In "Thousand Words", it says: "Relatives are old, old and young. ”
Whether you are visiting relatives or friends, or someone is visiting your home, you should treat them according to their actual situation and give them appropriate food.
For example, when you are dealing with the elderly, you should give them soft food, because their teeth are not very good, and for children, you should give them toys, because they are naturally playful.
It is logical that in the process of our gifts, we should also be different from person to person, do not be reckless, and give things to others at will.
Socialize with friends, grasp the following rules, your popularity will become better, and your image will become taller.
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Respect the weak, it is called virtue.
During the Republic of China, a locust plague broke out in southern Hunan, and the local Yin Tian was affected by it, and the family had no harvest and was worried about eating.
After Wang Yang, a friend in the collection industry, learned about the situation, he specially went to Yin Tian to invite his family as a guest, and then stared at an incense burner and praised it: "This is the Xuande incense burner......
Then, Wang Yang used two loads of rice to replace the incense burner.
A few years later, Yin Tian led him to visit Wang Yang's house. Wang Yang has passed away, and his son is watering the flowers in the yard.
Surprisingly, the Xuande incense burner was used as a flower pot and was not cherished at all.
Yin Tianyin asked why.
Wang Yang's son said: "Uncle, this incense burner is a counterfeit, and my father bought it at a high price, just a friend's ......."
Between people, the most rare thing is to "moisten things silently".
When we find that a friend is in trouble, or we have made a friend who is old, weak, sick or disabled, we need to think about how to help.
You must know that a hundred dollars for a poor friend can cover his food expenses for several days. Moreover, this favor is in place.
My friend is starting a business, but he doesn't have much money, so if you give a big gift, it will also add a strength.
Even on red and white ceremonies, giving a big gift to a friend can also solve the urgent need. Maybe people bury the elderly, just a few thousand yuan.
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Those who are light on the rich are called friendship.
In the past, the envoy who returned to the country of Su traveled thousands of miles and sent swan feathers to the Tang Dynasty.
Tang Taizong was very happy to see the goose feathers, and gave the envoy a lot of valuable things.
When we read the allusion of "courtesy is light and affectionate", we will find that Datang is really not bad for a goose feather, and it also has a swan, but what is bad is human touch.
The Tang Dynasty was rich, and the Hui Kingdom was relatively poor, but it did not prevent the kings of the two countries from being friends.
When we are not rich enough, when we make rich friends, we will definitely think, what should we give? If we want a very expensive gift, we can't afford it, and if we give a red envelope casually, people don't care.
You give 10,000 yuan to a billionaire, and you still can't keep it because of this favor. But you've done your best.
Therefore, we want to give the rich a very light gift, and the number of gifts is enough.
For example, rural people send some sweet potato chips they make themselves to their local tyrant friends in the city. It's not a shame, it's kindness to each other.
For those rich friends who have been accumulating money, they look down on the little red envelopes you give, so don't socialize. You dig out your heart and lungs for him, and he has no heart for you.
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Doing what the locals do is respectful.
For relatives, we generally know their family situation so that we can know their Xi.
A friend is someone who appears halfway, or an acquaintance in two different cities, and if you want to know Xi customs, you have to take the initiative to inquire.
Before the ceremony, it is not wrong to check the Xi of your friend's hometown through the Internet and take the initiative to ask your friend.
Ten miles of different winds, a hundred miles of different customs, this is a very common thing.
For example, weddings in Guangdong are relatively grand, and there are many ceremonies.
The man gives a dowry gift to the woman, there is a chicken, which means vitality, there is a coconut, which means that the grandmother is well, and there is a gift money, which is used to filial piety to the mother's family.
The woman gives the man a gift, and there is betel nut, which means that the groom is healthy. Peanuts, red dates, walnuts, etc., are placed at the head of the bed, implying that the birth of a noble son is early and prosperous.
Which side are you friends with? Then you have to consider whether you have prepared a corresponding gift.
In many places, the bride and groom toast and give small red envelopes. Therefore, it is not wrong for us to bring a few more red envelopes.
Customs and Xi bring people's spiritual outlook and thinking patterns. If the gift money is wrong, it is easy to cause misunderstandings, and even make friends have bad thoughts that you are playing tricks on others.
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Learn to return the gift, which is called a relationship.
In sociology, there is a "threshold effect".
Meaning, who you want to befriend, then visit with a small gift, and make a few small requests each time. If you are familiar with the relationship between the two parties, you will be able to work together later.
When Hu Xueyan, a wealthy man in the late Qing Dynasty, went to borrow money, he took the initiative to come to the door many times, repay the loan, and repay the interest. borrowed money several times to make a good impression on his friend Smith, so that no matter how much money he borrowed, Smith also agreed.
No matter what situation you are in, whether you can return the gift in reciprocity, you have to return the gift.
When you are poor, people give you tens of thousands of yuan, and you return a few hundred yuan, which is also a favor. After you rise, it's not too late to give big gifts.
When you have money, don't underestimate the courtesy of the poor. You give more in return, and you help silently.
"It is rude to come and go, and it is not rude to come and go. This ancient adage reflects the importance of returning the gift.
Friends, the first time to come back to life, the second time to mature, don't stop at the first time.
When we are away from home, we need good connections, but you don't meet people, how can you do it?
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You may ask, having said so much, how much is appropriate to give with the gift?
I can only tell you that there is no fixed number of gifts, and it must be decided according to the actual situation.
The gift itself is also in line with the principle of "helping people in difficulty, saving people in urgent places, and looking at people from afar".
The key to making friends lies in people's hearts. After warming people's hearts, it will be easy to talk about interests.
Your heart is vicious and cold, and you blame your friends for not helping, maybe you don't have any friends.
No matter how good your friends are, don't ignore the rules of courtesy, and don't trap your warm heart in the ice and snow.
When you give a gift, with a love, leave a relationship.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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