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I have been married to my husband for more than 10 years and have been living with my parents-in-law. My father-in-law is a gentle old man with a good temper and never cares about my mother-in-law. The mother-in-law has a strong personality and often makes trouble unreasonably, but her father-in-law can endure it and never sees her in general.
The other day, my mother-in-law lost her temper again, and my husband and I were present. She shouted at her 75-year-old father-in-law: "I said I want you to accompany me to the river to fish, but you are busy making your flowers and trees all day long, leaving me, an old woman, aside! Let me tell you, you have no responsibility as a son, and you can't even help your own mother at all! What is the use of having a son like you!"
I really couldn't stand it, so I opened my mouth to stop: "Mom, my father-in-law is old and his health is not very good, so don't embarrass him." It's hot now, how dangerous it is for you to go to the river alone!"
As soon as my mother-in-law heard that someone was helping, she became angry, turned her head and scolded me: "Wang Lu, you are just uneducated, and you are unforgiving when you see that I am old!
I also want to explain that my mother-in-law has complained loudly to my husband: "Li Lei, look at your wife, she is simply untutored!" I was still counting on you, the only child, but you came back after marrying such a lowly woman! Let me tell you, you can't always listen to your wife in the future, and you have to put me, the old mother who gave birth to you and raised you, in the first place!"
The mother-in-law glared at her father-in-law, and her face was still angry: "Li Guoqiang, what do you mean? It's still so useless when you're so old, you don't even help me run for a small favor, and I can only think for myself as an old woman! And help say good things about your son, so you are not afraid that they will bully you!"
The father-in-law was still calm, and persuaded gently: "Wife, I know that you have good intentions, but I can't do whatever I want with this old bone." When the fruit on the tree is ripe, it will soon fall, and I must harvest it quickly. As for sons and daughters-in-law, they may be a little straight in their words, but if they have no malicious intent, don't take it to heart. It's so hot and easy to get hot, can we buy some watermelons and go home?"
My eyes widened in surprise. A wife of more than 50 years, my father-in-law understands her mother-in-law's temperament so well, and he can persuade her so gently. I looked back at my husband, and he was surprised. After listening to her father-in-law's words, the momentum on her face weakened significantly, and she stopped talking, but just "hummed" and entered the house.
I breathed a sigh of relief and said to my father-in-law, "Dad, you're right, Mom is old, we should be considerate of her." I was too reckless to talk back to my mother. Don't mind, I'm going to sit with my mom for a while. ”
The father-in-law smiled heartily: "Good boy, go ahead, your mother values the three of you the most." I'll go buy some melons and fruits later, and it's best to have some sweets on a hot day. ”
I couldn't help but smile as I looked at his kind smiling face. My mother-in-law was so fierce just now, and my father-in-law could melt her anger with warmth, and she really deserved to be my husband's father.
When I walked into the house, my mother-in-law was sitting sullenly on the couch, not saying a word. I stepped forward and brought a glass of warm water over, and said softly, "Mom, you drink saliva to dissipate your anger." I shouldn't have contradicted you just now, and please don't mind, adult. ”
My mother-in-law gave me a blank look, didn't catch the water and didn't speak. I had no choice but to sit next to her and find a topic to divert her attention: "Mom, look at this weather, it's really hot." Why don't I make some lotus seed soup and tofu flavor to cool off in a while? ”
"Phew!" My mother-in-law glared at me as if she had heard something terrible, "I don't understand, how can you be so sensible when you want to please me, why are you so indebted just now!
I was speechless and had to continue to make her happy. I don't know how long later, my father-in-law came back with a bag of fruit. He smiled and said to his mother-in-law: "Wife, you see I bought you your favorite white rabbit toffee! I will take you fishing in two days as an apology, and you must not be angry with me." ”
The mother-in-law was relieved, and she grabbed the toffee and began to feast. My father-in-law and I looked at each other and laughed. After so many years, my father-in-law still understands his wife's temper so well, and he can make her happy with toffee. Much more sensible than my daughter-in-law!
