In the first week of 2024, CCTV's hit drama "Flowers" became popular, and the circle of friends continued to swipe the screen, causing heated discussions on the whole network.
This drama is adapted from the novel of the same name by writer Jin Yucheng, and the original work won the Mao Dun Literature Award and once influenced countless people.
In the TV series, under the changes of the times, Ah Bao relied on his wisdom and hard work to seize the opportunity step by step to change his fate, and realized Ah Bao's soaring to the sky.
In the process of watching the play, in addition to following the growth perspective of the protagonist Ah Bao, many people were also awakened by the transparency of their uncle, infected by Miss Wang's pure enthusiasm, and sighed for Lingzi's courage and shrewdness and Li Li's resoluteness.
Whether it is the impermanence of the world, or the thoughtfulness of human feelings, the ups and downs of the story, and the ups and downs of fate, there are too many truths about life.
Now, "Flowers" has ushered in the finale, and some people commented: This is the best domestic drama I have watched in the past five years, the more you taste, the more you taste, and you can taste the deep meaning if you look closely.
And the 7 sentences mentioned in the play and the original book speak through human nature, condense wisdom, and analyze reality vividly.
- About dealing with the world: to do business, you must first learn two words - do not sound, everything, always keep a hand.
In "Flowers", there are two words that run almost throughout: silent.
Mr. Bao explained it as:
"When doing business, what should not be said, what is not clear, what is not well thought, what is not planned, what is difficult for oneself and others, do not make a sound, and there should be room for doing things. ”
If you think about it, it's not just in business, it's also about living in the world.
If there is no definite result, and if the final result is not satisfactory, it will not only become a laughing stock, but also bring trouble that is difficult to solve.
If you show off your living conditions that are superior to others, if you attract the eyes of jealous people, you will not only give birth to a lot of gossip, but also cause unexpected disasters.
Interacting with others, keeping one's mouth shut appropriately, and controlling one's own tongue is the great wisdom to protect oneself and live a good life.
What is the best state of life in the world?
I agree with an answer: people are cautious in times of prosperity, and calm down in adversity.
Keeping a hand is to leave a good way for yourself to retreat, and it is also to prepare room for everything to turn around.
The real strong people are often those who have thunder in their chests and their faces are like a flat lake, and Mount Tai collapses in front of them without changing their color.
Walking in the world, calm down, stabilize your mind, everything has its own answer.
- About growth: getting ahead is a process of being taught by others.
Have you ever seen a duck in the water?
In the eyes of everyone, ducks often swim comfortably and easily in the water.
But in fact, under the surface of the water that people don't see, the duck's flippers have been paddling desperately, secretly straining, without stopping for a moment.
This is the hidden truth of the "duck law": what you think is glamorous has paid an unknown amount of hard work behind it.
There are not so many miracles that come out of nowhere in this world, and most of them are the fulfillment of wishes after tasting all the sorrows and surviving all difficulties.
I often hear children complain that they are tired of studying and going to school, and think that it is easy to make money, so they choose to give up the opportunity and drop out of school early to work.
It wasn't until I got stuck because of the threshold of academic qualifications and the lack of cognition that I suddenly realized: the laziness that I once stole will have to be doubled in the future.
In fact, what you think you are getting ahead is because you have been slapped in the face by reality again and again, and you have learned one lesson after another, and then you have stood in the desired position step by step.
There's an old saying that's true: all gifts from fate are secretly priced in.
Therefore, when people should go to school, they must study hard, and when they should be diligent, they should not easily choose comfort.
Always remember: the books you have read, the things you have carried, the people you have met, and the roads you have traveled will eventually make you a better version of yourself.
- About wealth: how many wallets a man should have, three: the first is how much money you actually have, the second is your credit, how much money money you have in people's wallets, and the third is how much money people think you have.
The first wallet determines where your confidence lies when you encounter difficulties, and it also affects the turning point of your fate at a critical moment.
The world is panicking, just for a few taels of broken silver, but this broken silver a few taels can solve thousands of melancholy.
There are too many uncertainties in the next life. And money can always save people in times of crisis.
Only when you have money in your pocket can you calmly get through every difficulty, and only when you have the bottom of your heart will you not be in a mess on the way forward.
The second purse, at its root, is the foundation of a person's virtue, based on the world.
In this life, as it is said in the play, "you will not always have the upper hand", today others have difficulties to find you for help, and tomorrow you will have shortcomings that need others to help you carry.
Don't overdraw your virtue, let alone exchange your character for short-term interests, keep your credit, and stand firm yourself, so as not to go to the situation of "isolated".
The third wallet reflects the pattern of how you behave in the world and determines how far you can go in the future.
Only by having a far-reaching vision, a large enough pattern, courage and generosity, can we take every step more steadily and move towards a better future.
People who can make money have strength, and keeping wealth is a person's real ability.
- About human affection: Everyone has a rod and scale in their hearts, when they can be rich and rich, when they can share weal and woe, they have a number in their hearts.
