Bacon said: A person should not be evaluated on the basis of wealth or academic background, but on the basis of their true character.
I want women to understand that a man's character is far more important than his wealth and knowledge. When choosing the object of your choice, don't be deceived by the sweet words of the other person, and don't fall in love. We should be rational. Especially in social interactions and conversations, it is important to always pay attention to the words and actions of the other person and distinguish whether the other person has a strong personality or not.
If he particularly likes to discuss these two topics, it means that his personality cannot pass the test and he must stay away.
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On the constitution of the opposite sex
There are men who always like to rate and comment on a woman's appearance, both online and in reality. They will Xi evaluating women's figure and appearance, or laughing at their fashion and taste.
This behavior not only makes people uncomfortable, but also shows their shallowness and shallowness. Because their eyes tend to stay only on the surface of things, lacking real meaning and emotional depth.
What's more, they don't respect women's ideas at all and only treat them as entertainment.
Imagine how a man who usually talks nonsense about women and likes to make fun of them can really respect his partner?
Maybe one day, he will also criticize your attire and even hope that you will dress up the way he wants. This kind of man who tries to satisfy his own needs by controlling you is often selfish because the person he loves most is still himself.
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Defamation of the ex with others
Any relationship, even if it does not have a good ending, cannot start and end well, it should be easy to get together and disperse, and there is no need to blame the other party. After all, in the world of emotions, it is difficult for anyone to say who is right and who is wrong, unless it is a matter of principle.
Unfortunately, some men start revenge mode after a breakup. They like to fabricate and distort facts, and with a vindictive attitude of "leave me, you can't think of a better one", slander their ex, saying that they are very wronged and hurt.
However, the more they denigrated him, the more it showed that he was narrow-minded and exposed their lack of responsibility. Because in their subconscious, mistakes are always someone else's fault.
What's even more terrifying is that he can denigrate his ex in front of you now, and he may also denigrate you in front of others in the future.
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Wu Guijun said in "Like a Person": "Appreciating a person, starting from appearance, respecting his talent, matching his personality, lasting longer than kindness, and finally his character." ”
Whether it's making friends or choosing a partner, it's important to be discerning and make careful choices. Especially in a marriage that is related to lifelong happiness, it is very important to choose a man of good character.
You know, if a man has a noble character, he will eventually achieve the best version of himself because of his strong abilities and good social relationships. Even when he hits a low point in his life, he will turn the tide.
However, if a person only has money or has read some books, but his character is not up to par, he will end up paying for his mistakes. This cost needs to be borne by you and him.