In the evening, I cooked a few home-cooked dishes, and specially stewed a bowl of fish head soup for my mother-in-law to replenish her body. My mother-in-law drank the soup, and her face looked much more ruddy, which can be regarded as agreeing with my sincerity and filial piety. I breathed a sigh of relief that the turmoil was finally over.
A few days later, my father-in-law took my mother-in-law to the river to fish as promised. I asked my husband to drive them there, and I also specially prepared a sunscreen hat, umbrella and cold drinks. My mother-in-law seemed to be in a good mood, and when she left, she smiled and said to me: "Daughter-in-law, don't fight your husband and wife." There's something to discuss, and your dad and I are counting on you to take care of us in our old age!"
I hurriedly came down: "Don't worry, Mom, my husband and I have a good relationship, you and Dad are living treasures in us, we must be filial to you to old age!" The mother-in-law got into the car satisfied.
The mother-in-law seemed to have a good time that day and came back with a lot of fish. She had a good temper for several days in a row and didn't go crazy again. My father-in-law and I were relieved and gradually put her angry scolding behind us.
After another week, my father-in-law suddenly fainted and fell to the place where the flowers were watering! My husband and I were startled and rushed him to the hospital. The doctor diagnosed my father-in-law with a cerebral hemorrhage and had to undergo surgery immediately! My husband and I were very nervous, for fear that if something went wrong! My mother-in-law burst into tears like never before, and she cried like tears and said bitterly: "Husband, you must hold on! We have been married for more than 50 years, and you can't leave me alone!!"
I couldn't help but burst into tears when I saw my mother-in-law's heartbroken look. My father-in-law was sick and lay in the hospital for half a month, and our whole family watched over him day and night. Finally, when his condition stabilized, everyone breathed a sigh of relief. I looked at my father-in-law lying on the hospital bed, and my heart was mixed.
More than a month passed, and my father-in-law was finally able to be discharged from the hospital. But the doctor said that he could not do heavy work in the future and that he had to recuperate. My husband and I discussed hiring a nurse to teach her to take care of her father-in-law's daily life and diet. The mother-in-law stayed by her father-in-law's side all day, her eyes full of worry.
I also started to pay attention to my father-in-law's condition. In the past, I always thought that he was physically tough and had a good complexion, but I didn't expect him to become like this overnight! Life is really frighteningly fragile, and I can't help but sigh for it.
After my father-in-law was discharged from the hospital, my husband and I discussed moving his bedroom to the first floor to make it easier to take care of. During the day, the nurse would come to cook the three meals, and my mother-in-law and I would take turns chatting with him or reading the newspaper. My father-in-law lay in bed all day long, not as calm as before. I don't feel good.
One day, my father-in-law suddenly said to me: "Daughter-in-law, I have lived all my life, but I didn't expect that my old age would drag you down." In the future, you and your mother-in-law will definitely quarrel back and forth, so when the time comes, you can go with her, don't be like an old woman. ”
I hurriedly said, "Dad, what are you talking about! It's enough that you're sick and hard, and we should be filial to you and your mother." Your rest assured that recuperation is our greatest concern!"
I had red eyes and choked up, "Dad, don't say that!" Your body has just improved, and you will be with us for many days in the future!"
The father-in-law smiled slightly and did not answer again. I couldn't calm down for a long time. At night, when I remembered my father-in-law's words during the day, I said to my husband with red eyes: "Your father, do you think you won't live long?"
After a while, a miracle happened! My father-in-law's health seemed to be improving, and the results of the examination showed that his physical function was slowly recovering. My husband and I breathed a sigh of relief and thanked God for blessing. The mother-in-law was even more happy, and she was busy taking care of her father-in-law all day long, for fear that his health would deteriorate again.
In this way, under our careful care, my father-in-law's body has basically fully recovered after half a year! Although I still asked the nurse to come over regularly to check his physical signs, he was already able to get out of bed and move, and even move his muscles and bones in the yard! I looked at his figure of watering flowers and weeding, and I was so happy that I burst into tears.
