My 80-year-old father-in-law died suddenly in my hometown, and I didn't pay a penny for the banquet, and I was stopped by two brothers-in-law at the door and not allowed to leave:
"Second brother-in-law, my eldest brother-in-law gave a gift of 60,000 yuan, you don't even dare to let out a fart, what do you mean?
On one side, my wife urged me to pay for the gift, and on the other side, the two brothers-in-law were extremely vicious, looking like they wouldn't let me go without taking the money.
(This story is pure fiction, if there are similarities, it is purely a coincidence, please watch it rationally!)
●—≺ 岳父并非生父 ≻—●
My wife and I met in college, and after graduating from college, we started a business and got married together, and before we got married, I knew that her family was indescribable.
Because she has four sisters and brothers, she is the only one in the family who has gone to college, and his wife is not a "Voldemort", but many things make me dissatisfied.
My mother-in-law died young, and my wife and siblings were all raised by my father-in-law, and I didn't know the secret at first.
It wasn't until my father-in-law fell ill and the two brothers-in-law kept shirking and unwilling to take care of it that I learned that this father-in-law was not their biological father.
The wife's biological father died early, and the mother dragged her four children in the countryside, which was extremely difficult, and many neighbors persuaded the mother-in-law to find another one while she was young, so as to reduce the burden of life.
In this way, the honest stepfather walked into this house, and they all said that it was difficult to be a stepmother, and the same was true for the stepfather, and the wife and four brothers did not welcome the stepfather at first.
Stills from "My Father and Stepfather".
The stepfather was honest and hardworking, and all the money he earned was handed over to his wife and mother, and over time, the family gradually became emotional.
The wife was admitted to college and had no money to study, so the stepfather tried to work everywhere, and finally made up the tuition fees, and the two brothers-in-law reached the age of marriage, and the stepfather saved 110 dollars to add a bride price to them.
The stepfather is an out-and-out pillar at home, but fate makes people, but he does not have a good old age.
After the two brothers-in-law got married, they rarely went back to the village to visit, and the mother-in-law was sick in her early years, and she died without seeing her son marry.
Fortunately, my father-in-law is more optimistic, and he can take care of his own life, and he is far away from the hustle and bustle of the vegetable garden, and he also has his own happiness.
My wife felt sorry for my father-in-law, but after we got married, we have been starting a business in the provincial capital, and we have no time to do it, so we can only often buy something to be delivered to my brother-in-law's house, and ask my brother-in-law to bring it to my father-in-law.
Every year during the Chinese New Year, I can see a lot of familiar things at my brother-in-law's house, I know that my wife bought it for my father-in-law, but I don't want to provoke conflicts.
But what I dislike the most is the "ugly food" of the two brothers-in-law!
They had all bought houses in the town, not far from their father-in-law's old house, but they hardly visited;
They obviously have their own income, but they always hint that their wives will help them during the New Year's dinner, and even the children's New Year's red envelopes are secretly doing some tricks.
The two brothers-in-law each have two children, and I give the children a red envelope of 1,000 yuan every year, but they always give my daughter 500 yuan.
I was a little unhappy a few times, I just had a daughter, and each of them had two sons, and they earned me 3,000 yuan inside and out.
After that, I learned to be shrewd, and also gave their children a red envelope of 500 yuan, but I didn't expect people to be more sophisticated, so I first accepted my red envelope, and after secretly looking at the amount inside, I cut half a package to my daughter again.
No matter how you calculate it, our family suffers.
When my father-in-law was 80 years old, his health suddenly deteriorated, and after staying in the hospital for a while, the doctor recommended that he go home for conservative treatment.
The sick old man couldn't live alone, my wife and I put down our careers and returned to my father-in-law's old yard, doing laundry, lighting fires, cooking, everything by ourselves.
I have done a lot of such things, and I often comfort myself, but I am just a brother-in-law who is far away from my hometown, and I usually don't interact with them or get angry with them, and more is better than less.
But what happened next made me speechless and made me see the ugliness of human nature!
●—≺ Funeral Ceremony ≻—●
My father-in-law's illness didn't last long, and my wife and I stayed with us in our hometown for more than two months before my father-in-law passed away.
When I was dying, my wife was so grief-stricken that I hurriedly called my wife's sister and two younger brothers, but when they arrived at my father-in-law's house, their reactions were different.
The wife's sister did not read much, and married her co-worker early after working in the provincial capital, after which she became pregnant and gave birth to a child, returned to the small county town in her hometown, and lived on the money earned by her husband working outside.
