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Why early marriage? Explore the secrets behind the ancient "early love".
Have you ever wondered why in ancient times, why those little brothers and sisters were in a hurry to jump into the siege of marriage at a young age?
Don't tell me that they are because of love, how can the love at that time be so romantic now, and it will last forever at every turn. To be honest, I almost didn't laugh when I heard this reason.
Just kidding, in fact, behind the early marriage in ancient times, there is a very real problem: short lifespan. You heard it right, it's the "short lifespan" that makes people want to roll their eyes when they hear it.
At that time, when medical conditions could not keep up, the average life expectancy of people was in their thirties. Do you think, if you live to be thirty years old and you are about to say goodbye to the world, then you must not hurry up and have a child, so that your family's incense can continue?
Therefore, early marriage in ancient times was actually a very rational choice. Of course, this rational choice also brings a series of problems, such as those teenage couples, who are estimated to not even be able to take care of themselves, and have to take care of a child who is waiting to be fed.
Hey, it's tiring to think about them.
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Times have changed, and late marriage has become a new favorite
But fortunately, the times are progressing and society is developing. Now we are much happier, not only the medical conditions have been greatly improved, but also the life expectancy has been extended a lot.
What does this mean? It means that we can have more time to enjoy life, to pursue our dreams, to have a big relationship!
Speaking of which, I have to mention the amazing country of the Netherlands. You may not know that in the Netherlands there is a law that allows girls to marry at the age of 12 at the very youngest!
When I heard the news, my jaw almost dropped. 12 years old? Isn't that still in elementary school? Is it true that Dutch schoolchildren are already talking about marriage?
Later, after some understanding, I learned that I was lonely and unheard. Such a legal provision does exist in the Netherlands, but it is only a stopgap measure in rare cases.
If a 12-year-old girl really wants to get married, it has to go through a series of rigorous vettings: both parties have to agree, both parents have to nod their heads, and finally they have to get the approval of the local judge. After this set of processes, it is estimated that the daylilies are cold.
Therefore, in the Netherlands, girls who can really get married at the age of 12 can be said to be rare. Most Dutch women still choose to enter marriage in their twenties, which is a more mature and stable age.
After all, marriage is not child's play, you have to be cautious and cautious!
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Social change in the context of the trend of late marriage
With that out of the way, let's take a look at the trend of late marriage around the world. I don't know if you have noticed that your friends and colleagues seem to be quietly postponing their marriage?
Those young people who used to get married and have children in their early twenties now seem to have become "leftover men and women"?
In fact, this phenomenon is not accidental, but the inevitable result of social development. With the improvement of women's status and economic independence, more and more women are beginning to pursue their careers and dreams.
They no longer regard marriage and family as their only goals in life, but pay more attention to personal growth and development.
As for men, it is no longer a product of the traditional concept of "starting a family first and then starting a business." They begin to pay more attention to their careers and social circles, hoping to achieve some success in these areas before considering marriage.
As a result, late marriage has become an increasingly common trend. This is not only because people are more focused on personal growth and career development, but more importantly, because people's attitudes towards marriage have changed radically: from the "must" in the past to the "choice" in the present.
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A cautious view of marriage
But then again, in the face of this trend of late marriage, what should we really think? The answer is actually four words: start with caution and finish well. What does that mean?
That is to say, marriage should not be treated as lightly as a game or gambling, but should be treated as a major life event that needs to be treated carefully.
Before deciding to get married, we need to have a comprehensive and in-depth understanding of ourselves and each other. This understanding includes but is not limited to each other's hobbies, personality traits, living habits, family background, etc.
Why do we need to know this? Because only in this way can we ensure that we have enough responsibility and maturity to take on the responsibilities and obligations of the family.
You don't want to find out that the other party is a big man or a loser after marriage, right?
At the same time, we also need to have a correct and comprehensive understanding of marriage. Marriage is not only a legal union, but also a spiritual fit and emotional blending.
In other words, marriage is when two people live together as a partner, supporting each other, understanding each other, and tolerating each other. Only in this way can we go more steadily and long-term on the road of marriage.
For those who have entered the palace of marriage, it is even more necessary to cherish the person in front of them. Don't think about the world and temptations outside all day, know that the person at home is the person you love the most.
Let love bloom with a different brilliance in ordinary days. Remember, dear friends, happiness is not given by others, but created by oneself!
So whether you marry early or late, be sure to be careful about every relationship and every choice!
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Laugh about the concept of marriage
Speaking of this, I suddenly remembered a joke: someone asked a child, "Do you know why the bride and groom exchange rings at the wedding?"
The child thought for a while and replied: "Because the ring is round, it symbolizes that love never ends, but why don't they just change the hula hoop?
Although this is just a joke, it also reflects a humorous and witty attitude towards marriage.
Marriage is indeed a serious matter, but that doesn't mean we can't face it with humor and wittyness.
In the long journey of life, if you can find someone who is willing to join hands with you to spend the wind and rain and share happiness, what a happy and beautiful thing it will be!
After all, there is nothing more warm and satisfying in this world than finding someone who knows the cold and the hot and the cold.