"I can't afford to go back to my hometown" resonates, and the poorer parents are, the more they will spend their children's money to earn face
As the old saying goes, "A golden nest and a silver nest are not as good as your own kennel." But now, why do some old people feel that they can't even stay in their own "kennels", and they have to put a burden on their children in order to get back that little face?
This matter has to start with Lao Li'er. Lao Li Touer is an authentic farmer, who has worked hard all his life in order to find a good future for his son Xiao Li. Xiao Li was also angry, got admitted to a good university, found a decent job in the city after graduation, and married a city daughter-in-law. In Lao Li Tou'er's village, this can be regarded as a great joy for the ancestors.
However, behind the happy event, there are also a lot of troubles. Since Xiao Li settled in the city, Lao Li Touer felt that this son had "flown out", and he was getting farther and farther away from the old man himself. The emptiness in his heart is really not a taste.
So, Lao Li Touer began to ponder, how to let his son go home more. But this homecoming, it's not like going back. Xiao Li is busy with work, his daughter-in-law has to go to work, and the children still have to go to school.
Old Li Tou'er was unwilling, so he began to think of a way. He thought, his son must be rich if he mixes so well in the city. As for himself, he used various names to ask his son for money. Today he said that he was not feeling well and wanted to go to the hospital, tomorrow he said that his family would repair the house, and the day after tomorrow he said that he wanted to buy something for his grandson. In short, he just asked his son for money in a different way.
Xiao Li is also a filial child. He felt that he was able to mix so well in the city thanks to his father's cultivation at the beginning. So, my dad asks for money, and he always tries to be satisfied. In this way, Lao Li took his son's money and was in the village for a while.
But it didn't last long. After a long time, Xiao Li also felt that something was wrong. He began to wonder if his father really needed that much money. So, he called back and asked. It doesn't matter if you ask, but the lie of Lao Li Touer has been exposed.
Lao Li Tou'er saw that his son was suspicious, and he was panicked. He quickly explained, saying that he had no choice but to let his son come home more. But as soon as he said this, he felt empty-hearted.
Xiao Li listened to his father's explanation, and his heart was not happy. He understands his father's hard work, but he also feels that his father should not do this. He said to his father, "Dad, if you want me to go home, just tell me directly." Why do you bother? By doing this, you are not only embarrassing me, but you are also burdening yourself. ”
Lao Li Tou'er listened to his son's words, and felt guilty in his heart. He felt that he was really old and confused, how could he come up with such a bad idea. He said to his son, "Son, it's not right for Dad. Dad will never be like this again. Just forgive Dad this time. ”
After the news of this happened, it caused quite a stir in the village. Everyone said that Lao Li Touer "can't afford to go back to his hometown", so he came up with this method. Some people also say that the poorer the parents, the more they will spend their children's money to earn face.
Although this is a bit mean, it is not unreasonable. Some old people just think that their children are doing well outside, and they have to follow a little light. But they forget that children also have their own difficulties. It's not easy for them to work hard outside.
Therefore, as parents, we must also be considerate and considerate of our children. Children have money, that's their ability. Let's live our lives in peace. Don't mess up your children, and don't make a mistake for yourself. In this way, it is the real "golden nest and silver nest, not as good as your own kennel"!
As for Lao Li Tou'er, after this lesson, he can be regarded as understanding. He no longer asked his son for money, but began to care about his son's life. As for Xiao Li, he is also more filial to his father. He often called his father to chat to relieve his boredom, and often sent money and things back. Now, Lao Li Touer can be regarded as truly experiencing the taste of "the golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as their own kennels"!
And the people of the village have learned from this incident. They begin to reflect on whether their actions are causing unnecessary stress on their children and begin to learn to look more rationally at their children's lives and achievements. At the same time, they also cherish the time they spend with their children and strive to create a harmonious and warm family environment.
This is the end of the story. But the reflections that leave us are far from over. The social phenomenon reflected behind the phrase "I can't afford to go back to my hometown" is worth pondering. How should we think about the emotional needs of the elderly, and how should we balance the relationship between parents and children? There is no standard answer to these questions, but it is worth thinking about and discussing in each of us.