Ma Xuewu and Li Baoli have a marriage of "not the right door".
It was an ordinary spring afternoon, and the sunlight was shining through the cracks in the curtains, and there was some warmth in the darkness of the room. This should be a comfortable and comfortable daily scene, but the people in the house do not feel the warmth of this sunshine at all.
With a "snap", the teacup fell heavily on the table, and the oozing tea blurred a small dark patch on the tablecloth. Li Baoli's face was full of confusion and anger, she glared at the man opposite, and asked sharply: "Ma Xuewu, what do you want me to do? I am working hard outside to earn money to support my family, but you still have to accuse me at home."
Ma Xuewu lowered his head, staring at the small piece of soaked tablecloth with indifferent and confused eyes, which was a symbol of the breakdown of the marriage.
This is the true portrayal of the tragic marriage of Ma Xuewu and Li Baoli. Ma Xuewu was admitted to university after graduating from high school, and is now the director of a state-owned enterprise.
Considering the difference in education level and social experience, the two are very different in values, lifestyles and even personalities.
However, the gears of fate snapped, and they still came together. The marriage was destined to be full of rifts. Just as in this dimly lit room, sunlight cannot penetrate it; The gap between them is too deep for the ideas to match, and it will be difficult to repair the broken marriage after all.
Twists and turns in married life
The sun was shining throughout the living room, and Li Baoli was busily wiping down the tables and cabinets, sweat glistening on her forehead. The first day after moving was really busy, and she took stock of her new home's belongings and wanted to make sure everything was in order.
With a "bang", the vase in Li Baoli's hand "snapped" to the ground, and glass shards splashed in all directions.
Ma Xuewu's face changed slightly, and he tried to keep his tone gentle: "I'm just giving a little expression to the movers, after all, you blame others so much at noon...... I can't be too stingy.
"I blame others, they obviously ......" Li Baoli retorted angrily halfway, but suddenly realized that it was pointless to argue. She shook her head helplessly, turned around and began to clean up the debris from the ground.
The first "battle" of married life began. Li Baoli has a straightforward personality and has always fought hard in case of trouble, while Ma Xuewu is gentle and tactful, paying more attention to decency and atmosphere.
The way the two deal with the problem is very different, which is destined to set off waves of "storms".
From the matter of the moving workers to the education of their children in the future, Ma Xuewu and Li Baoli have not been able to reach a consensus easily. But every time, Ma Xuewu would subtly give in under his wife's strength - because their family, mainly Li Baoli, was supporting it.
Ma Xuewu's inner trade-offs and struggles
With a "bang", Li Baoli slammed the door and walked out. Ma Xuewu looked at the closed door expressionlessly, raised his hand and loosened his tie, and the room was suddenly so stuffy that he couldn't breathe.
Just now, they quarreled again over the issue of their children's education. Ma Xuewu insisted on sending his son to the best school, while Li Baoli thought that public schools were enough and did not have to spend so much money.
"It's not easy for me to make money, what qualifications do you have to dominate at will!" Li Baoli's angry words still echoed in her ears, and Ma Xuewu's hand trembled slightly.
He walked wearily to the balcony and lit a cigarette, the night breeze gently brushing his cheeks.
Ma Xuewu understands that the responsibility of the head of the family is to take care of the family. But I, the "master", Ma Xuewu smiled bitterly, in this family, have I ever been like a master? Li Baoli's strong personality, coupled with her economic responsibility, has already shattered her dignity.
He felt dazed and powerless like never before. I really care about this home, Ma Xuewu thought sullenly. But how can I convince you...... He crouched down slightly, crying low in the darkness.
There are two sides of Li Baoli's personality, strength and weakness
With a "bang", Li Baoli slammed the door behind her. She gasped for air, her angry expression subduing. Raising her hand to wipe away the tears from the corners of her eyes, Li Baoli shook her head self-deprecatingly, turned around and walked to the balcony.
She lit a cigarette, and the night wind blew gently, adding some calm to her restless heart. Although the quarrel with Ma Xuewu just now was fierce, Li Baoli knew very well in her heart that she would give in after all.
Because, this family needs me. Li Baoli took a deep puff of her cigarette, and the bitterness of nicotine wrapped her firm will. I have to be strong, I have to be tough to fight for the rights and interests of this family, this is my responsibility.
She still remembers her mother's weakness when she was a child, and she vows not to repeat the mistakes of the past.
However, I was really tired and tired. Li Baoli looked up at the night sky, the starlight was cold and distant. There was a grief in her eyes, and I really wanted a shoulder to lean on.
She raised her hand and stroked her windswept hair, strength and fragility intertwined in this simple action.
The crux of the breakdown of marriage
The marriage was like a well-oiled machine, and all of a sudden, there was a serious malfunction.
Ma Xuewu's hand that put down the divorce agreement trembled slightly, and he looked at Li Baoli tiredly and desperately: "I'm sorry, Baoli, I really tried my best...... I know that I have not fulfilled my responsibilities as a husband and father over the years, and I should not shirk it in this way, but I am too tired to hold it on.
The problems that had been backlogged for years finally exploded at this moment. Behind this seemingly sudden divorce, there are too many unresolved glitches brewing.
As a man, Ma Xuewu is under pressure to support his family. But the relatively weak personality and withdrawn way of doing things made the position of the leading family all fall on Li Baoli.
Gradually, Ma Xuewu lost his position as the male core of the family and could only retreat to a supporting role. This has worsened the relationship between the two sides.
Li Baoli, on the other hand, has been using a tough way to "protect" this family, but has ignored the mistakes and injuries in the method. She lacks the love and trust to soothe the tensions in family relationships.
Sadly, they are all stubborn and think they are doing the "right" thing. This divorce is a wound that cannot be healed by time due to the estrangement of cultural identity accumulated over the years.
It reminds people that the most valuable thing about relationships is mutual understanding, tolerance and companionship.
Lessons and reflections on unsuitable marriages
The marriage of Ma Xuewu and Li Baoli is like two high-speed trains with different directions, which were forcibly snapped together by the transformation of life. However, the process was bumpy, and the results were devastating.
We should not ignore the importance of relationship choices. The process of love becoming marriage is not always, because happiness is based on shared values and lifestyles.
If it is difficult to fit, what awaits in the end is pain and separation.
Holding on to an inappropriate marriage is huge. From mental wear and tear to the impact of a suboptimal parenting environment on children, this negativity may turn into a shadow on the family and extend to more people's lives.
On the other hand, in marriage, based on ideas, there is enough space between husband and wife to understand, to go, to give generously.
The framework of the relationship does not collapse easily. Marriage thus becomes a haven of home, a place where you can arrange your heart.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, but at least. This is the consensus of Ma Xuewu and Li Baoli after their marriage broke down, and it is also the regret that lingers in their minds the night they want to sleep alone.