Wuhan Autism Designated Rehabilitation Institution - Xinchuchu Special Education School: Small, boy, age 4 years old, likes to play ball, can imitate 3~5 words of sentences when he first arrives at the institution, has some simple cognition, is more lively and active, and lives with his parents and grandfather at home. After a period of rehabilitation training, Xiaoxiao has made great progress, can answer some common questions, will put forward some basic requirements, can recognize common things, can name independently, know the functions, categories, characteristics, attributes, etc. of common items, has a high degree of cooperation in class, and has a good learning state. The fact that I don't like to eat was triggered by a video sent to me by my little father, which was titled "Little Don't Like to Eat".
The scene in the video is a small home, the living room and dining room are connected, and the living room is full of small toys, from trampolines to toy cars......
In the video, Xiaoxiao does not sit comfortably in the chair, but runs back and forth between the dining room and the living room, moving this and playing with that. The little mother followed behind her with a bowl, constantly coaxing: "Baby, it's time to eat, it's your favorite porridge, take a quick bite, and so on." "Xiaoxiao occasionally looks at her mother when she plays, and she comes over to eat when she wants to eat, but most of the time she ignores her mother, and sometimes her mother gets angry and forcibly pulls him to the dining table, but she takes two bites of snacks and runs away, and her mother continues to chase after the rice bowl. The nearly 20-minute video is full of a meal fight between the mother and Xiaoxiao, and there was a time when she almost knocked over the bowl halfway, but even so, Xiaoxiao didn't eat much.
The next day, my little dad brought my little boy to class, and before I could mention this question, my little dad took the initiative to ask me, "Mr. Li, have you seen the video I sent you?" It can be seen that the little father has a headache and is very anxious about the problem of eating a little.
I said, "I've seen it, but there is only one video, and I can't directly analyze the specific reason why Xiaoxiao doesn't like to eat, so I still need you to say some specific details." ”
So, the little dad told me in detail about the problem of Xiaoxiao's difficulty in eating at home: "He is particularly reluctant to sit at the dinner table to eat, if there is a toy he likes, he can sit down, and he will not eat himself after sitting down, that is, he mainly plays with toys, and the food that is fed to his mouth may not necessarily be eaten, and he is unwilling to sit down if he is not given a toy, and often runs around, and his mother is afraid that he will be hungry, so his mother is chasing around with a bowl, which is the state of his mother in the video." ”
I asked him, "If Xiaoxiao doesn't eat, will he go hungry?"
The little dad said, "No, if he doesn't eat well, we are afraid that he will be hungry, so we will often give him a little snack and milk." ”
In this regard, I gave him some advice: "Eating is actually a problem that many children have, aside from the physiological factors that cause him to skip eating, the rest is mostly a problem with the way the family is raised." Little Daddy didn't understand what I was saying, and I did the next step of analysis with him.
"There are too many items he likes in the environment of Xiao Xiao's meal, which interferes with him too much, and he doesn't eat well, but he will get his favorite snacks, so he won't sit down to eat peacefully. ”
After listening to my words, the little dad understood what I said about the way of raising him, and expressed his agreement, and then asked me: "If you don't give him snacks in the future, will he eat well?"
I shook my head: "Stopping the little snacks won't allow him to sit down and eat peacefully, if you want him to have a good dining habit, you must first start with his dining environment." "Then I put forward preliminary requirements: first of all, the environment around the table should be thoroughly organized, the small toys should be isolated from the dining table, and at the same time, the toys should be taken back before the small meal is taken, and the small snacks will be given to him after the meal, even if the little one is unwilling to eat, he needs to sit at the dinner table, and he can not leave until the family has eaten together, and first establish his good dining etiquette; Secondly, even if he doesn't eat, don't give him any snacks, especially 1 hour before eating, don't give him any snacks and dairy products that can fill his stomach, even if he has few snacks, don't give him any snacks after meals, but because Xiaoxiao is in the stage of growing his body and can't use the hunger method for a long time, after Xiaoxiao shows hunger, you can provide him with another opportunity to sit at the dinner table and eat.
After listening to my suggestion, the little dad happily accepted it, and said that he would do what I asked when he got home, and after 1 week, the little dad sent me a video again. This time, the name of the video is still "Little Don't Like to Eat". I was a little surprised, didn't my suggestion work? Then, I opened the video.
In the video, the scene is still Xiaoxiao's home, the toys that were originally all over the floor are gone, Xiaoxiao is sitting peacefully on the children's chair next to the dining table, there is a pair of children's tableware in front of him, the bowl is noodles, Xiaoxiao is eating noodles with chopsticks......
After watching the video, I understood that the gesture of Xiaoxiao using chopsticks was not very standard, and the little mother would fiddle with her little hand from time to time to keep him in the correct gesture, but the gesture was not used smoothly, and she couldn't eat for half a day, and finally threw the chopsticks down directly, sat on the chair and moved around, struggling to jump down, so the video was frozen in the picture of the little mother pressing the little on the chair.
The next day, Little Daddy came to me again. This time, without waiting for him to speak, I first asked him a question: "When did Xiaoxiao start learning to eat with chopsticks?" Little Daddy didn't expect me to ask him this question, but he answered me anyway: "It's been about two months." ”
Then I caught the crux of the problem: Xiaoxiao just started to learn to use chopsticks, he was not particularly proficient in the use of chopsticks, he lacked generalization practice, and his little mother always corrected his gestures with chopsticks when eating, and after a long time, Xiaoxiao's self-confidence was hit, and he was not very willing to eat. So I suggested to the little father: "When you are eating, try not to interfere with him, ignore his posture first, and practice some dining etiquette such as using chopsticks and spoons as a learning project." Little Daddy agreed. I also deliberately add some simple finger games to my class to practice the flexibility of my little fingers.
After 1 week, I had a return visit to Xiaoxiao's problem of not liking to eat, and Xiaoxiao's father happily told me: "Xiaoxiao has improved a lot now, and can basically sit at the table to eat at meal time, and can eat by himself, but sometimes he is still picky because the food is not in his taste." ”
In this regard, my advice to the little dad is: "When establishing good dining habits for the little one, start with the food he likes, slowly add the food he doesn't like, and don't ask him to eat it to avoid causing too much pressure on him." ”
Little Daddy gladly accepted my suggestion. One month later, Little Daddy sent me a video again, the name of the video was "Little Love Eats". In the video, Xiaoxiao eats very seriously, and the originally slightly awkward gestures have also been improved. Until now, Xiaoxiao has been able to eat well, and his originally light weight has also increased.
Many times, parents will have some problems with the way their children are raised, but these problems are not unsolvable, as long as they communicate with the teacher in time and correct them according to the teacher's suggestions, the child's progress will be great.
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When it comes to topics related to children, it always triggers all kinds of thoughts, and the situation of "children not eating well" seems to be a problem for many parents. This article is about the teacher who began to support the little parents through the feedback from parents and video recordings. The teacher's suggestions were comprehensive and detailed, ranging from the setting of the eating environment to the improvement of the way the family was raised. From the basic physiological needs of "filling the stomach" to "the formation of good dining habits", with this step-by-step guidance, Xiaoxiao has also realized the transformation from "not liking to eat" to "loving to eat". In this process, we found that in addition to the problem of the child's own non-cooperation, it is more about the improper way we guide as parents, such as the mother repeatedly correcting the posture of holding chopsticks after the child has begun to concentrate on eating, so that the child is full of frustration and is unwilling to "eat well". In fact, it is not only the problem of children's eating, but we can also learn from this case in other aspects.
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Reference: Training Casebook for Children with Autism - Jia Meixiang Wei Qingyun