It is often said:
"If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you. ”
The old Chinese saying has been passed down from generation to generation, and it is concise and powerful, and it has influenced it to this day.
Behind these simple old sayings are the wisdom of our ancestors, revealing the mystery of life, which is worth reading again and again.
Today, I have compiled these 10 old sayings for you, learn a little about how to behave in the world, and how to be a person and do things.
01
Treat people with kindness on weekdays, and someone will help you in times of emergency
"Zhou Yi" said: "A gentleman carries things with virtue." ”
If the land is not thick, it cannot carry mountains and rivers, and if the people's hearts are not thick, they will not be able to get true feelings.
Wang Xifeng in "Dream of Red Mansions" usually likes to calculate and treats his subordinates harshly.
When you are proud, the scenery is infinite and everyone clings to you, and when you are in trouble, no one helps you and dies miserably.
It was "the agency was too clever to calculate and mistakenly cost Qingqing's life".
You don't have to be too shrewd, people who are too calculating tend to lose a lot of things.
Calculation can only get a temporary benefit, and kindness can enjoy the blessings of a lifetime.
In this world, only character can stand in the world for a long time.
A kind-hearted person is humble and courteous, and his association with him is like a spring breeze;
People who are full of calculations are bitter and mean everywhere, and their dealings with them are like pins and needles.
Usually treat people with generosity, and there are people to help them in times of trouble.
02
Roosters fight head to head, and husbands and wives quarrel without holding grudges
"It's raining and it's raining, and the two fight without holding grudges; they eat a pot during the day and sleep on a pillow at night. ”
This is a long-standing folk song in southern Sichuan, which tells the secret of Chinese-style ordinary couples growing old together.
Husbands and wives can respect each other when they love each other, and they will not give in to each other when they quarrel.
It's like two fighting cocks, emotionally up, and they can't take care of anything.
Even loving couples will inevitably have conflicts.
We can vent our suppressed emotions through quarrels, and we must not hurt our harmony because of quarrels.
From green silk to white heads, the rest of your life needs to know the art of getting along:
Don't fight cold, communicate more in case of trouble, don't hold grudges, and give the other party a step.
The relationship can't stand the toss, sometimes the quarrel is broken up, and finally the relationship fades.
Please cherish the people around you.
03
If you ask for someone, you need a husband, and if you want to help someone, you need to help when you are in a hurry
Living in the world, no one is an island, and we must have the ability to recognize people.
If you ask for someone, you must find a real righteous gentleman, otherwise, it is useless to ask for more.
During the Three Kingdoms, Liu Bei entrusted his death to Zhuge Liang.
Many people are not at ease, worried that the resourceful Zhuge Liang will seek power and usurp the throne.
Liu Bei is a shrewd person.
He believes in Zhuge Liang's character and will not do unkind and unrighteous acts.
Sure enough, in order to keep his promise, Zhuge Liang did his best to die.
Reading countless people, it is better to read people skillfully: pro-gentleman, far from the villain, less victims.
"Saving people and saving emergencies is not helping the poor", and helping others must be clearly distinguished.
In case of emergency, others will be grateful and will reciprocate.
But if you save the poor, you are likely to rely on you for the rest of your life, and even have resentment, and you will take revenge.
Learn a little about people, stay away from those who hurt you, and get close to those who nourish you.
04
The spirit of the scalper must be there, and the temper of the tiger is indispensable
The most regrettable thing in "Water Margin" is Wu Song's brother Wu Dalang.
He came from a miserable background, his parents died, and he made a living by selling cooking cakes.
He worked diligently every day, worked hard in the cold and summer, and raised his younger brother Wu Song.
Finally, when the time comes, I can start a family.
But he happened to meet Ximenqing, who bullied the soft and was afraid of the hard, and ended up with a tragic ending.
In life, there is no shortage of honest people around us, they are hard-working, just like old scalpers, hard-working.
But they often don't know how to refuse, don't know how to justify, and are most likely to be bullied.
As the saying goes, people are harmless, but tigers are harmful.
We can not lose our temper, but we must have a little "temper".
There is nothing wrong with kindness, and honesty cannot be weak and deceitful.
05
The first class and the second rely on the third to fail, and one dares to do two and three succeeds
Xun Ziyun:
"I try to think all day long, it is better to learn what I have to learn. ”
No matter how beautiful the imaginary world is, if you don't put it into action, it will be a dream after all.
I've seen such a story:
There are two monks in Shu, one is poor and the other is rich.
Both monks share a common dream: to go to the South China Sea.
The poor monk thought that he was poor anyway, so it was better to set off immediately.
The rich monk thought that he should save his money and talk about going to the South China Sea.
So the two monks parted ways.
After a long time, when we met again, the poor monk had returned from the South China Sea, and the rich monk had still not been to the South China Sea.
If you want to do something, you must seize the opportunity and act immediately.
