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I'm feeling a little conflicted, today I'm going to my boyfriend's house to discuss marriage. I was both looking forward to it and a little nervous, after all, marriage is a major life event that needs to be carefully considered. As I walked along the road, I kept thinking and imagining my future life. My boyfriend and I have been together for several years and we have had a lot of sweet memories and some arguments, but I always felt that we were able to overcome all odds. However, what happened today gave me a hint of hesitation.
"Yani, you're here. "My boyfriend's mother warmly beckoned me into the house.
"Hello Auntie, thank you for inviting me here. I replied politely.
The room is warm and cozy, and the table is filled with delicious dishes. My boyfriend's mother sat across from me with a smile on her face, a golden bracelet shining on her wrist, and I couldn't help but look at it a few more times. I know that it was left to his mother by my boyfriend's grandmother, which means the inheritance of the family and the continuation of love.
"Yani, let's talk about your marriage to my son. The boyfriend's mother suddenly spoke.
I felt a little caught off guard and panicked. I thought I was here today to discuss marriage, but I didn't expect his mother to bring it up so directly. I swallowed, trying to calm my emotions. "Auntie, I've always wanted to talk to you about this too. We have been together for a long time and I love your son very much and cherish the affection between us. ”
"That's great, my son and I are very supportive of you together. My boyfriend's mother smiled and then looked at me again, "However, there is a tradition in our family that sons-in-law must accept our family heritage, which means that you have to accept some of our family's rules and customs. ”
"This ......," I hesitated a little, "I have always felt that the most important thing for two people to be together is to understand and tolerate each other. ”
"Yani, this is our family's tradition and our bottom line. The boyfriend's mother spoke in a somewhat serious tone.
I started to feel a little fluctuating in my heart, I knew that my boyfriend's family had some traditional ideas, but I didn't expect it to be so strict. I pondered for a moment, then finally nodded, "I'll do my best to accept it." ”
"That's good, I'm glad to hear that reply. The boyfriend's mother smiled with relief.
The atmosphere at the dinner table gradually eased and we began to enjoy dinner. My boyfriend's mother kept handing me food, which made me feel a little flattered. However, I could never ignore the golden bracelet on her wrist, as if it was an invisible pressure pressing on my heart.
"Mom, I don't think we should impose so many family traditions on Yani. The boyfriend said suddenly.
"It's not imposed, it's a family legacy, and it's a responsibility and responsibility that we have rooted in our hearts. The boyfriend's mother spoke firmly.
"But Mom, this will put too much pressure on Yani, and it will also affect our relationship. The boyfriend said anxiously.
"Our family tradition is the accumulation of history and culture, a precious legacy left by our ancestors, and I hope you can understand. The boyfriend's mother was a little excited.
After dinner, my boyfriend's mother invited me and my boyfriend to the living room for tea. The coffee table was filled with all kinds of tea leaves and snacks, which seemed to have been specially prepared for us. The three of us chatted while drinking tea, and the atmosphere gradually became relaxed.
"Yani, do you think our family traditions will put pressure on you?" the boyfriend's mother asked suddenly.
I pondered for a moment and shook my head, "I don't think it's pressure, just some confusion and hesitation. ”
"Our family traditions are not set in stone, and we will respect your opinions and choices. The boyfriend's mother's tone softened a lot.
"Thank you, Auntie, I'll think about it. "I was secretly relieved that my boyfriend's mother was examining me and giving me a chance.
We talked for a while, and my boyfriend's mother suddenly stood up, walked to the desk and took out a thick booklet, "This is our family genealogy, from top to bottom, recording the rise and fall of the family and its inheritance." You can take it back and study it slowly. ”
I took the genealogy and flipped through it, and there were countless names and deeds recorded on it. Every page has the blood and culture of my family flowing through it, and I feel an invisible responsibility and mission. However, I also began to feel that this responsibility was too heavy.
Back at home, I lay in bed, closed my eyes, and thought about everything that had happened today. I felt exhausted and full of doubts about the future. My relationship with my boyfriend is deep, but I don't know if I will be able to carry the traditions and responsibilities of my boyfriend's family. I began to feel a little unable to breathe, as if I was being bound by an invisible force.
"Yani, what's wrong with you?" the boyfriend asked with concern.
I slowly opened my eyes and looked at him, "I...... I don't know what to do. I love you and cherish our relationship, but I don't know if I will be able to carry your family's traditions and responsibilities. ”
"Yani, I understand your concerns, but I will be there for you and help you deal with everything. "My boyfriend held my hand tightly.
