The 06 edition of the City Express on January 7 published "It's not good, you can't leave, for the sake of the child to boil slowly, can you help Sister Wei come up with ideas?", the article said that Sister Wei and Lao Tong have been married for nearly 20 years, and Lao Tong's business has failed in the past two years, and his work has hit walls everywhere. And Sister Wei's small beauty salon is gradually improving.
During this period, Lao Tong suspected that Sister Wei was having an affair, but instead Sister Wei got evidence of Lao Tong's cheating, and the two developed from quarrels to hands-on ...... Sister Wei wanted to divorce, but was threatened by Lao Tong. So what should I do if I come to her for help?
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When people reach middle age, they can't leave if they don't have a good life, so they can only stay up slowly for the sake of the child? Come and help her come up with ideas
After the article appeared in the newspaper, many readers left messages through the "Good Men and Good Women" column of the Orange Circle of Friends, expressing three views: one is to support Sister Wei's use of legal weapons to divorce; the second is to persuade Sister Wei to calm down and not to divorce, after all, the family is the most important; and the third is to hope that Sister Wei will play the family card and ask her children to persuade their father.
The view in favor of "Sister Wei's divorce":
Orange Friends "@旺仔不想头大" supported Sister Wei's divorce and took the following steps to protect herself and her children:
1. Seek safety: Sister Wei's safety is the most important thing. If she feels that she or her child is in danger, she should seek help immediately. She can contact local women's protection organizations, family protective services, or the police to ensure their safety.
2. Seek legal assistance: Sister Wei can consult a professional lawyer to understand her rights and legal options. A lawyer can help her navigate the legal process for divorce proceedings, property division, custody, and violent act protection orders.
3. Gather evidence: Sister Wei can collect as much evidence as possible to support her case. This can include medical records, photographs, witness testimony, or any other evidence that can prove an act of domestic violence. This evidence can support her in court.
4. Seek psychological support: Sister Wei may feel depressed or anxious because of her experience of domestic violence. She can seek professional counselling to help her deal with her emotions and regain her self-confidence.
5. Consider Divorce: Divorce is a complex decision that requires careful consideration. Sister Wei should decide whether to divorce based on her own circumstances and legal advice. A divorce may provide her with a fresh start, but it may also present other challenges, such as financial issues and child support responsibilities.
The most important thing is that Sister Wei should know that she is not alone and that there are many resources and support for her to choose from. She can enlist the help of family, friends, and professionals to get through this difficult time together.
When we contacted Orange Friend "@旺仔不想头大", we were surprised that she was only a 26-year-old single girl who was engaged in mobile health work. She said that this was not the method she came up with, and that an older sister in her 40s had experienced domestic violence and divorce.
The eldest sister of "@旺仔不想头大" has stable jobs, but they have different lifestyles and little communication, and her husband will beat her after drinking. The eldest sister has been forbearing, almost depressed. Last year, after the child was admitted to a university in another place, the eldest sister decided to divorce, and she took the above method.
Therefore, "@旺仔不想头大" said that she felt very sorry for "Sister Wei", and hoped that she would not be impulsive, analyze calmly, and do her best to protect the rights and interests of herself and her children. At the same time, she hopes that this approach will help women who are going through the same experience.
Support the view that "Sister Wei is calm and doesn't need to divorce, after all, home is the most important":
Orange friends @DL2gkP posted that it is not advisable for the lady to divorce immediately. The main reason for this thought is that the reality and urgency of life are not guaranteed.
He suggested that the following steps should be taken: 1. The woman should immediately contact the local women's federation and the community police at the district level, and immediately apply to the court at the district level where her main residence is located for a personal safety protection order, prohibiting her husband from approaching the lady within a certain distance, and the lady can live alone in her beauty shop recently.
Second, men fail to do business, produce frustration, and lower self-evaluation, women should understand. It is imperative to change the state of the husband who has nothing to do and let the husband be busy and do things. With the help of the community, I can find a job for my husband first, any job is fine, as long as my husband likes to do it.
3. Purchase paid psychological counseling services, and provide regular door-to-door services through psychological counselors to counsel the lady and her husband separately, seek common ground while reserving differences, and alleviate or even solve problems. Fourth, marriage, we are the pursuit of beauty, if there is regret in the end, then it is good to say and disperse, respect people, influence people, is the best way out of the problem can not be solved.
Orange Friend "DL2gkP" surnamed Jin, is a man, 48 years old, a grassroots civil servant, with a third-level advanced certificate in marriage and family counselor.
Mr. Kim said that he does not support an immediate divorce because it is easy to divorce, and it is more difficult to start a family again. Give both parties a little more time to think about it, divorce is the last option.
He said that more than 10 years ago, when he was working as a life mediator in the community, he once mediated a case. The woman is a senior white-collar worker, beautiful and capable, with a high income, and she manages her husband very strictly, and everything must be agreed by the woman. As for the man, his work is not as good as the woman's, and he usually likes to play small mahjong, but in the end he can't stand the woman and runs away from home. The woman asks for a divorce, and when mediating, the man basically answers with "uh-huh", and the woman talks endlessly, counting the man's disregard for the family, not understanding her hard work of making money to support her family, etc. At that time, the mediation also hoped that both parties would calm down, make some changes to each other, and live a good life. At that time, both sides agreed. But the current situation, he is not clear.
Support the view that "Sister Wei plays the family card and asks the child to persuade his father":
@橙友YDL4Xy1D发帖则希望用亲情去打动丈夫, if you are still willing to go with him, you can let the child persuade her husband together, and the effect may be better.
These orange friends feel that the husband and wife have been in love for so long, and the children are the bond between the two parties, and they hope to play the role of the children's lubricant and ease the current relationship.
Next, we will convey these methods to Sister Wei, hoping to help her married life, if you are a relevant expert and willing to help Sister Wei free of charge, please contact us, thank you for everyone.