Marriage is not just a contract, it is a minimum moral standard.
However, many people ignore morality and disregard relationships for their own selfish desires, hurting their families.
Some people try to label this behavior as reasonable and reasonable, trying to maintain inner balance and eliminate guilt while causing empathy.
Although it is despicable, it also expresses the thoughts of many men, which is why they love their wives very much but still keep their lovers.
01: The need to release desires
The Swedes once said that love resides in the desire to give and to see the happiness of the other person as their own.
Unfortunately for couples who have been together for a long time, even if they give each other, they are still consumed by everyday items, which can make the recipient feel less profound, and the feedback given to the recipient will not satisfy or satisfy them.
Even if a person is successful in his career and returns to the family, it is still just the role of an ordinary husband that makes it difficult for a wife to admire.
Men need attention, affirmation, and pursuit, and these do not deeply affect their wives. Even if their love for their wives does not diminish, it is difficult to resist the appreciation of other members of the opposite sex.
This is a psychological need that may have been communicated with the wife before, with little success, or it may not have been given the opportunity to communicate at all.
Men subconsciously feel that their wives are difficult to communicate with and do not value their own ideas, which is why they subconsciously think that they have lost their understanding of their wives.
Whatever the reason, the repression of desires accumulates more and more, and there will always be an outlet for venting. Men's self-righteous behavior satisfies themselves and hurts their wives as well.
02: Need a fresh and exciting one
No matter how deep your relationship with your wife is, you will still lose the freshness after years with her.
You know, people need to be stimulated to awaken their vitality, as if their youth has been resurrected.
It is not only a sensory stimulus, but also a spiritual inspiration, which makes people want to stop and be fascinated.
Humans are animals that like the new and hate the old. They are good at experiencing and enjoying risks, and enjoy the freshness of the excitement in this hidden danger.
There is a saying in the book of Proverbs: The joy of love lies in love, and the passion we feel is more exciting than the passion we awaken.
Under this irritating temptation, the man forgets about the existence of his wife, abandons her, and then looks for every reason to accuse her of negligence, just to justify his betrayal.
03: Passion is needed
Men find extramarital partners who are usually younger than their wives, and the passion they bring to men is very intuitive, which is the vitality and charm of youth.
If he is older than his wife, there is only one possibility that he received more help from his lover, mainly in his career.
The happiness that such a lover brings to a man is not love, but the realization of one's own value.
It has to be said that even though marriage and family are important, men are more obsessed with social status and wealth accumulation.
If an outside lover wants to catch a man, they must be irreplaceable. In the hearts of those who can cheat, youth is the least valuable, and climbing and overcoming obstacles in a career can ignite a man's surging passion.
Therefore, even if a man loves his wife more, he cannot do without such a lover.
A man loves his wife a lot, but still has a lover?
In addition to the above three reasons, the most important one is that men need to think that they love their wives in order to justify their actions.
In fact, love has long been lost. The love for his wife is only to calm the guilt in his heart. If he tells too many lies, he will eventually believe his truth.
If you are unfortunate enough to meet such a man, don't expect anything from him and leave quickly after the divorce, if your man is not like this, while congratulating you, please always maintain your ability to terminate the marriage at any time, enjoy the love and don't lose yourself.