child" provides valuable guidance and advice for parents and educators.
"The Smart But Can't Sit Still" was written by child psychologist Dr. Rabi, who analyzes the characteristics, causes and coping strategies of hyperactive children in simple terms. By reading this book, we can gain a more comprehensive understanding of the behavioural performance and psychological needs of children with hyperactivity, so that we can better understand and support them and guide them to reach their full potential.
1. Causes and characteristics of hyperactive children
First, let's take a look at the causes and characteristics of hyperactive children.
ADHD refers to attention deficit, hyperactivity disorder. Hyperactive children are usually energetic, quick-witted, curious, and eager to explore the outside world. These children are born with relatively slow development of the prefrontal lobes of the brain, making it difficult for them to control their impulses and emotions. They tend to be more inclined to seek instant gratification and are curious about novelties, but are also easily distracted and impatient. In addition, the family environment and education style also play an important role in the development of the child.
Because of these characteristics of hyperactive children, they may face more challenges in their studies and daily life. So what can we do to better help children?
2. Specific parenting methods
For such children, it is often difficult for a single education method to be effective, and parents need to adopt more diversified and adaptive strategies. The parenting methods given in the book are mainly as follows:
1. Establish a daily self-planning and time management system
Because hyperactive children often have difficulty concentrating, it's important to help them establish a self-planning and time management system. Parents can work with their children to create daily plans and schedules so that children know what to do at what time, so as to gradually develop their self-planning and time management skills.
2. Provide clear and immediate feedback
Children with hyperactivity often need more clear and timely feedback to understand if they are doing it right, correctly, or how they are performing. Parents can praise or reward their children when they are doing well, which can motivate them to continue to maintain positive behaviors.
3. Establish clear rules and limits
Because hyperactive children tend to be more inclined to seek immediate gratification, they need clear rules and limits to govern their behavior. Parents can work with their children to set family rules and make them understand the importance of these rules. At the same time, parents should punish their children appropriately when they break the rules, so that the children understand the importance of following the rules.
4. Encourage hyperactive children to participate in sports and physical activity
Because hyperactive children have a lot of energy, they often need exercise to release their energy. Parents can encourage their children to participate in various sports or activities, which will not drain them from their excess energy, but also help them exercise and improve their self-confidence.
3. Points that need to be paid attention to in the rearing of hyperactive children
In the process of raising hyperactive children, parents also need to pay attention to some key points.
First of all, parents need to avoid excessive demands or excessive pressure, which can exacerbate their children's anxiety and frustration.
Secondly, parents should learn to recognize and understand their children's emotions in order to better establish an emotional connection with their children.
Finally, parents should encourage their children to unleash their creativity and provide a rich and diverse learning environment and opportunities to stimulate their imagination and innovative thinking.
In conclusion, to overcome the confusion and challenges in raising an active child, I highly recommend the book "The Smart Child Who Can't Sit Still". By reading this book, we will gain more understanding and support about children with hyperactivity, helping them reach their full potential and igniting their limitless possibilities.