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"When people reach their old age, they are really blessed to have a large pension and a pair of productive children?"
Although it is said that in the cognition of many people, they all think that the old people who are rich and have children are blessed when they are old, because they feel that when they are old and rich, they will not have to worry about eating and drinking, and when they are old, they still have a pair of children by their side, so they don't have to worry about anything.
However, looking at many examples in society, some elderly people will be happier the older they get older if they have money and children, but some old people will be more sad and sad the older they get.
Uncle Zheng, a septuagenarian, has a deep understanding of this: 11 years after retirement, I got a serious illness, which made me discover two cruel truths about pension in old age, having money and children is not necessarily blessed.
The following is from Uncle Zheng's self-description:
I am 72 years old this year, a retired high school teacher, retired for more than 11 years, my pension has risen to more than 7,000, and my wife is an ordinary worker retirement, her pension is also more than 3,400.
After the couple retired, I felt that our old age was extremely happy and worry-free, because our pensions added up to more than 10,000 yuan, which in our third- and fourth-tier towns, we can eat and drink without worry, and we have more than enough every month.
And we also gave birth to a pair of children, went to college and worked in big cities, especially promising, and very filial to us.
In this carefree environment, my wife and I also lived a very chic life in our old age, eating and drinking, traveling and having fun, and enjoying the beautiful life of retirement.
In the more than 11 years since I retired, my wife and I have traveled all over the country, traveling almost every month.
We feel that traveling is a kind of happiness, going to all parts of the country to see the scenery, taste the food, take beautiful photos, not only let ourselves enjoy the scenery and food of various places, but also let ourselves in front of relatives and friends, earn enough face.
At that time, we never worried about health and retirement in old age, and felt that people like us who were rich and had children did not need to think too much about it when we were old.
After all, we can't spend all our pension money, even if we are sick, we have medical insurance, medical insurance is not enough, we still have children, and the same is true for the elderly, there is no need to worry about having money and children.
However, this kind of excessive self-confidence made me discover two cruel truths about pension in my later years during a serious illness last year, and having money and children does not necessarily mean that you can be happy.
1. If you are not healthy, no matter how much your pension is, it will be a floating cloud
Traveling around after retirement has indeed allowed me to enjoy a lot and have a good time, but in the end, I have gained more than I have lost by traveling all year round.
In order to catch the car to catch the scenic spots, I often have a reversed schedule and rest, irregular diet, and fatigue from the boat, which makes my body have big and small problems.
I didn't pay much attention to the usual arthritis, stomach pain, prostatitis and other problems, thinking that these are all problems that the elderly will have.
As for getting sick, I've always thought that the more hypocritical people are, the easier they are to get sick, and if someone like me is old enough to run around, this immunity must be better than ordinary.
So with this kind of thought, I don't care too much about my physical health, even though many elderly people around me are busy with health care and frequent physical examinations, and I, I feel that it is better to spend money to do some meaningless examinations and eat health products, it is better to let myself enjoy the joy of travel.
As a result, I didn't pay attention to maintenance, and after returning from a week of travel to Beihai last summer, I felt very uncomfortable in my heart, and I thought it was caused by stomach pain at first, but after taking stomach medicine for a week, I still had a dull pain.
My wife was not worried about me, so she strongly took me to the hospital, but after some examination, it turned out that I had a heart disease and had to be hospitalized for observation and treatment.
At first, I didn't have an examination, and I thought it didn't matter, but after the results of the examination came out, I panicked, and the whole person was not well, and I insisted on the doctor to give me the best medicine, and even if it was necessary to use a knife for me. I didn't want to feel bad, and I didn't want to leave so early.
This was my desire to survive when I was sick, and I think most old people with a little money like me would be like this.
But the doctor told me that there was no cure for the disease, and that it could only be maintained with medication.
In this way, I was hospitalized in the hospital for observation and treatment for 13 days, and my condition was basically maintained. Although I didn't spend much money on this hospitalization, most of the medical insurance was reimbursed, and my own expenses were only a few thousand yuan.
But through this illness, I found that I am not in good health, and no matter how much my pension is, it is a floating cloud.
Because now I am fine, but I need to rely on drugs every day to maintain, and from time to time I have to go to the hospital for examination and some physiotherapy, and I can't move or be tired, I can't run around, and I can't eat whatever I want, I have to live carefully like an old turtle every day.
Therefore, when people are old, having money does not mean that they are blessed, but having health is!
2. What can you do if you have children and daughters? When you are old and sick, your children will dislike them
In the past, I raised my children very well, and they all went to work and settle down in big cities, and they were also filial to me.
Although they are in other places, they will come back to visit me and my wife every Chinese New Year's holiday, and they will think about filial piety to us when there are any good things, and they have also taken us on trips, and we have also lived in their homes in provincial capitals.
But since I was sick and hospitalized, I have noticed that my children's attitude towards me is significantly worse than before.
First of all, when I was hospitalized, my two siblings came back to accompany me in the hospital, but after they took turns to accompany me for two or three days, they were annoyed one by one.
My daughter came back to accompany me for 2 days and said that there was no one to take care of my grandson in the third year of high school, and she wanted to leave first, so she left me to my son, who served me for three and a half days, and said that I couldn't leave work, so I was thrown to my wife, and I asked a nurse to take care of me.
They all said they had something to do, but what I did know was that they all hated me. After all, during my hospitalization, I couldn't do anything, I had to be managed and assisted by them, and I had to guard me at night, and I had to call the doctor whenever there was any situation, which was really frustrating.
After I was discharged from the hospital, even though I was recovering well, my children were resistant to me. I thought that I would stop traveling and not go to play blindly, so I would go to my children's house and enjoy the life of my children and grandchildren around my knees, but my children would not let me live with my wife.
The reason given by the daughter is quite acceptable, saying that the grandson is in his third year of high school, and it is inconvenient for us to go over.
But my son's side made me very uncomfortable, saying that the couple were usually busy with work and didn't have time to take care of us, and we were causing trouble to them when we passed, so they told us to be obedient at home and not run blind.
My son's words seem to be reasonable, but I just think that he dislikes me for being sick and will become a burden to him, because in the past, when we said that we were going to their house, my son and daughter-in-law wanted us to come, and in the past six months since I got sick, I made two or three requests to go to their house to live for a while, but they were also refused.
For example, this New Year's Day, I have been at home for more than five months, and I really want to go out for a walk, so I plan to take the high-speed train to my son's side, so that I will not be too tired.
But my son said that it was almost the Chinese New Year, so why should I go to him? He even impatiently reprimanded his wife, saying that I was like this, and I was not allowed to go around, and in case something happened, it was not only us who would suffer, but also their young people.
In this way, after my illness, I realized that no matter how many children people have when they are old, they may not be reliable. The so-called "no filial son before the bed of a long illness", especially young people nowadays, the work pressure and life pressure are so heavy, and the elderly in the family have a disease and pain, which will really make it difficult for them to bear.
Therefore, when you are old, once you lose your health, no matter how much money you have, there will be floating clouds, and when you get sick, no matter how much your children are filial, they will dislike you.
Finally, through my story, I want to tell you: in old age, no matter how high your pension is, how many children you have, please take good care of your health, and don't expect too much from your children's dependence, only by letting yourself have health and learn to make yourself strong, can you enjoy the happiness of your old age.