My wife's sister-in-law is also from the countryside, and the family is not rich, so she is particularly picky and searching.
When she arrived at her stepfather's bedside, her sister-in-law didn't have time to shed a tear, and first raised the issue of burial:
"Although this is not our father, but we have lived together for so many years, and now that he is gone, the four of us sisters and brothers have to explain clearly how to divide the inheritance, as well as the burial, how to divide the labor?"
My wife's sister is not rough, they didn't want to care when my father-in-law was alive, and now that he has died, someone has to show up at the funeral, otherwise the village and outside the village will see jokes.
But then again, my father-in-law worked hard all his life, and the money he earned was subsidized to the four of them, so how could he have any inheritance?
There are only a few thin plots of land and three tiled houses, my wife is used to living in the city, and she definitely doesn't want these things, and my wife and sister also said no, and the real estate is divided equally between the two brothers-in-law.
I stood by and was silent, because I knew it wasn't going to go this way.
Because there is no family property, everyone can't see oil and water, so naturally they won't fight for blood like a TV series.
But the funeral is different, this is a project that costs money, and there are naturally more people who use their brains, and I, as a son-in-law, shouldn't have talked too much, so I can only listen to their thoughts quietly.
Maybe it's because I'm afraid of spending money, or maybe I'm afraid of being "slaughtered" by my younger brothers, this time it's my wife and sister who took the lead in speaking out:
"The water spilled by the married daughter, there is no rule in our hometown for the girl to pay for the funeral, what do you say?"
My sister-in-law's meaning is obvious, she just doesn't want to pay, but I can understand it, after all, she has had a hard time for so many years, and no one subsidizes her.
I don't have any opinion, but my wife's sister's words, I don't even have to pay for our family, will the brothers-in-law be willing?
I don't know what's going on, but this time the two brothers-in-law are very talkative, and they have made clear the division of responsibilities.
They paid for all the expenses of the funeral, but my wife and sister had to pay for the entertainment of relatives, friends, and villagers who came to help.
At first glance, this arrangement sounds reasonable, but when it comes to implementation, I find that there are many problems.
After many inquiries, I figured out the funeral customs of my wife's hometown, and the death of my parents was indeed paid for by the sons, and the daughters only needed to pay for the guests, and finally they had to give a gift and it was over.
Here, the brothers-in-law contacted things related to the funeral, and over there, I accompanied my wife and sisters to the street to buy things, and the two of them made a careful calculation, spending less than 20,000 yuan in total.
And almost all of this money is paid by his wife alone.
After the funeral, my sister-in-law came to me and said that she wanted to share the expenses of 20,000 yuan with our family, and I waved my hand and said, "Sister, your life is already difficult, keep the money to buy something for the children."
When my sister heard me say this, she immediately smiled and did not refuse.
Soon it was time to eat the thank-you banquet, and the brother-in-law set up a lot of tables in his hometown, making a heroic aura, and everyone was happy to eat, but only I didn't feel good in my heart.
When their father-in-law was alive, they did not cook a single meal for the old man, and after his father-in-law died, they were willing to spend money.
At the time of the funeral, my brother-in-law was working in other places and had not yet come over, but he rushed over to eat on the day of the thank-you banquet, everyone was a son-in-law, and I shouldn't have blamed him for anything.
But no one expected that before the meal was finished, he gave me a backstab!
●—≺ Brother-in-law who is not authentic ≻—●
During the banquet, he suddenly got up and walked to the table where the salute was held, took the initiative to look through the gift list, and took a pen to sketch on it.
Then he spoke domineeringly in front of everyone: "My father-in-law died, it was all done by my two brothers-in-law, and it must have cost a lot of money, I have no culture as a brother-in-law, and I can't do my filial piety when I can't come back in the field, and my ability is limited, today I will give 60,000 yuan, thank you"!
As soon as these words came out, there was applause one after another on the flowing water seat, and the villagers praised my sister and Mrs. for being good, while at the same time, countless pairs of eyes looked at me.
My sister-in-law, brother-in-law, two brothers-in-law, and their wives seemed to be waiting for me to stand up and speak.
My blood rushed to my head, and after a brief moment of embarrassment, I immediately regained my composure, did not rush upward, and became a retracted turtle.
Fortunately, the calmness at that time allowed me to inadvertently avoid a "big pit".
Everyone thinks that my brother-in-law has followed 60,000 yuan, and my wife and I, as college students and husband and wife, are starting a business in the provincial capital and becoming bosses, so we must follow more, no matter how bad it is, we have to be as much as my brother-in-law.
