I am the only child in my family, and my parents love me very much. My father was a carpenter, hardworking and kind, and my mother was a virtuous housewife.
One day, I told my parents that I had met a girl who had caught my heart and wanted to marry her. My parents were very happy when they heard this, but at this moment, an unforeseen situation arose - the woman's father was a prominent outsider, and her father-in-law was strict, and he wanted his children to marry into a wealthy family, and he was not satisfied with me, an ordinary stonemason.
In order for me to marry this girl, my parents decided to meet the woman's parents. But my father-in-law refused, saying that his daughter would never marry a poor man like me, and that my family's conditions were not worthy of their daughter.
This incident was a huge blow to me, and my heart was full of helplessness and frustration. When I was in despair, I received an unexpected help - my lame donkey came to a stop in front of my father-in-law's house on his own.
I decided to use my own hands to build a pair of beautifully carved donkeys in wood for my father-in-law. When my father found out about my plans, he immediately helped me prepare wood and tools, and personally instructed me in the process of making a donkey carved in wood.
"These carved wooden donkeys are worth more than real donkeys!" said my father with a smile.
I sent the woodcarved donkey to the woman's house, and my father-in-law saw the pair of woodcarved donkeys, his eyes lit up, and he greatly appreciated the craftsmanship and intentions of my family.
Soon after, I tied the knot with the girl I loved and started my married life. Although life is still simple, we are full of confidence and hope for the future.
My father-in-law has always been cold to me, as if I didn't deserve his daughter at all.
I knew very well that my father-in-law was so me because I was just an ordinary stonemason and could not meet his requirements.
My wife always smiled and said to me, "Whether we are rich or poor, the happiness of life depends on our love and support for each other."
However, an unexpected event changed my fate. My father was injured at work and needed a lot of medical bills, and I didn't have enough money on hand.
He helped my father's medical bills, which surprised and thanked me.
This incident made me feel the impermanence of life and the importance of family affection, and also made me re-examine the conflict with my father-in-law.
Perhaps, through this incident, the contradictions between us can be alleviated somewhat, but I am not sure what challenges and difficulties will arise in the future.
Just when I thought everything was going to get better, a new contradiction arose. Soon after I got married, I found out that my father-in-law was not happy with me and was always picky about everything about me, especially my craft and family background.
At the same time, my mother-in-law was not very kind to me, she felt that my family's living conditions could not keep up with her daughter's standards, and she kept nagging my wife, which made my wife feel very annoyed.
These questions make me feel very frustrated. I try to make myself work hard, I want to change their perception of me, I hope that my efforts will be recognized.
I understand that family disputes in the family need more communication and understanding, but I don't know where to start.
Maybe I need to think about it and find a way to solve family conflicts. Even in the process, maybe I will learn more wisdom in life.
When my beloved wife and I left my father-in-law's house and returned to my house holding hands, I felt extremely happy.
My wife has been persuading me, and she said, "My dear, although your craftsmanship is not as strong as Mingqiang, it is created by your heart and talent, don't shake yourself because of the success of others."
However, I became skeptical of my own skills and no longer carved wood with the same eye as I used to.
Seeing this, my father couldn't help but say to me, "Son, don't be discouraged in the face of challenges. Everyone has their own shining point, you just have to find your skills.
When I showed my work to my father, he nodded with satisfaction, "This is our family's family craft, which is unique and unmatched by others."
This time, I didn't fight against Ming Qiang again, because I had already defeated myself in my heart. As my father said, everyone has their own shining point, and I have found my own light.
The controversy around me faded away, and in my place was a closer relationship between me and my family, as we all strive for our own happiness.