Sex education has always been an insurmountable mountain in the hearts of parents. However, the topic never stops, like a child's curiosity. This article will start from the child's physical cognition when he is 3 years old, and continue to discuss the physiological changes until puberty, so as to help you easily guide your child's healthy growth.
Part 1: 3~6 years old, know your own body
At this stage, children begin to develop a curiosity about their bodies. When they ask questions about the body, we need to answer them in plain language. Don't let embarrassment get in the way, for example, when a child asks why a boy pees standing up, we can tell them with a vivid metaphor: it's like magic, when standing up to pee, the boy's little JJ hardens.
At this time, we can use some physiological picture books, such as "The Story of the Breast", "The Story of Little JJ", etc., to help children understand their own bodies and sexual organs through vivid and interesting pictures. At the same time, bathing children is a good opportunity to popularize science, and do not shy away from using physiological terms, so that children can receive sex education in a relaxed atmosphere.
Part 2: 7~9 years old, further cultivate gender awareness
As they get older, children become more gender-conscious. In ordinary life, we need to pay attention to the degree of intimacy in terms of gender, for example, women avoid their fathers, and children avoid their mothers. This is not only to protect the privacy of the children, but also to cultivate the correct gender concept in them.
At the same time, tell your child that when someone touches something that makes them feel uncomfortable, be brave enough to say "no" and tell the parent as soon as possible. This is an important step in cultivating a child's sense of self-protection.
Part 3: 10~15 years old, puberty is coming
Entering puberty, children's bodies undergo great changes, and secondary sexual characteristics gradually appear. At this time, we need to educate our children about these normal physiological phenomena in time, such as menstruation, sperm loss, etc. Don't let your child fall into shame and low self-esteem, timely reassurance and correct guidance are key.
During adolescence, children's attention to the opposite sex also increases. In addition to physiological knowledge, we also need to give them the correct view of love and friendship. Using their own marriage model to teach children to love and be loved is the foundation for cultivating a healthy relationship between the sexes.
Part 4: Two misconceptions about sex education
"Boys don't suffer, they don't need sex education"
Many parents believe that boys are far less likely to be harmed than girls, and therefore invest less in sex education for boys. However, studies have shown that the rate of sexual abuse of boys is also quite high. Sex education is not only a means of preventing sexual assault, but also a way to cultivate healthy sexual attitudes, respect and understanding.
"Boys should be XX, girls should be XX"
Gender stereotypes not only constrain a child's development, but also affect their personality and behavior. We can't ask girls to be like ladies, or boys to be strong and not cry. Children only need to be themselves and get rid of gender stereotypes in order to truly grow up healthily.
Epilogue:
Sex education is a compulsory course to accompany children's healthy growth. From the understanding of the body to the changes in adolescence, each stage requires us to guide children in easy-to-understand language, so that they can thrive under the correct concept of sexuality. Sex education is not a flood of beasts, and there is no need to be ashamed to talk about it. It is our responsibility as parents to be right at the right time. Only by giving children the right sex education can we escort their future, let them have a healthy relationship between the sexes, and move towards a happy future.
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