"You understand me very well, but this involves your family's inheritance and future, and I don't want to be a burden and a burden to your family. "I'm a little incoherent.
The boyfriend was silent for a moment, and then said slowly, "Yani, I love you and can give up everything for you." However, marriage is the union of two families, and I cannot ignore my family's traditions and responsibilities either. I hope you understand me. ”
When I heard his words, my heart ached. I know that my boyfriend loves me, but I also understand that there are still too many questions and confusions between us. I don't want to be a burden to my boyfriend's family, and I don't want him to give up too much for me.
"I'm sorry, I can't take it. I held back my tears and whispered.
The boyfriend pondered for a moment, then nodded slightly, "I understand that there are still some issues between us that need to be resolved. He stroked my hair gently, tears glistening in his eyes.
The relationship between us is deep, but real life is still full of too many variables and challenges. I looked at my boyfriend, and my heart was full of reluctance and pain. However, I knew it was done for our future and for my boyfriend. I got up, packed my bags, and left his house.
In the days that followed, I began to slowly adjust my mindset and re-examine the direction of the future. My boyfriend still messages me every now and then, caring about my life. Our feelings have become a deep imprint, but we both understand that there is a need for more mutual understanding and tolerance in real life.
I found a job I wanted, and I didn't have much time to miss him. But every time I see the golden bracelet on my wrist, I still feel a faint sentimentality in my heart. I know that this feeling will be an indelible memory for me.
In the days after the breakup, I often sat alone at home, quietly in a daze. My boyfriend's every move still haunts me, and I still can't let go of it.
"Yani, go out for a walk, it's not a way for you to go on like this at home alone. My best friend Xiaoling came to my house, held my hand, and said with concern.
I shook my head and whispered, "I haven't stepped out of the shadow of that relationship yet, and I don't know what to do." ”
Looking at Xiaoling's bright eyes, I felt a trace of warmth. Maybe she's right, I can't keep dwelling in the shadows of the past, I need to find a new way out and hope.
"You're right, I can try to get out there and face a new life. I nodded slightly, a feeling of clarity in my heart.
"yes, we can go to the movies together, or go to the mall and find some new clothes. Xiao Ling's eyebrows fluttered and she suggested.
Listening to Xiaoling's words, I felt a smile welling up in my heart. "Okay, I'll go and prepare now, thank you for your company. ”
We left the house together, the sun shining through the clouds on my face, and I felt a breath of fresh air blowing in my face. This feeling made me feel relieved for a long time, and I finally felt like I had a new beginning.
At the door of the movie theater, I picked up my phone and saw my boyfriend's message: "Yani, I know I missed it, but I really love you and regret that my mom was so tough on you that day." I am willing to give up everything and return to you. ”
Looking at this news, my heart rippled. I know my boyfriend really loves me, but the relationship needs the best of both worlds, and I can't let him give up too much for me. I tried to calm myself down and understand my choices.
"Yani, what's wrong with you? Does the message on your phone make you unhappy?" Xiao Ling asked with concern, turning her head to look at me.
I pursed my lips a little and said slowly, "It's a message from my boyfriend, he said he regretted it and was willing to come back to me." ”
Xiao Ling listened to my words quietly, and then said softly: "Yani, feelings are a matter of two people, not a choice of one person. You need to weigh who you are choosing for and for your future. ”
I looked at Xiaoling deeply, and her words made me feel a little relieved. She was right, I can't abandon the values and attitude I adhere to for the sake of my boyfriend's good. I need to be clear that my own well-being is just as important.
"Yani, which movie would you like to watch?" Xiao Ling's voice interrupted my thoughts.
I smiled, looked at her and said, "Actually, instead of watching movies, I think we can go to the mall, I need to find some new clothes." ”
"Okay, let's go to the mall then. Xiaoling took my hand and smiled happily.
We snuggled up to each other and walked into the mall outside the cinema. The hustle and bustle of the crowd made me feel like the world was turning again, and my heart suddenly became lighter. I took a deep breath and stretched my body, looking forward to the future.
"Xiao Ling, look at how beautiful that dress is!" I saw a beautiful dress, and pulled Xiao Ling excitedly and said.
"Wow, it's really beautiful, you can try it. Xiaoling also said happily.
In the dressing room, I put on that dress. I felt a little strange in the mirror, but I also saw myself finding a smile again. I stroked the fabric and smiled softly.
"Yani, how's it going?" Xiao Ling asked with concern outside.