The two brothers-in-law may think the same way, but when they saw that I was unwilling to pay for the gift, they immediately changed their faces again!
After the thank-you banquet, many relatives, friends and villagers who helped left the venue one after another, and my wife and I were also about to pack up and leave, but we didn't expect to be stopped by two brothers-in-law before we were discharged from the hospital.
They changed their politeness before eating, and said to me simply and rudely: "Brother-in-law, you can't go!"
No matter how stupid I was, I realized that this was going to kill me.
But they only noticed that I did not speak during the banquet, did not accompany the salute, and did not notice that I had just taken advantage of the toilet to sneak up on the table and look at the receipts and the final ledger.
The brother-in-law and brother-in-law are not smart.
The brother-in-law shouted that he was giving a gift of 60,000 yuan on the surface, and the name and amount were also written on the gift list, but when the general ledger was in the general account, the total number of the gift list was only more than 30,000 yuan, that is, the brother-in-law shouted and did not pay.
If I stupidly follow the gift of 60,000 yuan, the two brothers-in-law can not only get more than 30,000 yuan from the villagers, but also share another 30,000 yuan each!
After figuring out the secret, I didn't make a noise, and I didn't dare to tell my wife, for fear that my wife would stand up and do something bad, so I had the ugliness of two brothers-in-law blocking the door after dinner.
I cared about my brother-in-law's family situation was not good, and I took a lot of money to entertain relatives and friends, but I didn't expect my brother-in-law to take revenge with his backhand, and colluded with the two brothers-in-law to cheat me out of money.
Since they are unkind, then don't blame me for being unjust!
I thought for a moment and continued to pretend to be stupid: "What's the matter? After the funeral is over, your sister and I should also go home, is there anything left unfinished?"
The wife's eldest brother opened his mouth first: "Second brother-in-law, my eldest brother-in-law is a gift of 60,000 yuan, you don't dare to let go of a fart, what do you mean?
He was strong and vicious, and I couldn't help but laugh when I saw it, and my wife was a little scared beside me, so she whispered, "We really haven't given the salute yet?"
I pressed my wife's palm and had already thought of a way to deal with it.
"I said that the married daughter is only responsible for tobacco and alcohol entertainment, and I will leave my sister and brother-in-law's family, they are all a family, and I won't ask my brother-in-law for money. ”
This sentence was said to his wife and brother-in-law, and they didn't dare to talk to each other.
"There is also the matter of gifts, the family is all you and me, and I didn't see you give me gifts when my parents died, so I will be exempted from this ceremony today, no one should compare with anyone, and don't be angry, it makes no sense. ”
This sentence was said to the two brothers-in-law, and they were about to open their mouths to refute after hearing it, but they didn't expect that I hadn't finished speaking.
"The conditions of my brother-in-law's family are poor, and today's opening is 60,000, I really admire it, but I see that only the gift list is written, and the general ledger of the family is still 60,000 yuan, is my brother-in-law cash or an IOU today?"
As soon as these words came out, the brother-in-law's family couldn't get off the stage in an instant, and his wife and sister were stunned for a few seconds, and immediately sat on the ground crying and grabbing the ground, shouting that they had no money.
In fact, I didn't really want to embarrass their family's 60,000 yuan, but my brother-in-law was not kind first, and I had to teach him a lesson.
Several of them were stunned on the spot, and I left with my wife and daughter, and although my father-in-law's funeral was over, I obviously underestimated the power of rural gossip.
Within two months, it was rumored everywhere in my hometown that I was an iron rooster and a white-eyed wolf, and my father-in-law's funeral was a dime, and I was embarrassed by my wife's and sister's family.
I can think with my toes that this word is definitely coming from two brothers-in-law.
But the eyes of the masses are bright, the uncles and aunts at the head of the village are not stupid, they saw me and my wife spending months in front of my father-in-law's bed, and also saw that the two brothers-in-law once ignored my father-in-law, and praised me for doing a good job behind my back!
The basin of dirty water went around in a circle, and finally it was splashed back on the brother-in-law.
It is said that "a bowl of soup at the bedside before death is better than crying after death", and filial piety when the old man is alive is much more important than extravagance and waste after death.
The hearts of the people in the world have their own measurements!
Whether it is for my wife or father-in-law, I have a clear conscience, and those two brothers-in-law, is it necessary to associate with them as relatives in the future?
What do you think?