Wait until tomorrow to talk about it, and leave yourself with more regrets.
Instead of wasting time worrying about whether to do it, it is better to worry about how to do it.
Thinking is a problem, doing is the answer.
06
Nail the stake first, then tie the donkey, first scatter the nest and then fish
Lay a stake before tying a donkey, and find a good position before casting a net to catch fish.
Things have a sequence, but every step must be missing.
"If you are prepared, you will stand, and if you don't prepare, you will be wasted. ”
People who prepare well in advance tend to succeed.
Wang Qian, a famous general of the Qin State, every time he received a new military order, he would make full preparations in advance.
Prospect the opponent's grain and grass, combat terrain, and the situation of troops on both sides.
After detailed scrutiny and analysis, the battle plan is formulated, so he is often invincible and becomes a victorious general.
The battle between the two armies is not only about the moment of engagement, but also about all the preparations before that.
Be prepared for danger in times of peace, be prepared if you think, and be prepared for danger.
07
Birds cherish feathers and tigers cherish skin, and people cherish their faces
People live with a face, and trees live with a skin.
We may sometimes have to be aggrieved, but we must not lose our bottom line.
That's the minimum we need to be.
Li Xiangjun of "Qin Huai Bayan" is an admirable woman who adheres to morality and loyalty.
Although his family is in the middle of the road and lives in Fireworks Willow Lane, he has not lost his principles of life:
The unrighteous do not pay, the ill-gotten wealth is not taken, and the unloved do not marry.
The new Cao Fu Tian Yang sent someone to send 300 gold, wanting to accept Li Xiangjun as a concubine.
Xiangjun would rather offend the powerful than keep his love with Hou Fangyu.
In her life of sorrow and joy, Li Xiangjun always guards her bottom line and lives a sober, pure, and tenacious life.
She kept the bottom line in her heart and lived a calm and unhurried life.
In this life, people do something and don't do something.
Keep the original intention, do not lose the bottom line, live a down-to-earth life, and be worthy of yourself.
08
Family members talk in their ears, and outsiders speak in golden scriptures
In "The Book of Rites: University", it says:
"Self-cultivation followed by family unity, family unity followed by governance of the country. ”
If a person wants to achieve more, he must first handle family relationships well and correct his attitude towards his family.
But in life, we will always have the illusion that it is not our relatives who feel that the best for us is not our relatives, but outsiders who cater to us and flatter them.
Therefore, they often listen to what their family members say with their left ear and come out with their right ear, and they always believe in the words of others.
As everyone knows, the words of relatives may be nagging, but they are really good for you.
Family members are supposed to be the closest people to us, but they are also the ones we tend to ignore.
Treat your family members with 12 points of patience and 100 points of heart, don't be impatient, and don't look at your family members.
Listen to your family and speak to your family well.
There are fewer family disputes and a happier life.
09
Good medicine is difficult to cure the disease of injustice, and good words are difficult to persuade fools
There is a story in the Analects:
Zigong asked his friends.
Zi said: "Advice and good ways, do not stop, do not humiliate yourself." ”
Zigong asked Confucius for advice on how to make friends.
Confucius said:
"When a friend is at fault, do your best to counsel him and guide him to goodness.
If your friends don't accept persuasion, forget it, don't be bored anymore. ”
People have different perceptions of things, and their understanding of things will also be different.
Instead of talking about chickens and ducks, it is annoying to people, it is better to be clean and persuade more.
I tried to persuade others with all my heart, and it was okay for others to accept it.
But in reality, most people are oral, unconvinced, and blame you for being nosy.
Sometimes, a little wisdom is needed: "Everyone sweeps the snow in front of his door, and doesn't care about the frost on the tiles of his house".
Socialize with people, keep a little safe distance, and be comfortable with each other.
10
Walking is not afraid to go up the mountains, and holding boats is not afraid to cross dangerous shoals
We often say that there is no standard answer to life, and everyone has their own notes.
In the face of adversity, put away your fear of difficulties.
No matter how difficult the road is, there is an end, and no matter how difficult it is to do, there is a time when it can be completed.
As long as you are firm in your heart, you will be able to break through the ups and downs and become a road.
You must know that it is not only the eagle that has reached the pyramid, but also the snail can climb it with its own perseverance.
Standing at the top, you can see the same scenery as the eagle.
Ups and downs are the normal state of life, and ups and downs are the taste of life.
Don't be proud when you're at the top, and don't give up when you fall into the trough.
As long as we live, there is hope for the better.
When you turn your experience into an experience, turn your experience into a story, and live every day to the fullest, this life is complete.
Although the old saying is old, it is not old, and although the old saying is rough, it is not rough.
These old sayings are like old wines, which last for a long time.
After the screening of time, it has been handed down to this day, guiding our lives and telling us some life truths.
As the old saying goes, remember that you will benefit in the end.