Plato uses mythology as a metaphor in the Feast:
"Each of us is a split 'half', and each of us is incomplete. ”
In life, everyone is more or less eager to find the "other half" in life and pursue a love that can stay together for a lifetime. If you can find the right person, it is equivalent to having a completely different life.
However, in today's society, relationships and marriage are not absolute.
If you don't meet a lover who is satisfactory and can't get the watering of sweet love, many people would rather live alone than find someone to "settle".
Generally speaking, when a woman has no man for a long time and lacks nourishment, these three major changes often appear in her body, even if it is difficult to detect with the naked eye for a while, it will gradually appear in getting along.
Strong and confident, independent in doing things
Long-term single women, like a lonely flower, quietly cultivate the unique qualities of tenacity, self-confidence and independence in the process of blooming alone.
In the lonely journey, they gradually understand that independence is not an escape, but a cherishing of themselves.
They have learned to face life's challenges, no longer relying on the shoulders of others, but holding up their own backbones.
They are able to rely on their own strength to deal with problems: from making decisions about important things in life, to repairing household appliances and solving trivial matters in life, they are brave and tenacious, never afraid of any challenge, and every bumpy time is a source of strength to swim against the current.
In the years of self-knowledge, they are no longer complacent because of the praise of others, nor are they deeply inferior because of the accusations of others. Self-confidence, like their solid armor, keeps all the winds and frosts of life out of the way.
Every decision is the result of their deliberation. They are no longer satisfied with the mediocrity of the past, but step out of their comfort zone, bravely pursue a broader sky, stand out in life and in the workplace, and bravely face every unfamiliar field.
They are no longer easily destroyed by the wind and waves of the outside world, but know how to find opportunities in the face of adversity.
This independence is not due to the avoidance of being with others, but the pursuit of freedom. In this process, they are like lonely stars, exuding a unique and dazzling light, becoming the most dazzling existence in their lives.
It's not about resisting love, it's about loving yourself better and making yourself the queen of life.
Source: "Disobedience"
The heart is full and the situation is calm
In the days when there is no company of the opposite sex, women are likely to enrich their hearts from the inside out in the process of walking alone, and learn to deal with things calmly and enrich themselves.
They deeply realize that celibacy does not mean emptiness, but to taste the depth of life in loneliness, to be with themselves, and to fill the gaps of the years with thinking.
Through reading, they immersed themselves in the ocean of words, as if they were in contact with the author's heart, and obtained their own spiritual sustenance; through thinking, they gathered the bits and pieces of life into a rich inner world; on the palette of oil paintings, they found the color to express their emotions, and through the jump of musical notes, they found the melody to express their emotions.
This inner fulfillment is no longer dependent on external glory and wealth, but is based on a deep understanding of one's own emotions. Their hearts have become gardens, blooming in all seasons, and the fullness of their hearts is like moist rain and dew, making them more colorful in their lonely time.
On the journey of walking alone, they learned the true meaning of being calm, no longer panicked because of the ups and downs of the outside world, but learned to face the waves of life calmly, and knew that even if they walked alone, they could move firmly towards the goal.
is like Lin Qingxuan said:
"Life is just like that, the pursuit of becoming a better, more spiritual and spiritual self. ”
Such a woman faces the ups and downs of life with a peaceful mind, like an elegant dancer, calmly and gracefully through the long river of time.
Source: Cairo Time
Feelings follow fate, no longer forced
The longer she leaves a man, the more indifferent a woman's attitude towards feelings becomes, no longer swayed by social anxiety, and no longer blindly pursues the so-called perfect love.
On the contrary, they learn to respect the natural laws of feelings, and realize that love is not the whole of life, it is not a renunciation of feelings, but a kind of respect for themselves and others.
As the years passed, they gradually realized that happiness does not depend on whether they have a relationship, but first and foremost on the independence and satisfaction of the individual.
Therefore, they are no longer anxious about the gains and losses of their feelings, but enjoy the bits and pieces of life in the process of waiting. This mindset makes them more comfortable coping with the variables in their relationship, and no longer lose themselves because of the ups and downs of a relationship.
Such a woman blooms her own unique charm in calmness and calmness, becoming a unique landscape.
Source: Cairo Time
Write at the end
People do need love, but love is not all there is to life.
When love is not enough, cultivate yourself, you don't have to force it, and when love comes, you should love seriously and enjoy life.
To be a brave and free woman, know that loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
Zhang Ailing said in the essay "Love":
"Meet the person you want to meet among thousands of people, in the endless wilderness of time for thousands of years, there is no earlier step, no later step, just catch up, then there is nothing else to say, only to ask softly: Oh, are you here too?"
I hope that by then, you will be able to go to the best love with your best self.