<<——Preamble——>>
Father's love is like a mountain, but now thousands of people cry "don't marry my father", truly expressing their hatred and dissatisfaction with their father, hating dad culture leads the trend of the times, which makes people resonate, and it seems that reality has really become the status quo of hating dad.
If you could give us a chance to turn back the clock, what would you say to your 18-year-old mom?
I think we all have a lot of words that are hidden deep in our hearts that we can't say.
Looking at her wrinkled mother, who has been ravaged by the years, and always endures the hardships of life to forge ahead, perhaps behind the scars covered up are endless sadness and endless tears. We always miss the words, leaving one regret after another......
<< · - From Patriarchy to Emotional Appeal - >>
The ancients said: "Women have three righteousness, and there is no special way." Therefore, if you do not marry your father, you will marry your husband, and your husband will die from your son. ”
From ancient China until before liberation, girls had no right to speak. The germ of the culture of hating dads did not appear suddenly, it was a witness to historical and social changes.
In the previous patriarchal system, the sovereignty of the family was held by the father alone, and the father also decided the shortcomings of the family.
However, with the continuous progress of social development, people's thinking is no longer backward, after all, backwardness will be beaten, people's ideological concepts have undergone unprecedented changes, whether it is the establishment of equality in family status or the emotional foundation of parent-child relationship, have actively emerged.
For young people in the new era, the expectation of marriage is no longer to fix themselves by a role, and they are not only satisfied with sufficient material security, they pay more attention to the need for love to go both ways, and he wants to be responded to everything he gives.
The culture of hating fathers is a clear expression of their father's authority, and more and more young people have pain in their hearts, and they all want to be respected and loved by themselves at home.
I accidentally swiped a street interview video, a simple video turned out to be all over the Internet, I thought this must not be simple. I clicked into the video and started watching, the host interviewed pedestrians on the road, and when she asked a little girl, her thoughts instantly broke down.
She asked the girl: If you could turn back time, what would you say to your young and beautiful mother when she was 18 years old?
The girl's answers were very different from those of the others, who wished their mothers good health and eternity, but the girl's answers resonated with everyone and seemed to speak to the current state of modern society.
She said: I want to say to my mother that if you can turn back time, you must polish your beautiful eyes and don't marry my dad. There is so much endless sadness in this simple answer, which also makes many netizens instantly break their defenses, and their noses are sour and have an indescribable taste......
is not only revealing the true feelings on the Internet, but also showing that the father is like the culprit who is very unlucky in the original family, but also becoming one of the literary arts in the new era.
<< -- The crisis brought about by social change -- >>
After watching "Hello, Li Huanying", Jia Xiaoling cried and said to her mother after reviewing her mother Li Huanying's life: "You will have a daughter in the future, who will be the first in her grade all year round, and will study in college in the United States when she grows up, and work in Hollywood after graduation, with a monthly salary of 80,000 yuan." ”
But Li Huanying replied: "My daughter, I just want her to be healthy and happy." This plot moved many viewers to tears, and it also indirectly reflected the crisis brought about by the "daddy culture" in modern society.
In the film, her father Jia Wentian is an ordinary worker who has no great achievements, but he loves his daughter very much. He will work hard for his daughter's dreams and give her encouragement and support when she is in trouble.
There is no harm if there is no comparison, Jia Xiaoling's mother Li Huanying is a very capable person, she was an excellent volleyball player when she was young, and later became a factory director.
But she didn't neglect her family because of her achievements, on the contrary, she put more of her time and energy into taking care of her daughter.
The storyline may be a portrayal of real life. Jia Xiaoling hopes to make her mother live a better life through her own efforts, but she ignores what her mother really wants.
The mother doesn't care if her daughter is promising, nor does she care if her life is rich, she just hopes that her daughter can grow up healthy and happy.
They are using themselves to tell us that an excellent person can do well in all aspects, not that only to improve a better self can give the family and children the life they want, to consider in many aspects, maybe what they want is very simple, the family shares three meals together, go out to play together on the weekend, and talk to your parents in your spare time, this is the comfortable life that many people let you like.
<< - care about the emotional communication of parents - >>
The words and deeds of parents are the beacon of children's growth, the care of family members is the hotbed of children's growth, and the harmony of the family is the driving force for children's growth.
Many people are facing the current situation of life, the pressure of children's school Xi is increasing, and the management of the boarding system also makes the communication between children and parents very little, and the long-term suppression of emotions and the pressure of school Xi will really make children depressed, lose confidence, and even depression.
Children rarely communicate with their parents, in part because they are too busy with work to communicate with their children, but most families are faced with:
Parents want to comfort and encourage their children, but they are full of love but do not know how to express it in words, which leads to the children not communicating with their parents in the bedroom when they get home.
No matter what the reason, the growth of children must not lack the love of father and mother, we should take time to spend more time with children, and do not let only one childhood leave regrets.
Parents can talk to their children about what is happening in school after school, and care about the emotional communication between parents, which can not only promote the intimate relationship between family members, but also make children feel that they are being loved, and children who have a good relationship with their parents are more likely to become a confident and independent person, and it is easier to face all the difficulties on the road of life, because parents are the guiding lights on their way forward.
However, caring about the emotional communication of parents is not an easy task. In real life, due to the great differences in age, aesthetics, and thinking between parents and their children, there is often a life situation in which no three sentences start to quarrel.
Nevertheless, parents should also be aware of the importance of emotional communication and take the initiative to communicate and communicate with their children. Parents can build a good parent-child relationship by listening to their children's thoughts and feelings, paying attention to their lives and Xi, and giving them enough love and support.
Children should not always avoid their parents, and they should actively participate in emotional communication if they do not understand that there is nothing to say.
Children can slowly try to learn to promote understanding and trust between parents and children by actively sharing their life experiences and feelings with their parents, expressing their needs and expectations, and respecting their parents' opinions and decisions.
<<·——Conclusion——·>>
In our modern life, we should promote a healthy, equal and harmonious family culture, so that children can grow up in a warm, caring and respectful environment.
Fathers should spend more time with their children, communicate with them, understand their needs and ideas, and give them enough love and support.
At the same time, we should also educate our children to respect and understand their parents, and let them know their parents' hard work and dedication. A healthy and harmonious family relationship can only be established on the basis of mutual respect, understanding and support.
Finally, we hope that every child can have a happy and healthy family, and every father can be a role model and friend for his children to create a better future together.