As the saying goes: there is a fixed number of fate and dispersion, and there is no need to force it.
When you reach a certain age, you will gradually understand that there are too many forks in the road in life, and people come and go, but it is the normal state of life.
Those who can share sorrows may not be able to share joys and sorrows, and walking hand in hand does not mean being together for a lifetime.
At the end of the story, Reiko and Po go their separate ways, completely delineate the relationship, and ask him to withdraw from Night Tokyo, and the two go from being partners on the same frequency to strangers.
In order to make up for the hole, the strong and ruthless Lu Meilin borrowed a circle of money on the Yellow River Road, but no one was willing to borrow it, and it ended miserably.
There are too many relationships in the world, and in the end, they all lost to "I thought".
I thought that the relationship was stable, that the friendship was quite deep, that everything was the same, and that I was together until I grew old.
Things change too fast, never expect too much from humanity, and don't overestimate your relationship with anyone.
In interpersonal relationships, the best attitude is: intimacy and affection, love and hate at will.
Lowering expectations, looking down on parting, and cherishing the present moment is the best way to improve your sense of well-being.
As it says in "Spirited Away":
"Life is a train to the grave, there are so many stops on the way, and it's hard to have someone to walk with you from beginning to end.
When the person accompanying you is about to get out of the car, you should be grateful, even if you are reluctant, and wave goodbye. ”
- About mentality: People always have to rush to the end, either go or stay, but it is not good to regret, regret is hopeless.
When Li Li and Mr. Bao chatted, they said that they thought that Bao was always a nostalgic person.
Kebao always explained: "I have nothing to remember, everything will eventually pass, only relief." ”
The same is true of those who are strong in their hearts: close the door behind them and look forward in everything.
The more people live a lifetime, the more they want everything to be "fulfilled", the easier it is to get nothing.
If you have a good tea, you still want to match a good pot, and you will be worried about looking for a teapot if you are looking for no results, and you will only waste the fragrance of tea.
If you get flowers, you want to match a vase, and if you break a vase, you will only miss the most beautiful bloom of flowers.
Letting go, losing but unwilling, and asking for nothing will eventually become the source of suffering, and over time, drag you into the haze.
In the long run, it is difficult to see the sunshine in life, and people will not be able to feel happy.
There's a good point to say: never glorify the path you didn't take.
Don't torture your heart for what has passed, don't regret the past all the time, go forward, there are scenery everywhere.
- About loneliness: the older you get, the more lonely you feel, it's normal, born independently, and die independently. People and people can't communicate with each other, the good and bad conditions in the world are no longer worth laughing at, and life is a desolate journey.
In a talk show, the host asked actor Chen Jin: "Are you afraid of living alone?"
Chen Jin said frankly: "For a lifetime, no matter if you have a family or children, you always get along with yourself." People are always lonely, what is freedom? is that you stand alone, not attached or afraid. ”
That's true. People who are independent in spirit can better stand in the world, and people who can enjoy solitude are usually free in soul.
When I was young, I always liked to blend in with all kinds of people, as if the circle was bigger, there were more friends, and the road was easier to walk.
After middle age, I finally woke up to the fact that instead of being in the hustle and bustle of the crowd, pleasing the people around you and accommodating everything, it is better to quit the circle that is not suitable, focus on yourself, and enjoy the beauty of being alone.
After half a life, you don't have to invite everyone into your life, you would rather be lonely than go against your heart.
In a limited life, keep precious time for yourself and enrich your soul in the time you are alone.
Read a good book, cook a good meal, raise a pot of plants, practice a good handwriting, grasp the moment, and live up to the time.
To be a lonely and not lonely person, to build a fence and plant flowers in your heart, this life is worth it.
- About life: I am my own dock.
In this drama, there is a scene that has touched many people:
Miss Wang avoided a lot of wind and rain under the protection of Mr. Bao, and she always thought that she was relying on her own ability to get up and down.
It wasn't until she left the aura of Mr. Bao that she realized that no one took her seriously at all, so she made up her mind: to be her own dock.
The reality is very cruel, the backers will fall, everyone will run, and only by relying on yourself is the right way.
No matter what age you are, you can't forget: when the wind and rain come, you always want to take refuge under someone else's roof, and sooner or later you will get wet.
Only by holding up your own umbrella and repairing your own eaves is the source of all security.
Yu Qiuyu once wrote: "The road of life, rely on yourself to walk step by step, what can really protect you is your own life choice." ”
From now on, cultivate yourself, precipitate yourself, enrich yourself, strengthen yourself, open the road in the mountains, build bridges in the water, and finally reach the ideal destination.
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I like a sentence in "Flowers":
"It is difficult to cross the mountain, and it is to raise your eyebrows and puff up in the past, and the mountains and rivers are far away, and it has become a lesson to warn future generations. ”
Life is the sum of countless choices.
When you are old and look back at the road you have traveled, you will find that every decision you make, every mountain and river you cross, and every lesson you have gained have made your life.