After that year, my mother-in-law and I slowly got along. We are aware of the impermanence of life, and the most important thing is to cherish the people in front of us. No longer bothered about trivial matters, and my mother-in-law's temper gradually improved a lot.
After another two years, I gave birth to a big fat boy. The mother-in-law was so happy that she walked around with her grandson in her arms all day, for fear that he would be hungry or uncomfortable. My father-in-law also laughed and made his grandson happy, and picked all the fruits we planted that year and boiled juice for the baby's body. The family is happy.
However, the good times did not last long, and at this moment, my father-in-law's health problems appeared again! He began to have nightmares, saying that he saw his old friend coming to him, and often talked nonsense. My mother-in-law and I were all frightened, and after repeated examinations, the doctor confirmed that my father-in-law had Alzheimer's!
"No, my husband is the smartest, how can he get this disease!" The mother-in-law was so heartbroken that she cried so much that she couldn't even speak. My husband and I looked at each other, and we didn't know what to do! My mother-in-law stayed in front of my father-in-law's bed all day, and her eyes were swollen from crying. I was so distressed that I could only make a meal to coax her to eat more.
After another half a year, my father-in-law's illness worsened, and he couldn't even recognize who he was. Sometimes in the middle of the night, she would suddenly shout and scream, scaring her mother-in-law into her soul. The illness afflicted our closest elders, and my mother-in-law and I were in agony.
Finally, one day, my father-in-law passed away peacefully in his sleep, and there was no more pain. He walked peacefully, like a sleeping baby. Before he died, he recognized his mother-in-law and me, nodded slightly, and closed his eyes like this. We all wept bitterly as we saw him off on his last journey.
My father-in-law's funeral was very simple, with some old friends and neighbors. Our whole family couldn't cry, especially my mother-in-law, who cried bitterly and hugged her father-in-law's last photo, called out her husband's name, and told him not to leave him alone. I looked at my mother-in-law's grief-stricken appearance, my heart was like a knife, and I couldn't stop my tears.
After the funeral, my husband and I discussed taking care of my mother-in-law wholeheartedly, for fear that she would have any accidents. During the day, I took the baby back to my parents' house to live, and at night I asked my husband to drive us back to accompany my mother-in-law. We tried to make my mother-in-law happy, but she burst into tears all day long, and she couldn't coax her.
After a while, my mother-in-law's mood finally improved. She began to learn to live on her own and to tease her grandson. Occasionally, he chatted with us about his father-in-law's various interesting stories at night, and his tone was full of nostalgia. My husband and I listened and laughed from time to time. My mother-in-law did have fewer thorns on her body, and she gradually became closer to us and would come forward to resolve them when we quarreled. I looked at her kind appearance and understood that she was actually a very family-loving person.
I often think of my father-in-law, and I think of the misunderstanding I had about him when we first met. What kind of legacy can a person leave behind in this life? It is not money and wealth, but his warm and tolerant mind. This spirit has been passed down from generation to generation, infecting each and every one of us. Nowadays, whenever I have a small quarrel with my mother-in-law, I think of my father-in-law's appearance, learn from his gentleness, and learn from his tolerance.
One winter, I went to sweep the grave and burn paper as usual. Standing in front of the cemetery, I burst into tears. Over the years, her mother-in-law has slowly become what her father-in-law looked like, she has learned to tolerate and warm everyone. I know that this is the most precious spiritual legacy left by my father-in-law in the world.
People start from nothing in their lives, and they will eventually return from something to nothing. But the beauty of love and tolerance has been passed down from generation to generation. I want my father-in-law's great love to flow, and this warmth will go up and down like sunshine for eternity!
In the years following my father-in-law's death, I grew into the backbone of the family. My mother-in-law is getting older, and my husband and I have more responsibilities to take care of the family.
