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Written in the Ming Dynasty, it contains a variety of aphorisms and proverbs from ancient times to the present, which contains a lot of Confucian and Buddhist wisdom in life, and is regarded as a must-read book for children's enlightenment by the Ming and Qing dynasties.
This is precisely because of the simplicity of its content, but because the principles told in the book are easy to understand and can be appreciated by both the elegant and the vulgar.
("Zengguang Xianwen")
The content of "Zengguang Xianwen" mainly talks about the great principle of dealing with people, among which there is such a saying: "Compassion does not lead soldiers, righteousness does not raise wealth", and there are two sentences after it, that is, "good is not an official, and love is not a thing".
Kindness, righteousness, and goodness are all words that describe good conduct, and it stands to reason that people should be proud of having such qualities.
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1. Why mercy and righteousness are bad things
The phrase "Tzu does not lead soldiers" is easy to understand, which means that if he is too merciful, then he is not fit to be a general who leads soldiers. As a general, you need to have an aura of decisiveness to kill, so as to deter your soldiers. At the same time, it is also able to crush the enemy without mercy.
If a general's character is too indecisive, then it is easy for his soldiers to be unconvinced and produce a slack mentality, if the management of the army is not strict, the morale of the army is weak, how can he defeat the enemy?
Sun Wu, a military strategist during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period on the mainland, and the author of "The Art of War" is well aware of this truth. After he met King Wu, he first presented his own art of war, which King Wu greatly admired, but wanted to test whether Sun Wu could actually lead the troops, so he deliberately transferred more than 100 palace maids to him for training.
(Sun Wu)
Sun Wu knew that this was an opportunity to show his ability, so he divided the palace maids into two teams and designated 2 concubines who were the most favored concubines of King Wu as captains.
These palace maids have never been trained, and in the face of Sun Wu's orders, they only feel funny, and they inevitably laugh and laugh, and do not listen to orders. Sun Wu had expected such a situation, and he did not hurry to order the beheading of two Meiji to set an example. King Wu was shocked. , pleaded for his beloved concubine, but Sun Wu was indifferent and continued to train after beheading.
(Sun Wuxun female soldier)
At this time, the palace maid had already seen Sun Wu's power, and when Sun Wu ordered again, the palace maid was uniform and in accordance with the rules. King Wu was still haunted by the death of his favorite concubine, but Sun Wu replied that the order is forbidden, and the reward and punishment are the criteria for leading the army, if the person is too merciful, then it will be difficult to control, and only the majesty can make the army obey the order and defeat the enemy.
King Wu turned his anger into joy and followed Sun Wu's advice. After that, Wu Guo's strength really soared, and finally became one of the five hegemons of the Spring and Autumn Period.
The saying "righteousness does not support wealth" means that if you are too righteous, you will definitely not be able to keep your wealth, and you are likely to invite disaster.
"Shengmien fights Mi hatred" can reflect this truth. When others are facing difficulties, we can reach out and be kind to others within the scope of our ability, but once we exceed the maximum we can bear, it needs to be considered.
("Shengmien Dou Mi Feud")
A charcoal in the snow can be exchanged for the other party's gratitude, but if the other party gets your help for a long time, he will Xi it. If you stop helping at this time, instead of being grateful for what you have done, the other person will hold a grudge against you.
However, these two sentences of the ancients do not mean that people cannot be benevolent and righteous, and must be ruthless, but emphasize that kindness should also pay attention to grasping a scale, not too much.
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2. What is the truth of "being good is not an official, and being in love is not a thing".
"Good is not an official" does not mean that the person who is an official should put on a face all day long and have an iron heart, but that the official is required to be selfless and selfless, not favoritism, and also need to be cautious at all times in order to avoid being attacked.
We all know that in feudal society, the bureaucratic atmosphere is relatively heavy, and the cases of gangs and factions in the court are not uncommon in all dynasties and generations, and if you want to be a good official, it is not enough to have the world and the people in mind, but also to be able to make it difficult for villains to get close to the majesty.
Bao Zheng of the Song Dynasty was such a good official, Bao Zheng has always enforced the law impartially in his judgments, even if his relatives and friends violate the law, they will be treated equally, and they will not be dealt with lightly.
(Bao Zheng)
His goodness lies in his fairness and strictness, not in the so-called bodhisattva heart. Think about it, if the public says that the public is reasonable, and the mother-in-law says that the mother-in-law is reasonable, and blindly pays attention to human feelings and ignores legal principles, then how can the country still function, and what prestige does the law have?
"Emotions do not stand up" means that people should not be emotional. Cao Xueqin, who wrote one of the four famous novels "Dream of Red Mansions", showed this truth with the help of the management methods of Wang Xifeng and Jia Mu.
Wang Xifeng has a pungent personality, shrewd and capable, although she is a woman and young, she can manage Rongguo Mansion in an orderly manner. Among them, Wang Xifeng's housekeeping rule has a clear reason. When her nephew Jia Rong borrowed a screen from Wang Xifeng, Wang Xifeng did not agree readily because of her feelings, but agreed to borrow it only after three chapters.
(Wang Xifeng stills)
Secondly, she has always treated her subordinates harshly, and the older servants in the house, the young ladies and ladies have to give three points, but Wang Xifeng is ruthless, and treats the slaves who are lazy or have unclean hands and feet equally, regardless of seniority, which deters the subordinates and makes them dare not make waves.
And Jia Mu. After hearing that Jiafu's financial situation was not good, he took the initiative to take out his private property and distribute it to everyone. However, Jia's mother's actions did not win the loyalty of the people in Jiafu, and many slaves sold the property in Jiafu without permission after learning that the Jiafu Mansion was about to collapse, and made a lot of money, regardless of their former feelings.
(Jia Mu stills)
It can be seen that sincerity does not necessarily mean that it can be exchanged for the same emotion, and when it comes to love, it also depends on whether the other party is worthy of their own efforts.
3. How should people grasp the scale of feelings
The above examples all reflect a word that pays attention to people's affairs: degree. So, when dealing with others, how to make the other party like a spring breeze, and at the same time give three points to you, but also make yourself comfortable and benefit others and yourself?
In fact, the key to mastering the scale is to think rationally. When making a decision or interacting with someone, you might as well stop and think about how it would benefit me and the other person if we did so? Find a balance that is acceptable to both parties, and any conflict can be resolved.
(Balance)
If you pay too much attention to feelings and are too emotional, you may let the other party gain an inch and ask for your contribution endlessly, or you may let yourself fall into an emotional swamp and do things that harm others and yourself, so that others will stay away from you.
In short, people who keep in mind their emotions are often more likely to put themselves in a passive situation, while people who are calm and calm in the face of things can make themselves invincible.
(Sensibility and Reason)