In the New Year, Uncle Qian continued the festival and wrote two warm articles.
"First Principles Look at Giving Birth to Babies: Either You Don't Give Birth, or You Give Birth to Four or Five, and the Rest Is Not Clear"
"First Principles Look at Parenting: Don't Look Cute When You Were Young, You Are White-Eyed Wolves When You Grow Up"
After reading this article, new readers feel a little interesting, you can pull back and read the first 2 again.
Many readers read these two articles and asked me to talk about and.
Uncle Qian's articles are often regarded as anti-female boxing, but in fact, Uncle Qian in life is a friend of women and the love of children. Last month, I wrote a paid article "The Truth of Marriage Lessons for Parents and Children to Read" to defend and give advice to the older leftover girl Zhang Mu, and the friends who read it may have a better impression of Uncle Qian.
This article does not stand on gender. For the sake of narrative convenience, Uncle Qian will write from a male perspective, after all, nearly 80% of fans are men. Swap the gender in the text, and it will be the same.
Note the bold text in the verdict: The defendant and the victim have not registered their marriage with the civil affairs department. The engagement of the parties is a folk Xi and is not a legally registered marriage.
Uncle Qian doesn't understand the law, but he believes in the law. Due to the huge impact of this case on the Internet, the Yanggao County People's Court must be extremely cautious when making a judgment, and will consult internally in full accordance with the law, and at the same time, most of them will consult legal experts and higher courts. This verdict must be legally sound.
In this criminal case of rape, the court's position is that it is officially recognized > civil Xi. In other cases, the marriage is recognized as a de facto marriage without being registered with the civil affairs department, and enjoys the same rights as a legal marriage in terms of property division, which is subject to the official certification of civil Xi customs >.
Looking at the contrast between the two, you should be able to feel that the marriage law does not protect either the man nor the woman, and in judicial practice, its role is more reflected in the division of property and the protection of child support.
Mr. Chen, a party to the Jiangxi case, has now become the worst wrongdoer in the country.
Not only does he like to be a father and raise a baby for others for 16 years, the key is that his wife Yu doesn't feel indebted to him at all, and his mother-in-law is also very unkind to him, and Wu, a suspected rival in love, also retaliated against him with high-powered firecrackers, and even his 16-year-old daughter came out to accuse him of failing to fulfill his fatherly responsibilities...... It's just a grievance that my mother opened the door ridiculously - the grievance has come home!
On December 28, the case was heard for the first time and lasted a full day. In the morning, divorce disputes will be heard, and in the afternoon, personality rights disputes against "third parties" will be heard. In addition to pursuing the criminal liability of his wife Yu for "fraudulent support", Mr. Chen's litigation demands also include: compensation for moral damages, return of child support, division of joint property between husband and wife, and disposal of joint debts.
Legal issues are analyzed by experts. What Uncle Qian saw was an extremely unbalanced marriage and an extremely wronged man. The suffering he suffers today has been hinted at at the beginning of his marriage. His wife was pregnant with her eldest daughter before marrying him, and he was a big truck driver, who was away for many years and rarely spent time with his wife and children.
In other words, what Mr. Chen has gotten in the past 16 years is an empty shell marriage.
The goods purchased online have been put for 16 days, and they are empty when they are unpacked.
Mr. Chen's 16-year shell marriage, even if it goes to court, it is likely that it will be difficult to achieve "refund only". The people's court divides the joint property in a divorce dispute and makes a judgment in accordance with the principle of taking care of the rights and interests of the children, the woman and the innocent party. The woman has no income and has to bring 4 babies, so there is definitely no way to compensate, and the court award cannot be enforced.
Therefore, the strategy of Mr. Chen and the lawyer was to find a third party to claim compensation, but they only knew that the biological father of the fourth baby was Wu, and Mr. Chen had not raised the fourth baby, so it was difficult to find Wu to claim compensation. As long as his wife Yu does not cooperate, the biological father of the first 3 babies will most likely be a mystery. Mr. Chen's big injustice is probably about to come to an end.
Uncle Qian gave him an idea, and after the dust of the lawsuit settled, he brought the goods live broadcast, hurried to make money, remarried a wife, and fought to have a blood child. (Wife Yu mocked: I have been with him for more than ten years, why can't he give birth?)
The majority of low-level men watched these two cases, and their hearts were cold.
In order to get married, I should lick the dog, pay the bride price, buy hardware, and add a name to the real estate; but the marriage law does not protect love, sex, blood, and the marriage itself; when the bride price is not returned, the real estate must be divided, and the baby belongs to the other party; even if the other party cheats, has an illegitimate child, or regrets the marriage, the property division must take care of the other party.