My mother-in-law's health deteriorated, and I couldn't rest assured, so I hired a nurse to stay at home for a long time. Once, my mother-in-law suddenly had a high fever that did not go away, and we rushed her to the hospital. Doctors diagnosed her with pneumonia and had to be hospitalized. My husband and I were so anxious that we stayed in the ward day and night to take care of my mother-in-law's daily life.
I red-eyed, held my mother-in-law's hand and said, "Mom, you are our elder, and now you need us to take care of you!" You will definitely recover!"
I asked my husband to take the children home to rest, and I stayed with my mother-in-law in the hospital. She began to talk about her father-in-law frequently, and her eyes were full of nostalgia. I was so sad that I could only comfort her softly and let her recuperate at ease.
After more than a month of treatment, my mother-in-law's condition finally improved and she was successfully discharged from the hospital. We breathe a sigh of relief and thank God for His favor. Since then, I have paid more attention to my mother-in-law's daily life and diet, strictly controlled her daily routine, and took her to the hospital every week for physical check-ups.
In the blink of an eye, another decade has passed. My mother-in-law is 90 years old and her health is deteriorating. Her memory loss was severe, she often couldn't recognize who we were, and she was confused all day long. My husband and I discussed moving in with the whole family so that we could take care of my mother-in-law's daily life.
My mother-in-law has become more and more docile in recent years, and sometimes she will suddenly smile and call me "daughter-in-law", with a bit of kindness in her eyes. I know that this is what she remembers me, and remembers the care I have taken care of her over the years. Every now and then, I would hold my mother-in-law's thin hand tightly, and tears would fall silently.
Then one winter morning, we found out that my mother-in-law had passed away in her sleep. She walked peacefully, just like her father-in-law that year, with a faint smile on her face.
My mother-in-law reflected in the morning sun, I remember that was the last time I saw her. She curled up in the quilt, smiling like a sleeping baby.
Seeing off my mother-in-law, my husband and I moved to the suburbs. We bought a house there and planted the flowers and trees that my mother-in-law and father-in-law loved during their lifetimes.
Every Qingming Festival and Lantern Festival, we will take our grandchildren back to our hometown to sweep their tombs and burn incense. Standing in front of the graves of the two elders, I would tell the children about their deeds.
"Grandma had a bad temper when she was alive, but she actually loved this family very much. You must remember that the reason why people are vexatious is because of their inner weakness and loneliness. "So we have to learn to be tolerant and learn to understand." This is the greatest gift of your grandfather's life. ”
"Mom, that grandfather must be a great person!" The eldest granddaughter looked at me solemnly.
I nodded, tears streaming down my face: "Yes, my grandfather has gently influenced each of us with his life. Therefore, his spirit lives forever in our hearts. ”
Years later, my wife and I are gray-haired. Children and grandchildren will often go home to visit, and the joyful scene often reminds me of the old couple before their deaths.
I would drag them to read books and play chess in the courtyard, and the family enjoyed themselves. Sitting on the swing and looking at the grand scenery of the courtyard, I can't help but feel the joys and sorrows of life. Neighborhood children also come here to play and make it their own. I often laugh at them like the eldest grandson of the year.
As the sun set, I sat alone under the old ginger tree. The breeze is gentle and the leaves rustle. This is my husband's favorite place to sit before his death, and he said that he can see the most beautiful sunset here.
Looking at the colorful glow in the sky, I finally understood the greatness of my parents' love. After going through ups and downs, their watchful eyes revealed the vicissitudes of a thousand sails, as well as the tenacious and uncrazy love.
The deepest friendship in this world is the bond between relatives. Blowing away the wild sand, walking through thorns; The past is precipitated into that wisp of warmth at the end of time. This love is deeper than the mountains and the sea, and it will not let go until the last moment of life.
Sitting in the sunset, I seemed to see the old couple standing side by side. They smiled and waved at me, looking so radiant that they were no longer in their prime.
I squinted my eyes and tears rolled down my face, leaving a long mark on my face.