Confucius said: "Living with good people is like entering the room of Zhilan, and you will not smell its fragrance for a long time;
Living with people who are not good, such as entering the abalone, do not smell its smell for a long time. ”
What kind of friends you associate with, what kind of fate you will have.
The wrong people drain each other, and the right people nourish each other.
For the rest of your life, be close to those who nourish you, and you will have a better future.
1. Walk with excellent people and cultivate knowledge
As the old saying goes: "Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black." ”
The impact of the environment on people is subtle and far-reaching.
When you're in the company of exceptional people, there's a sense of progress all around.
Before you know it, you will examine yourself, strive for higher standards, and keep growing.
Over time, your knowledge and knowledge will spiral upwards and change dramatically.
When Zeng Guofan chooses friends, they are all enterprising and positive people.
He often admonished his friends and relatives to stay away from those who were inactive and lazy.
When Zeng Guofan's younger brother Zeng wanted to go to Hengyang to study, he strongly objected.
Because most of the people there are not enterprising, they can't motivate him to learn.
Zeng Guofan was worried that his younger brother would be affected by these people, and he also developed a habit of laziness after a long time.
Therefore, he strongly recommended his younger brother to go to Changsha to complete his studies. With the help of mentors and friends such as Li Xubin and Luo Zenan, his two younger brothers finally achieved great achievements.
Zeng Guofan said: "Choosing friends is the first priority in life. ”
Partnering with excellent people is the best way to enrich knowledge and achieve self-growth.
Over time, you will have a broad vision and a broad pattern to accumulate strength for future development.
2. Have deep friendships with comfortable people and nourish your heart
Zhuangzi said: "The friendship of a gentleman is as light as water, and the friendship of a villain is sweet." ”
Being with someone who is comfortable can feel joy and warmth without words.
Friendship is lightly grasped, joy is tasted, talk is speculative, and the mind is open, even when there is silence, you can relax to your heart's content.
In the days to come, deep friendship with comfortable people is the best way for a person to nourish his heart.
There is such an elderly couple.
Although they have no experience in cooking, they live happily ever after, together for more than fifty years.
I remember that when I went to interview, my wife faced the camera and said with a smile:
We have a kitchen at home, but neither of us is good at cooking, either the food is too cold or too raw for anyone to eat.
Since we don't know how to cook, we choose to eat out every day, but every meal is full of laughter.
The husband never blamed his wife for not being able to cook because he married a woman, and the kitchen was deserted and there was no fireworks.
The wife never felt that she could not cook, so she lost her identity as a wife, and she would not force her husband to cook for her.
Deep friendship with comfortable people is like drinking a cup of fine tea, nourishing the body and mind, and the aftertaste is endless.
Without complaining and blaming, without bad emotions such as worries and troubles, how can people not be refreshed and physically and mentally healthy?
No matter how the years go by, I still feel cordial and loved, and I am always comfortable and comfortable when getting along.
3. Get along with optimistic people and nourish your energy
As the saying goes: with hard-working people, you won't be lazy. With positive people, you won't be depressed.
Optimistic people always face life with a positive attitude, no complaints, no depression, no negativity.
Spend time with them, even on cloudy days, and your heart is full of sunshine.
Their words are always just right to convince you of the hope of "turning the peak".
Even at low points, their enthusiasm and belief can contag you and make you face everything with a positive attitude and smile every day.
Shi Tiesheng, a great Chinese writer, was confined to a wheelchair when he was young due to a disability in both legs.
In the early years, he was depressed, miserable, confused and confused about the future.
Until one day, his friend Liu Qing said to him, "Why don't you write something without writing? I believe you have the ability to write." ”
With Liu Qing's encouragement, Shi Tiesheng tried to write and record his thoughts on life.
Subsequently, his novels came out one after another, among which "Me and the Altar of Earth" has influenced generation after generation.
Under the infection of Liu Qing's positive energy, Shi Tiesheng announced to the world: "With a smile, sing the ballad of life." ”
Optimistic people are like a beam of light in the darkness, illuminating our way forward.
Their open-mindedness calms your inner turmoil and makes you more comfortable and comfortable.
Their positivity nourishes your soul and helps you step onto a more exciting stage.
Getting along with optimistic people is like sowing goodness, leaving confidence and happiness in your heart.
4. Associate with kind people and raise blessings
Mencius said, "A gentleman is more than being kind to others." ”
Kindness, silent, but shining, obscurity, but warm the heart.
A kind person ignites the love of the heart, expands the vision of the eyes, and nourishes the compassion of the heart.
Associate with them, plant the seeds of good fortune in your heart, and surprises and good fortune will come as scheduled.
During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, the State of Chu had a kind and benevolent doctor, Meng Li.
There is a doorman in the mansion named Feng Yuan, who is ugly in appearance and has a withdrawn and strange personality, and everyone else avoids him.
Only Meng Li was very respectful and polite every time he met him, caring for the greetings, even if Feng Yuan didn't respond much, Meng Li never showed the slightest displeasure.
When others were talking about Feng Yuan, Meng Li always admonished everyone: "His nature is like this, and he has no malice. ”
Later, Meng Li was falsely accused, dismissed and returned to his hometown, and the other guests left one after another, only Feng Yuan was always by his side to protect him.
"Pipe" says: "Those who are good are also good." ”
Kind people, loyal, excellent moral character, the most trustworthy and dependable.
Get along with kind people, even if it's a compliment you don't know, a kind thought,
It can also make your originally sour life sweet, and make your life full of warmth and hope.
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Zeng Guofan once said: "The failure of a lifetime is all related to the virtue of friends, and you must not be careless." ”
You will meet many people in life, but not everyone is worthy of your association.
To choose friends is to choose your future.
For the rest of your life, walk with excellent people, make deep friendships with comfortable people, get along with optimistic people, and associate with kind people.
Staying close to the people who nourish you is the best way to make friends!