When the wheels of time roll forward, our generation has quietly entered the autumn of life.
Looking back on the past, those years of burning passion seem to be still yesterday, but in the blink of an eye, we are gray-haired old men.
At this age full of uncertainties, even if the relationship between husband and wife is as deep as ever, we have to leave three eyes for our later life, which is not a distrust of our partner, but a manifestation of wisdom.
1. Whether the economy can guarantee worry-free old age
First of all, the reality we have to face is the economy.
Money is not everything, but no money is everything.
This is especially true in later life.
With the decline of physical functions, medical expenses can become a significant burden.
This, combined with the necessities of daily life and the reserves of funds to deal with emergencies, requires us to be financially prepared.
Husbands and wives may be able to work together and take financial risks together when they are young.
But in old age, if one of the spouses does not have sufficient financial security, then the burden of life is likely to overwhelm the other.
Therefore, even the closest partners need to maintain a certain independence and vigilance when it comes to financial matters.
This is not to say that you have to go it alone, but rather to make sure that both parties have their own economic retreats while planning together for later life.
In order to achieve this, we can carry out financial planning in advance, such as purchasing pension insurance, investing in wealth management products, etc.
This will not only ease the financial burden on your children, but also ensure that you will be able to maintain a decent life in your old age.
More importantly, having a certain amount of economic autonomy can make us more relaxed in the face of changes in life.
2. Whether the wife will never abandon herself
Secondly, we need to consider the partnership.
Young couples and old companions, this is how many people's beautiful expectations for marriage.
However, the reality is often harsher than ideal.
In a long married life, there will inevitably be friction and contradictions between husband and wife.
In later life, these problems may become more prominent due to lifestyle changes and declining physical health.
We have to admit that even couples who have been with us for many years may choose to leave at a critical moment.
This is not a pessimistic view of marriage, but a realistic perception.
Therefore, in later life, we need to maintain a certain level of psychological independence and not rely too much on our partner.
It's not about distancing yourself from the other person, it's about maintaining a certain amount of self-space emotionally.
In order to achieve this, we can cultivate our hobbies and keep social activities alive, which will not only enrich our later life, but also have a psychological buffer when things go wrong in our relationship.
At the same time, we must also learn to listen to and understand each other's needs and feelings, and face the challenges of later life together.
3. Is it worth it to work hard and pay everything?
Finally, we need to reflect on how we give.
In married life, many people are Xi working hard for their families.
They sacrifice their personal pursuits and happiness for the happiness of their families.
However, in later life, they may find themselves living their lives for others with little thought about themselves.
This kind of effort is great, of course, but it also has a certain risk.
If we put all our hopes in our partner or family, we are likely to fall into deep despair once these supports are gone.
Therefore, in later life, we need to learn to balance our giving and gaining.
This is not to say that we should be selfish or apathetic, but that we should pay attention to our own inner needs while giving.
We can continue to contribute to the family, but also allow time and space to take care of ourselves.
Not only will this keep us physically and mentally healthy in our later years, but it will also make our efforts more meaningful and worthwhile.
To sum up, as we face our old age in our 60s, we need to keep three minds in mind: ensuring financial security, maintaining the independence of our partnership, and balancing our own efforts and gains.
These are not pessimistic views of marriage and family, but a manifestation of wisdom.
Only in this way can we reap full happiness and tranquility in the autumn of life.