My husband and I have been married for 7 years, because we have unstable jobs and no money saved in the past few years, so we have never planned to have children, and now my age is 33 years old, and my husband is almost 37, we plan to have a child this year, so I have resigned since September last year to prepare for pregnancy at home!
My husband and I were introduced to each other by a friend, my family is rural, and my husband is from the city, his family conditions are much better than mine, I have two younger brothers at home as a girl who grew up in a patriarchal family, I have known how to observe words and emotions since I was a child, and my personality is also sensitive and inferior, but I am very strong in my bones!
When my husband and I got the certificate, we secretly obtained the certificate behind the back of our parents, because my parents arranged a blind date for me with a man who was many years older than me, and the man was less than 1.7 meters tall and not good-looking. My parents took a fancy to other people's homes as demolition households, so they kept letting me be with that man!
I don't want to marry a man I don't love for the rest of my life, so when a friend introduced me to someone, I fell in love with my handsome husband at a glance, he is not an only child like me, he also has a sister who is 22 years younger than her at home, his parents are very good to his sister, and there is no so-called patriarchal thinking in his family!
At that time, I was in a hurry to escape from my original family, and his conditions were not bad, so we knew each other for a few months and got the certificate. After my parents learned that I got the certificate, they were not angry or sad, but they said that I was stupid, and secretly got the certificate and cooked the raw rice early, what if others did not give the bride price!
In fact, my parents' worries are correct, probably because I have two younger brothers at home, coupled with the poor family conditions, my in-laws have not liked me very much, we only gave the wedding a year after we got the certificate, and the 88,000 bride price that was negotiated at the beginning was only 20,000. Therefore, my parents have always been optimistic about our marriage, and they have asked me to divorce more than once before I have children. Then find a better one!
I didn't listen to my parents, even though they were doing it for my good. I married into this family, to be honest, I didn't have a good life, although my husband is a few years older than me, but after graduating from college, he has not found a stable job, nor has he made any money. And I only have high Chinese, and I can only help people look at the store and sell clothes!
After marriage, because we have no money to buy a house, so I have been living with my in-laws and sister-in-law, when I got married, my sister-in-law was only 8 years old, still in elementary school, to be honest, I got along with my sister-in-law at the beginning, after all, she is still relatively young, although she is a little pampered by her parents, but also innocent and cute!
Because it is inconvenient to live here with my in-laws, so I discussed with my husband to save money to buy a house first, and did not consider having children for the time being, so I took care of my sister-in-law as both a sister and my own child, to be honest, my sister-in-law was indeed a little unsuitable for her in-laws, she has not lacked food and clothing since she was a child, and her parents gave her the best!
At this point, even my husband feels like he is a child picked up by his parents, and his sister is the child of his parents, in addition to not letting his daughter do any housework, they also enroll their daughter in various interest classes, even the school is the best private school in the local area, the annual tuition fee is more than 80,000 yuan, and the in-laws are particularly willing to spend money on their daughter, which makes me feel unbalanced!
Although I know that I am only a daughter-in-law and my sister-in-law is their daughter, it is impossible for my in-laws to treat me like their own daughter. But they treated me like a nanny, and there were 5 people living in the house, but they let me do the housework alone, mopping the floor, washing and cooking, although I often did it in my own mother's house. But I don't occasionally say anything if I'm not a parent.
But my in-laws were different, I got off work late that day and had a period, so I went home and lay down in my room to sleep. The house was messed up by my sister-in-law, and I didn't clean it up. When my in-laws came home and saw that the floor was dirty, they called my parents and complained that I was too lazy as a daughter-in-law to do housework!
And my parents called me without saying anything after receiving the call, and scolded me for scolding me, I was really angry at the time, are everyone else in the family dead? Why should I be allowed to clean the room alone? I also called my parents to complain, my parents are patriarchal, they will not stand on my side, my in-laws just know my family situation, so they bully me so unscrupulously!
Since that day, I have never done housework, no matter how yin and yang my in-laws are, I pretend not to see, sometimes I will reply to them a few words to embarrass them, at the same time I work harder to make money, I must buy a set of my own children. As my sister-in-law grows up, the conflict between me and my in-laws has become more and more intense!
My sister-in-law may also know that I have a bad relationship with my in-laws, so she actually said bad things about me behind my back, and called me by my name, he thought I couldn't hear it, but in fact, I heard it clearly in the room. To say that I am very good to this sister-in-law, I buy her gifts every New Year's holiday, and take her to the playground to play with a big red envelope during the New Year. I also gave her an Apple phone that I hadn't used for a few months. But she relied on her parents to bully me!
As a teenager, she was very scheming, and more than once she picked things up at home and made me quarrel with my in-laws. and asked me to take care of her daily life. Not only did I steal my cosmetics but also my clothes, and even cut my favorite clothes to pieces, and of course my in-laws turned a blind eye to them, and even defended her daughter! I also have to fight wits and courage with my sister-in-law!
My husband couldn't stand it, so he finally took out a loan to buy me a house in advance, and only my name was written in the house book, and because the house was still being renovated, we didn't move for the time being. After working hard for a few years and saving enough money, my husband and I began to prepare for pregnancy, because the previous work pressure was too much, so I simply quit my job and stayed at home. My in-laws didn't like me, so they pushed my sister-in-law to take care of me!
It's nothing more than cooking for her, and I agreed, but my sister-in-law is spoiled, she never washes the dishes after eating, puts the dishes and chopsticks on the table and goes to play with the mobile phone, I used to wash it, but now I don't wash it, and wait for my in-laws to come home and wash it again, every time my in-laws will go home to help her wash the dishes and chopsticks! Then take care of yourself and don't expect anyone else!
But that day, my in-laws and husband went back to their hometown, and my sister-in-law stayed at home because she had to study, and my father was sick again, so I could only cook my sister-in-law's food in the morning, and then go back to my parents' house to cook for my parents, and then go home at night after my parents finished eating. Let her wash the dishes and chopsticks after eating. And she said yes!
I went back to my parents' house for three days, she didn't wash the dishes for three days, not only that, but she also ordered a lot of takeout, and threw all the leftover takeout into the kitchen sink, when I dragged my tired body home, I saw that the sink was full of all kinds of dishes and chopsticks and garbage, and the floor was full of oil! There was a smell of sandal! I was immediately angry when I saw this scene.
I'm still trying to get pregnant, my father is sick and needs me to take care of it, my sister-in-law is still so ignorant, my husband is still in his hometown and hasn't come home, I broke down and cried for a moment when I lost control of my emotions, and then smashed the kitchen, looking at the broken pots and pans on the ground, I have never felt so relaxed, I sent the photo to my husband, my husband called me, he said to me Don't be afraid, you did a good job, we will never go back to this home!
Maybe my husband also knows that it has not been easy for me over the years, my mother's family is patriarchal, I have never enjoyed what love is, let alone doting, and although my in-laws are not patriarchal, they deliberately favor their little daughter, which makes me feel hurt again and again. I really don't want to stay in this home anymore!