I once made an important life choice, and that was when I was younger. I chose to marry someone I loved, away from my parents.
But as I've gotten older, I've come to discover that the happiest people are probably the ones who can really understand you, care about you, and will support you unconditionally when you need it.
As a child, I always felt that my mom was the greatest person. Every time I was sick, my mom was always the first to wake up to take care of me, even though she was already tired herself.
I turned around and looked at him with a slight smile, still tangled in my heart. No matter how I say it, I still love him.
"Wife, why are you standing here alone?" my husband's voice interrupted my thoughts.
I turned around and looked at him with a slight smile, still tangled in my heart. No matter how I say it, I still love him. However, the various contradictions and problems in this family make me a little unable to let go.
When I got home, my child was doing his homework in the living room, and when he saw us coming back, he immediately greeted us. He asked me, Mom, how are you doing today?.
I stroked his hair and smiled and said, "It's not bad." Then I asked him about his homework.
The child said very seriously, Mom, I don't seem to understand something, can you help me take a look?
I didn't answer at the time because I didn't think it was the time to discuss assignments. I suddenly wondered who he was thinking.
My husband looked at us and asked, "What's for dinner?" I felt a little tired in his tone, and it seemed that he had a hard time at work.
My heart softened and said, I'll cook, you can accompany the child to look at the homework.
The husband nodded, sat down on the sofa with the child, and began to tutor him.
I glanced at them and urged myself to go to dinner. But the contradiction in my heart became more and more intense.
When dinner was ready, our family sat around the table. The child looked at me and said, "Thank you, Mom."
I asked him, thank you for what I did?
The child smiled and said, thank you for making us good food every day, thank you for taking care of us, you are really amazing.
I looked at the child's smiling face, and the contradictions and dissatisfaction in my heart suddenly disappeared. This is probably the happiest moment, I thought.
The husband was stunned for a moment, and then showed a surprised expression. Then he patted me on the shoulder with a smile and told me that he appreciated my words.
As this conflict was resolved, I also felt a sense of relief in my heart. Perhaps, I have been looking for my own position, but this position is not passively accepted, but actively sought and strived for.
In this process, I found that my husband's eyes were more tender and caring, and I felt more and more that he was not a person who would only give silently, but someone who knew how to communicate and care for his family.
At the same time, I also noticed some amazing changes in my communication with my son. He used to be always reticent, but he also seemed to take the initiative to communicate with me about some school trivia and interesting things between friends.
I was caught in a difficult choice. I knew that the health of my parents was of paramount importance to them, and I was hesitant to go back and take care of them.
Now I am stuck in a difficult choice. {{"Mom, what are you hesitating about?"}}} A crisp voice interrupted my thoughts, and I looked up to see my son looking at me from afar, his expression full of worry and bewilderment.
{{"Mom, are you going back to take care of your grandparents? so we can't see you?"}} There was a hint of pleading in his voice.
I was silent. At this moment, I was also caught in a contradiction. I know that the health of my parents is very important to them, but I am reluctant to leave my family in front of me.
"Wang, what do you think is going on between us?" I asked suddenly.
He stopped, frowning. "What's wrong with us? We're husband and wife, what's the big deal?" he asked, puzzled.
"The big deal is that we haven't improved at all over the years. Our relationship is still so cold.
Even if it's a matter of work, you are always the same as an iron head, and you will not change.
He was silent for a while, "I'm just such a person, I'm not good at talking to love, and I'm not good at communicating with others.
I ignored his explanation and said even more angrily: "If you don't even make this effort to communicate with me, can our problem be solved?"
He sighed, "Maybe our personalities are too incompatible, but we've been together for so many years. Have you ever thought about our children?".
"Child? Do you think I don't care about children? I have done a lot for him. I retorted.
"I didn't say you don't care about children. But have you done what our family needs for the sake of your children?" his voice carried a hint of reproach.
I was so caught up in his words that I was speechless for a while. Our quarrel may not only be about the way of education, but the deeper issue may be our responsibility to our family and children.
Perhaps, I should have given more.
"I'm sorry, Wang, but I may not have done a good enough job in many areas. I bowed my head in acknowledgement.
He looked at me with a small smile on his face, "Maybe we all need to be more tolerant and understanding." Don't always feel like children need what we do, maybe we need to do it for them even more.
I silently followed him, with an indescribable feeling in my heart. Perhaps, our families do need more communication and understanding.
Perhaps, the truly happy people should be those who know how to share, understand and respect.