Freedom is when you stand alone,
不依恋,也不惧怕。
Author: Insight MK
A while ago, Chen Daoming was on the hot search again.
The reason is that at a large-scale awards ceremony, 68-year-old Chen Daoming actually sat among Andy Lau, Tony Leung and other big names.
You must know that the entertainment industry has always liked to rank according to seniority. Being able to sit in this position shows Chen Daoming's status in the circle.
This can't help but make many netizens exclaim: I didn't expect Chen Daoming to be so good.
Indeed, in the flashy entertainment industry, Chen Daoming is too low-key.
For decades, he rarely attended peer gatherings and rarely attended business events.
Most of the time, he prefers to stay at home alone, read books and play the piano.
Being alone is his norm.
Some people think that this kind of life is too monotonous, but Chen Daoming is at ease.
Schopenhauer once said, "Man is either lonely or vulgar." ”
Those who are Xi of blending in with the crowd will eventually disappear from the crowd.
Those who are powerful and extraordinary often have endured loneliness and suffering.
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Loneliness is a kind of sobriety
Chen Daoming entered the film and television drama industry after graduating from university.
Because he had no background and connections, he could only play some dispensable small supporting roles at first.
This performance is 7 years.
It wasn't until later that he starred in "The Siege", and became an instant hit with the role of "Fang Hongji", which can be regarded as a breakthrough.
At this time, if it were someone else, he would definitely seize this opportunity to take on more dramas and make a few strokes.
But Chen Daoming is cold and self-controlled.
After becoming popular, a director wanted to spend a lot of money and invited him to star in his new drama.
But after Chen Daoming read the script, he found that the content was very rough, so he wanted to refuse to act.
The director hurriedly persuaded him: "Everyone shoots like this, and the audience likes to watch it, so don't worry about the ratings." ”
Chen Daoming was furious when he heard this, and left without looking back.
And his popularity passed quickly, and for several years, no one asked him to film again.
The days have become cold again, but Chen Daoming is not lost at all.
He had seen the absurdity and snobbery of the world, and he knew that he could not fit in.
Then he might as well be alone and keep his distance from it.
In his days alone, Chen Daoming is also polishing his acting skills.
He read a lot of books to improve his empathy skills.
He even talked to himself in the middle of the night, pacing back and forth, figuring out the psychology of one of the characters.
In loneliness, his knowledge is getting richer and richer, his acting skills are becoming more and more proficient, and there are more and more people who like him.
Hamlet once said, "It is difficult for a man who has not felt loneliness to understand the essence of life." ”
In the hustle and bustle of the world, it's easy to lose yourself.
Loneliness reminds us to go back to the depths of our hearts and see what we really need.
When you figure out what you want, you won't blindly pursue fame and fortune.
Because the real harvest must be spiritual.
The more lonely the person, the more sober he is.
Willing to sit on the cold bench and resist temptation, this is the beginning of a person's success.
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Loneliness is a kind of abundance
There is a topic on Zhihu:
"What are the characteristics of people without connotation?"
One of the answers was highly agreed:
"I like to squeeze into the crowd, chirp, and I can't leave the attention of others for a moment.
Because mediocre and boring people want to find a little sense of existence in the excitement. ”
If you look closely at life, you will find that it is.
The more empty-headed people are, the more they like to push the cup and change the lamp in public and talk loudly.
And really interesting people, like to be alone.
Chen Daoming is notoriously unsociable in the industry.
In an interview, he bluntly said that socializing was a kind of ordeal for him:
"A group of people get drunk, and they say a word to you four or five times, and a business card is handed to you seven or eight times, and I am very angry and very annoying. ”
He spends most of his time at home outside of work.
His home in Beijing is a small library.
At home, his favorite thing to do is to make a cup of tea and read a book slowly.
In addition to reading, he also likes to practice calligraphy, play the piano, and paint.
In his day-to-day self-study, Chen Daoming has developed these hobbies to the extreme.
Even Ji Xianlin praised him, saying that his literary level was enough to serve as a graduate tutor at Peking University.
There is a good saying: "A mediocre person fills the emptiness with liveliness, and a smart person achieves himself by being alone." ”
Living in isolation will certainly be a little depressing.
But real achievement often comes from loneliness.
When Lu Yao was writing "Ordinary World", he lived alone in the countryside for several years.
In the vast world, there are only two mice that accompany him.
Although Lu Yao felt pain, he still forced himself to settle down and focus on creation.
In the monotonous years, he carefully designed his works to write this shocking masterpiece.
Oprah once said, "All those alone times determine who we become." ”
Loneliness is the best value-added period.
In a day alone, you can calm down and do what you like.
or raise flowers and grass, with nature as a companion, to remove the impetuousness of the body;
Or read masterpieces, and slowly nourish your soul under the influence of literature.
When you endure a long period of loneliness, you can build a rich and interesting spiritual world in your heart.
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Loneliness is a powerful thing
Chen Daoming was subject to a lot of controversy in his early years.
He was reluctant to attend the event, and some people said that he was noble and arrogant.
He pointed out the problem of co-actors, and some people called him a "drama bully" who loves to play big names;
He played with other well-known actresses, and the media chased after him and rumored that his style was not right.
In the face of overwhelming rumors, Chen Daoming never said a word.
He just lived on his own and continued to live a happy and comfortable life.
Time, in the end, proved everything.
Nowadays, Chen Daoming's acting skills have been recognized by the industry, and his character has been widely praised, and the rumors of the past are self-defeating.
Being misunderstood is the fate of the lonely.
Many people in life live by the rules themselves, and they can't see others do something unusual.
If you are a maverick, you are doomed to accept the criticism of the world.
There is such a peasant woman, who married at the age of 20 and began to live with her back to the loess.
But she was unwilling to be trapped in the mountains, and she had a dream of writing.
She seizes every opportunity to write, whether it is in the field or moving bricks, she will write down her daily life into her mobile phone.
These actions have attracted ridicule and exclusion from the villagers.
Others think she is an outlier, unobtrusive, and delusional.
The woman didn't care at all, and in 6 years, she used 7 broken mobile phones and typed hundreds of thousands of words.
The hard work paid off, and eventually her prose was successfully published in the Yellow River Literature, and she also successfully joined the Chinese Writers Association.
This woman is the "thumb writer" Ma Huijuan.
Veteran actor Chen Jin once said: "Freedom is when you stand alone, not attached, and not afraid." ”
Lonely people do not follow customs, and they are not carried.
They are open in their hearts and firm in their beliefs, and as long as they identify one thing, they will break through all obstacles and rise to the occasion.
Cattle and sheep are in groups, tigers and wolves walk alone.
If you want to stand out, don't be afraid of being isolated.
Just do the things at hand, silently improve your skills, and cultivate a strong heart.
In the days to come, please move forward steadfastly, through loneliness, which is the dawn.
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Chen Guo once said: "The lonely person shows a kind of nobility of harmony. ”
People live a lifetime and live to the fullest.
Instead of pretending to be gregarious, it is better to grow yourself alone.
In the days to come, I hope you can also look inward, cultivate inward, not be tired of fame and fortune, and not be trapped in success or failure.
Shake hands with loneliness and enjoy the joy of being alone.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your friends.