The sun was shining in the courtyard in the early morning, and the mother was busy preparing breakfast, while the father stood at the door waiting for the children to get up and clean up and get ready to go out together. At this moment, this ordinary daily life becomes the happiest scene in life.
In fact, the harmony of a family does not depend on how good the external conditions are, but on whether they care for and respect each other. If we put ourselves in the shoes of our family everywhere, then even if our family is not wealthy, we can still feel full of warmth.
On the contrary, even if the family has a mountain of money and material resources, as long as this emotion is not cultivated, money will not help the family harmony. Even, some wrong thoughts and habits can invisibly destroy this precious relationship.
So, how can we avoid it? Here are some of the greed and misconceptions that are most likely to cause family discord.
1. The idea of preempting parents' assets
Parents have worked hard all their lives, some have saved a fortune for their children, and some have silently borne the burden of life. No matter what the outcome is, all they do is to hope that their children can grow up with peace of mind.
Among them, parents do not deliberately calculate who takes more. For them, every gain of their children is their most satisfying reward.
However, some immature ideas were ready to move at this time - the idea of seizing the property of their parents made some children fall into the entanglement of "separation". In fact, it all stems from the wrong value of money.
Poverty cannot be regarded as poverty, poverty lies in the barrenness of the soul. If we let go of the preconception of money and be more considerate of our parents, we will naturally not have a desire to possess. Besides, after dozens of years of life, how long can parents accompany them? Instead of worrying about wealth, it is better to cherish every moment with parents.
2. Dislike the idea of siblings
In the same way, some people apply money standards to sibling relationships. Thinking that a certain brother is too lazy and a certain sister is too extravagant, he begins to steal and dislike.
In fact, everyone's environment and conditions for growing up are different. Instead of subjectively demanding a certain standard from others, we should put ourselves in their shoes.
For example, the younger brother may not be working well and needs the support of his family, while the older sister may have suffered too much and wants to be compensated materially. If we can understand the hidden mental activity behind it, we will naturally be relieved.
The most precious thing between people is not money, but spiritual and emotional support. As long as we learn to care for each other, that brotherhood will transcend all material things.
3. Calculate the spouse's perception of housework
There are also some people who will unconsciously calculate how much their spouse has done in the family and how much they have done, as if they are competing for the workload.
In fact, this is purely superfluous. For a couple who are in love with each other, housework is a responsibility and an obligation, and we should not put it on a monetary price tag. Whoever does more, so what's the matter?
On the contrary, if we are all willing to give, with the idea that "one more is the other party's peace of mind", then this labor will become a presentation of love and the crystallization of friendship.
Blind comparison will only alienate two people. And if we don't put in the mentality of "paid labor", the family will inevitably be filled with warmth.
Fourth, the habit of relying on money and conditions to solve problems
Finally, some families habitually use material conditions as a means to solve problems when they arise, and rarely face up to the essence of the problem - communication and understanding.
For example, when parents and children have a disagreement, the first reaction of both parties is to use money, and when siblings have a conflict, they are also bored to manage their finances for fear that they will suffer losses. As everyone knows, all this is just the surface of the problem.
In fact, the most important cornerstone of any relationship is mutual understanding and consideration. What we need to do is not to compare gains and losses, but to correct our mentality and communicate sincerely with our families.
Perhaps solving the problem requires a certain amount of material security, but what needs to be opened more is the heart that gives tolerance and understanding to each other. A harmonious family requires us to constantly improve ourselves and examine those inappropriate greed and ideas. In fact, blessings will not be "sucked away", it comes from inner fullness and satisfaction. As long as we cherish the present, the people in front of us are the greatest wealth.