In the journey of life, we are like passengers passing through small stations, meeting different people and experiencing different emotions.
Mo Yan's words profoundly reveal the essence of this journey: "In this world, not all connections can continue, and not all companionship can last for a long time. This sentence reveals the inevitable process of change and growth in interpersonal relationships.
Our lives are full of encounters and partings, and these moments make up the richness of our life story. Some of them are like meteors across our skies, short and brilliant, while others accompany us for longer distances.
01 Encounter: A short-lived companion on the road of life
In this long journey of life, we are like walking on an unpredictable road, and every encounter is like a surprise or an unexpected gift.
These ephemeral companions, perhaps when we needed them most, brought us support, laughter, and even profound inspiration.
I remember that sunny afternoon, when I met a strange old man on a park bench. His eyes shone with wisdom, and there was always a warm smile on his lips.
We chatted, from the weather to life, and from life to the philosophy of life. He told me: "Young people, remember, every encounter in life is the best arrangement. This sentence is like a seed planted in my heart.
Encounters, sometimes like a spring breeze, blow away the gloom in our hearts and bring us new hope and direction.
In the process, we learned a lot: we learned to listen, we learned to understand, and we learned to see the world from different perspectives.
These short-lived companions have influenced us in their way to become a better version of ourselves.
Just like the old man I met in the park that day, his words and smile became a bright color in my life's journey.
Such encounters, though brief, left a deep mark. We are beginning to realize that everyone is a mentor and friend in our lives, even if they are just passing by.
However, these encounters tend to be short-lived. We have to accept the fact that not all of our companions can accompany us on the whole journey. But that doesn't diminish the value of the encounter.
Like the change of seasons, every encounter is a part of our lives, enriching our experiences and broadening our horizons.
02 离别：渐行渐远的必然
Life is like a long journey, and we meet countless people in it. Some people accompanied us for a certain distance and then silently parted at a certain junction to start their respective journeys.
This kind of parting, although with a trace of reluctance, is an inevitable choice for growth. It teaches us how to face the vicissitudes of life and how to gracefully accept the impermanence of this world.
I remember one time, I got together at a café with a friend of many years. The passion and enthusiasm of our conversations are no longer in the past.
He said softly, "Perhaps, we have all changed and moved in different directions. Although this sentence was calm, it was like a sharp knife that cut through the reluctance in my heart.
Yes, parting between people often happens inadvertently. We may all be changing, we are all growing, which leads to different interests, goals, and even values.
As time passed, the ties that had been close together thinned out, and common topics became scarce. We begin to realize that not all encounters have a permanent ending, and that parting is sometimes inevitable.
Parting is not always negative, it is also a sign of maturity. In the face of parting, we learned to be relieved. We begin to understand that there will be different partners at each stage of life.
Some people may just be passers-by in our lives, but they give us support and companionship at that particular moment. When they are gone, we should be grateful, not regretful.
Perhaps, this is the price of growth, and we have to accept that as we grow, some people will drift apart.
But that doesn't mean we have to forget what was once good. On the contrary, we should cherish those times we have and be grateful to those who have been with us.
03 Growth: Learn to turn gracefully
Growing up is an inevitable process in life, and one of the most important lessons is learning how to turn gracefully.
Over time, after countless encounters and partings, we begin to understand that every relationship has its time limit and meaning.
These experiences, while full of joys and sorrows, have shaped us into who we are today and taught us how to make the most appropriate choices when facing different stages of life.
Once, when I reunited with a friend I hadn't seen in years, I realized this all too well. We talked about the old days, but soon found out that we weren't the same people we used to be.
He smiled and said to me, "We've all grown up and changed, and that's part of growing up in itself." This is a simple but profound statement, and it made me realize that everyone is constantly growing, and that our changes are not a bad thing, but a sign of maturity.
Growing up means that we are able to accept our past selves as well as our present selves. It makes us understand that not everyone will always be with us, but it is not a tragedy.
In the process, we learn to be grateful because each experience has taught us valuable lessons. We learn to let go, because sticking to what we shouldn't be doing will only make ourselves and others miserable.
Growing up also means learning to be independent. We begin to understand that while the support of friends and loved ones is important, it is ultimately up to us.
We learn to face loneliness and learn to take care of ourselves when no one is around. As my friend said, "To grow up is to learn to be independent in the midst of a myriad of choices." ”
Most importantly, growth teaches us how to turn gracefully. When we realize that someone or something is no longer right for us at the moment, we learn to say goodbye gracefully instead of being nostalgic for the past.
This turn is not an escape, but a form of respect for self and others. It allows us to move forward with gratitude for the past and anticipation for the future.
04 Calm: Every journey is worth cherishing
In the long river of life, everyone is moving forward on their own journey. One of the most precious takeaways from this journey is learning to be open to every encounter and parting.
This calmness is not only a relief of the past, but also an expectation of the future. It is the embodiment of a deep understanding of life and a symbol of maturity and wisdom.
"You know, I've learned to appreciate every experience, whether it's good or bad. "At a party, my friend Xiaohua said to me with deep feelings.
I nodded in agreement, my heart filled with resonance. Every experience, regardless of its outcome, is an integral part of our growth path.
Being calm means that we no longer dwell on the failures and regrets of the past. We accept our own imperfections, and we accept the imperfections of life.
Such an acceptance is not a negative compromise, but a positive attitude, an affirmation of the continuous progress of life. We learn to learn from every failure and draw strength from every experience.
This calmness is also reflected in our attitude towards the future. We no longer hesitate for fear of the unknown, and we no longer dare to move forward for fear of losing.
On the contrary, with curiosity and enthusiasm for life, we bravely take new steps, meet new challenges, and explore the unknown world. As Xiaohua said: "Every parting is for a better encounter." ”
Being calm also means that we learn to appreciate what is in front of us. We know that time is the most precious resource, so we don't waste time on unnecessary entanglements and regrets.
We begin to appreciate the time we spend with our family, friends and loved ones, and we are more aware of our feelings and needs. Every minute and every second of life is precious.