Excuse me: Can this marriage still be consummated?
More and more boys are "waking up" and starting to rebel in their own way against unfair marriages for men. Some people take the bride price to see the world, and more people don't fall in love or get married, and there is still 5,000 yuan left to spend a month.
There are always more solutions than problems. There are at least three solutions to any problem: resignation, flight, and revolution.
Uncle Qian was sent by God to save the hard-pressed men, and at the same time, he is a person who respects women very much, so my advice to the boys is: trade honestly and don't deceive yourself.
Since the marriage law does not protect love, sex, or blood, it is only about child support and property distribution, so the meaning of marriage is about the same as doing business in partnership. All you think about is beautiful, and sooner or later it will cost you money.
There are three main questions about honest trading: what do I have, what do I want, and what am I willing to give up?
Take the initiative to explain it to the other person, and then take a moment to slowly guide the other person to explain her clearly.
Transactions must be voluntary, transactions must be equal, and transactions must be mutually beneficial. Such a consensual marriage, until the conditions change radically, will be stable and reliable, and will be able to guarantee love, sex, and blood.
Don't expect to trade your own 50 yuan for someone else's 100 yuan. It's useless to wear out the skin of your mouth.
Either you take out a mortgage loan, a down payment of 50, a mortgage of 50, and go to the other party's 100 yuan transaction. The loan requires collateral and proof of repayment ability, and you have to provide it honestly. Before the loan is repaid, the debtor's self-cultivation must be in place, the right to be transferred must be transferred, and the emotional value that should be provided must be provided.
There is a hidden danger in mortgage marriage, that is, after the loan is settled with principal and interest, when the debtor recovers the collateral, it is an endless bloody battle, and it is facing the moral judgment of modern Chen Shimei.
Either the other party keeps a hand, and you like to be a father.
Either get out and make money!
People talk about fate, and those who have fate and no fate will stay in their hearts as white moonlight. Moving forward, when you prove your abilities with money, there will be suitable people to appear.
Lang Qing concubine entered into marriage, and the prince and princess lived happily ever after, which was a fairy tale and was a lie. In real life, marriage is a painful period of mutual adaptation that has just begun.
Two men and women from different families, even if their concepts and values are similar, their life Xi habits will be very different, and their attitudes towards their original families and birth and education will be different.
The dispute settlement mechanism relies on long-term mutual games.
Interestingly, while marriage laws do not protect love, sex, and kinship, they are very tolerant of violent marital conflicts. The beating broke the head and bleed, and the police only mediated, usually persuading the man to be generous, at most he reprimanded him without pain. (I heard from the fellow who worked in the Public Security Bureau that more than seventy percent of the domestic violence police in Wuhan were women, who did it first and then called the police.) Don't know how it is in other cities?)
Officials are cautious about intervening in family conflicts. They expect couples to be able to form their own dispute resolution mechanisms through games. If the self-game is inconclusive for a long time, the doors of the Civil Affairs Bureau and the court are wide open.
After all, the justice system suffered from this decades ago. No matter how much is caught, the derailment will not be caught, and many people will be shot and killed for hooliganism, but it will not have the effect of setting an example.
Strict control of the little things in the crotch of the pants does not make the whole society more civilized, and it seems to be counterproductive, stirring up other dregs and mud.
Marriage does not protect love, sex, or blood, although it is quite helpless, but it is an improvement that adapts to the development of the times. For everyone, there is a cost, there is a benefit, some people are the price, and some people are the benefit. For society as a whole, it is progress, and freedom in general increases.
A mature person should not place his hopes on the law for the protection of love, sex, and blood, nor on anyone's promises. If he cares, he should be responsible for these things himself.
The law cannot solve all the problems of life, and the state cannot be responsible for all the requirements of everyone for happiness.
Now you look back and think about the words of Yu, the wife of the Jiangxi case:
"I don't think I'm cheating, for more than ten years, my daughter has been calling him daddy...... Is blood so important?"
Such strong words are exactly the same as Ma Rong's rhetoric back then.
There are no thieves in the world, thieves shout to catch thieves! I am loyal to my marriage!
After thinking about it, there is really a point or two of truth in their words.
All things work together, and I look at it. A middle-aged woman who cheated on her in rural Jiangxi Province and gave birth to 4 children, if you really understand the words she blurted out, you can understand the first principle of marriage.
Heaven and earth are unkind, and all things are used as dogs. The saints are unkind, and they use the people as dogs. It should be viewed as such.
Extended reading: "The meaning of marriage is not the three meals in the RV and the quiet years as the People's Daily said"
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