I walked out of the locker room and said to her with a smile, "It fits perfectly, I like it." ”
After walking around for a while, the boredom in my stomach was slowly released. Xiaoling was by my side and cared for me carefully. I felt a new power fill my body. I knew I needed to be strong and start my life all over again.
All this also made me more aware that a relationship requires efforts from both parties, and unilateral sacrifices and concessions cannot build long-term happiness. I need to find my own happiness, which is a commitment I have to myself and a kind of perseverance in my love.
When I left the mall, I felt lighter and happier. I know that maybe after that miserable relationship, I finally have a new beginning, and I will find my own happiness.
Xiaoling stayed with me all day, and we spent hours at the mall, buying some new clothes and makeup. On the way home, I felt a healing change in my mood, and I finally had the courage to step out of that shadow. With Xiaoling by my side, I feel like I've become full of life again.
"Yani, you're in a much better mood today, it seems that shopping is still a bit useful. Xiaoling looked at me with a smile and patted me on the shoulder.
I smiled and nodded, "yes, thank you for being with me, I feel like I'm getting back on my feet." ”
"It's nothing, friends, it's our duty to support each other. "Xiaoling said it lightly, but I can feel the sincerity.
When I got home, I put on the new clothes I had just bought, and I felt like I was looking new in the mirror, and my mood was happy and bright. The sunset outside the window slanted in, bringing a layer of golden warmth to the house.
"Hey, Yani, you're finally back. The phone rang with her boyfriend's voice.
I sighed and picked up the phone, "Well, is there something wrong?"
He groaned, "I heard you went to the mall today, do you feel better?"
I smiled slightly, "Well, it's okay, I'm in a much better mood, thank you for your concern." ”
"Yani, I know I love you, but I also understand that there are still many issues between us that need to be resolved. I will give you time, I will wait for you. There was a hint of firmness in the boyfriend's tone.
I felt a clench in my heart again, I knew my boyfriend loved me, but the problems between us weren't something that could be solved overnight. I need more time to adjust myself, I need more space to think about the future between us.
"Thank you for your understanding, maybe we need some time to calm down. I whispered.
The boyfriend was silent for a moment, then said slowly, "Okay, I'll wait for you, Yani." ”
When I hung up, I was still filled with conflicting emotions. I know I still have feelings for my boyfriend, but I can't blindly turn back because of this feeling. I need to sort out the mess in my mind and find my own answers.
In the days that followed, I began to take the initiative to adjust my life. I exercise, shop, read, and try to keep my life rich and active. Xiaoling also accompanied me, we chatted together, went shopping, and felt the beauty and freshness of life.
"Thank you, Xiaoling, I'll take a good look. I smiled and put my arms around Xiaoling's shoulders.
"It's okay, how do you feel after shopping today?" she looked at me with concern.
I took a deep breath, "I'm feeling better, maybe it's time to start again." ”
Gradually, the darkness in my heart gradually dissipated and was replaced by the light of life. I gradually realized that even if I left my past relationship, I could find my own happiness again. No matter how big the difficulty is, no matter how deep the shadow, I have to overcome it with my own efforts and courage. I need a renewed beginning, facing every possible piece of happiness.
A few months passed, and I slowly adjusted my mindset. I started to devote myself to work and friends, and gradually regained my smile and confidence. I also started to think new about the future.
"Yani, are you going to the high school reunion?" Xiao Ling asked me with her phone.
I thought for a moment, "Okay, I haven't seen them in a long time, I want to go and see them." ”
At the high school reunion, I saw a lot of long-lost faces, and I felt as if I had returned to a long time ago, and my heart was full of warmth and emotion.
"Yani, long time no see!" the high school classmates came over in an endless stream to say hello.
"Yes, you've all changed so much!" I replied with a smile on my face.
"Yani, how are you doing?" a high school friend asked me.
I looked at the people present, chuckled and said, "Actually, I'm fine now, I have a new start in life, and I'm starting to find my own happiness." ”
"That's the most important thing!" Friends chimed in.
During the conversation, I felt some of the heaviness in my heart gradually dissipate, and I seemed to have found a new outlet for life.
On the way home, I called my mom.
"Mom, I recently attended a high school reunion and saw a lot of friends and felt better. I got straight to the point.
"That's good, life always needs to have a new beginning, remember to be kind to yourself. "Mom enlightened me.
"Well, I will, not only to be kind to myself, but also to be hopeful about life. Saying this, I feel like a warrior who bravely faces life.
From that day on, I began to face my heart and my feelings. I hope that in the days to come, I will be more comfortable and learn to reconcile with the past. I began to cherish everyone around me, every relationship, and began to move forward towards the state of life I desired.
In the future, there may still be many uncertainties and things that cannot be grasped, but I am no longer afraid. I know that as long as I have sunshine and hope in my heart, I will keep going and move towards the goal in my heart. Life will eventually be reconciled with me, and I will embrace every change in it to live my true life.
In the days of starting over, I gradually found my rhythm and form. I understand that life will always give us some ups and downs, but as long as we face it bravely, we will always find the shining point of life. In the company of my friends and the busyness of work, I regained my love for life.
"Yani, there's an important project to start in the department recently, you should go and participate. "The owner made me advice in the conference room.
"Okay, I'll do my best. "I accepted the assignment excitedly.
In the days that followed, I threw myself into my work and tried my best to prepare for the project every day. Day and night, I immerse myself in my work as hard as I can. In the process, I feel like I'm slowly regaining my passion and purpose in life.
"Yani, your idea of this plan is too far ahead of your time, and this idea is really innovative. "My colleagues complimented me at the meeting.
Hearing these words of praise struck me with a sense of accomplishment. I knew that what I had been through was not in vain, and I regained my confidence and ability.
The project went smoothly and ended up with unexpected success. The leaders praised and affirmed me, and my colleagues applauded me.
On the way home, I was in a happy mood. It was at this time that my boyfriend's phone called.
"Yani, I've heard that your department's project has been a great success, it's amazing. There was a hint of admiration in the boyfriend's voice.
I smiled and replied, "Yes, I'm also quite satisfied with our results." Thank you for your concern. ”
"Yani, I'm really happy for you too. The boyfriend's tone was full of sincerity.
It was at this time that I suddenly realized that in the journey of growing up, I no longer needed the expectations and affirmation of others, and the most important thing was myself. This project has given me confidence and a sense of accomplishment in myself, and it has also allowed me to see new landscapes.
With a new goal in mind, I need to work harder to let every corner of my life shine with my light and create more possibilities for my life.
At that time, I had come to realize that every challenge in my life would also be an opportunity, as long as I dared to meet it. This firmness is also my truest commitment to myself.
From that day on, I had a full schedule of work and socializing. In the company of friends and colleagues, I gradually found the joy of life and deeply understood my desire for life.
"Yani, let me introduce you to this new partner in our company. "The owner came over with a guy and introduced me.
"Hello, my name is Li Hua, it's a pleasure to meet you. Li Hua stretched out his hand and showed a sincere smile.
"Hello, I'm Yani, nice to meet you. I also stood up and shook his hand.
"Yani, Li Hua is from another department, but he is very interested in your project, and I hope you can cooperate well. "The owner expressed hope.
"Of course, we will definitely work together. I said solemnly.
The cooperation with Li Hua went very well, we learned Xi from each other, supported each other, and finally advanced the project to a whole new level.
"Yani, this time the result is really satisfying, you are really great. Li Hua looked at me approvingly.
I am also sincerely happy, this is not only an affirmation of myself, but also a new understanding of my own concept. This experience made me re-acquaint myself and more determined to pursue the life I wanted to pursue.
Gradually, in my work and in life, I found my place. I re-embraced every change in my life and began to discover my hidden potential.
"Yani, you seem to be in a much better mood today. Xiao Ling said with a smile.
I nodded, "yes, I've actually done a good job lately, and I've had some new connections, so I feel very fulfilled." ”
"It's so nice to see the change in you. You have to be like this all the time, strong and courageous to meet everything. Xiaoling said encouragingly.
My heart was full of emotion, and I began to understand the courage to look forward and the love of life. I have now truly witnessed my growth and progress, and all of this has made me realize that what I have been through is only helping me to become a stronger and more mature version of myself.
"Yani, I just received an opportunity, and the company offered me a very good position. The boyfriend said excitedly.
"That's great, congratulations!" I was happy for him too.
"I thought, let's work hard for our future together. "My boyfriend made a suggestion.
I thought deeply about my boyfriend's words. I understand my original purpose, I need an independent, determined self, and a relationship where we can grow and tolerate each other.
"I do cherish our relationship more now, but I don't want to give up the life I pursue because of my feelings. I hope we can all work hard and also need more time to think about our future. "I firmly expressed my thoughts to him.
The boyfriend was silent for a moment, "I understand you, and I will respect your choice." I will wait for you. ”
"Thank you for your understanding, I'll think about it. I replied with a smile.
I know that this relationship is a precious experience I have ever had, and it is also a choice for my future. I need to have more space for my life, and I need to pursue happiness and fulfillment in my heart. This is an important choice for my future life.